I'm not keen on it either. I think fb is for people I actually know and have a friendship or history with..not just someone random I might have a coffee date with. Its too personal. If she can't understand that I'd say maybe not the right person for you.

I'm 2-0 on facebook, both were good relationships while they lasted too. I think for the woman having some form of connection (like your friend) makes it easier on them. I'd give it a try if I were you.

My gf and I waited about a month. I don't hold FB to some higher place, it's just Facebook. If I don't want everyone to know, I don't post. Pretty simple as that. That said, we're friends on FB, but not listed as in a relationship.

My gf and I waited about a month. I don't hold FB to some higher place, it's just Facebook. If I don't want everyone to know, I don't post. Pretty simple as that. That said, we're friends on FB, but not listed as in a relationship.

True. It's just FB. I just hope she doesn't end up a stage 5 clinger.

Well, you can limit what she sees, etc. Learn your privacy settings.

My rule of thumb is no to Facebook with a potential date, or too early at least.
It dissipates the mystery and is likely to put you at a disadvantage (compared to before adding the person to FB).

As some one says it is just FB..I have alot of work people on my fb so I'm careful not to post anything too crazy..BUT I have nosy friends who'll see who I add. And right now I would not want to answer any questions about who is that..I don't know that guy ect. I want a private life until I'm willing to go public lol..not that I'm dating anyone but in the past it became an issue.

I wouldnt be that keen to do it I dont think... As Floz said you lose your mystery, they can stalk all your shiz! They might find out more about you than your willing to give away at the time!

Interesting. I have been dating a new guy for a couple of weeks now and last night he brought up if I usually add guys I'm dating as a FB friend and what is my feeling? Well, usually I don't right away but I am feeling a very strong interest in this guy (and I think he likes me a lot too), so I said yes and sent him a request this morning.

I'm not too worried about it and actually think it was a good sign that he is very interested in my life and wants me to have "access" to his!

I guess just go with your gut.
In the OP's case though, I wouldn't friend anyone I haven't even been on a date with. That's way different......

Too soon for her to expect to be friends on Facebook. She's still a stranger and has no business meddling around in your personal life or the lives of your friends. If she can't understand that, she's probably very clingy, needy, and untrusting ... the trifecta of crazy chick symptoms.

Eh, what's the harm? I wouldn't add the relationship to FB, but I don't mind adding the person I'm dating as a friend. There's nothing on FB to see, anyway. I'm pretty low key.

Since the topic has been breached, I don't understand the obsession with "mystery"... my life's an open book to anyone who would care to read it. I live my life to my own high standards, and if you don't like it, you don't have to be a part of it.

That said, I did go 'private' with all of the sex questions on OKC. They were giving guys the wrong idea. I may be freaky-kinky, but I'm not an EASY freak.

I had a guy add me on facebook a few days after we started texting...I was kind of put off by it at first but I actually liked it better because I could see the way he interacted with other people/family/etc. We actually just went out (8 or 9 months later because of certain circumstances) and I feel like I know him a little better because we were friends on facebook...odd I know. But all in all it went well and we're going on date number 3!

I think FB is a great way for someone to get to know me quickly. But I make it clear that I keep a fairly short list of people on there and am quicker to delete someone than I am to add them.

Facebook isn't that important to me. I only use it as a place to store pictures really. SL doesn't even have a FB and I haven't changed my status to "in a relationship" because I'm kind of personal about what I post on there. Too many nosey people from work that would have too much fun gossiping. Too much emphasis is placed on Facebook, it's kind of stupid really.

But I'd also get to see what she's up to. Like maybe she's obsessed with babies or devil worshiping or something else I'd want to know before I went out with her.

This is the best part! Seriously though, I use FB a lot but do think it's dangerous in the dating scheme. I felt much closer to someone once because I knew so much about him through FB! It was a wake up to realize I was reading about him more than he was sharing.

And now I need to go clean up my obsessive FB pages from viewing...:embarassed: :laugh:

I also have something else to add. If you're hesitating to add her ask yourself why. Are you getting a weird vibe? Or is it something else? I personally feel like if I was just starting to talk to someone that I know through a friend and I got a good vibe I wouldn't hesitate adding him. It's not like you met on a dating site and she could be crazy - if your friend introduced her she's probably not too creepy lol.

But on the otherhand: one of my best friends set me up with a guy and she said "you have a lot in common but dont prejudge him on FB." we talked a little over text without me searching him and when we went out it made for a good convo because I didn't creep on him like normal.