It sounds like you live with your family-- are they supporting you financially? What country do you live in? Is the father of your child in the picture? Has anyone threatened to take your child away?

It sounds like you were already planning to move-- might as well do it. If you can keep your family from influencing your daughter until she is older and stronger, then do it. Young kids don't like change but they are adaptable.

Try not to feel guilty about hurting anyone in your family because face it-- you haven't done a single thing to them. Your family are not the vicims here. Tell your brother to stop being ridiculous when he tries to guilt-trip you like that. Tell him he is wrong, your parents are grown people who are responsible for their own emotions.

You said they found out you're bi-- I am really sorry for that. I am not out to my family (although they probably suspect) and I hope that if they ever find out it's because I told them explicitly. Settle in for some chaos because they are going to act like it's their business and they might try to control you and make you feel guilty, and you're going to have to stand firm.

You might want to decide you ARE putting your girlfriend first. It sounds like your family wants to make you choose between them and your girlfriend, well, be prepared for that. Plenty of people will tell you that you shouldn't have to choose-- it's true, you SHOULDN'T-- but in reality we often do have to make those kinds of choices. Be ready to make that choice.

They are going to attack you through your child-- prepare for that. Sounds like they're already doing that if your daughter is changing her mind all of a sudden. Perhaps you ought to get out of their house quickly-- at least do not leave your daughter alone with your family. (No more free babysitting, I know, it sucks. But it will be worth it in the long run.)

You may want to consider setting some boundaries; like, no talking negatively to me about my girlfriend. If they insist, then leave the room. Stone-wall them. Make no apologies. DO NOT BEG THEM TO ACCEPT YOU-- either they will or they won't and that's their decision. If you've made up your mind, tell them you are the same person you always were and if they prefer to reject you, you'll leave.

Don't change your plans just because your family doesn't accept you. It sounds like they are pressuring you to prove your loyalty by breaking up with your girlfriend and staying home.

As for the going to hell thing, if you're worried about that, send me a message, I'll be happy to convert you into an atheist. =D

Your family just doesn't understand, and I imagine they also think you're confused. I get that your daughter doesn't want to move, but she would be greatly affected by you being miserable with your family/living situation. You can't demonstrate what it means to be a happy, well-adjusted adult to her if your family keeps you from being happy and confident.

Be strong. This is your life and your daughter's. It's your call, not theirs. You will most likely be met with more opposition, and you need to be prepared for that.

Oh and the guilt trip your brother tried about making your parents sick is pathetic.

Before my family found out they always toldl me how they were so proud of what a good mom I was and not all of a sudden I'm the worse mom and they want me to leave here with them. I don't see how they can think a person is good or bad based on who they love.

It's very sad that in this day and age, there is still so much hatred and misunderstanding surrounding sexuality. It's not like you're a murderer or a psychopath - you just happen to have romantic feelings for both men and women.

Your primary concern at the moment is for your own well-being and then that of your daughter. Ultimately you have to put YOU first, for ultimately your daughter's well-being is linked to your own. That will probably mean you have to get out of your parents and find accommodation elsewhere. Unless you truly believe you have a long-term future with your gf, I wouldn't necessary rush into co-habiting, but that's a decision that only you can make.

Your brother is a douche-bag - using emotional blackmail is the lowest of the low.

Sadly, I don't have any answers re. getting your folks on side. Perhaps if you had another family member who was more supportive, then they might be able to make your parents see what they a likely to lose if the continue with their irrational behaviour towards you.

I can't even begin to imagine what you're going through. My family have always been very supportive of me. I'm not saying that my mum didn't have her reservations in the beginning and hoped against hope that I might find a nice lass and settle down. I think she always wanted a lovely daughter-in-law to bond with as she never had a daughter of her own (just a very loving gay son - and my two brothers of course).

I'm here to talk to too.
My parents are fundamentalist Christians too. They've developed open-mindedsness and tolerance because they had to.