Well I might get flamed for this, but I am choosing to not date anyone with kids ever again.

My first relationship with kids involved a baby that had just been born. The dude was super immature about dealing with his baby momma, and imo wasn't a great parent either. He used being a father as an excuse to not do things. This was years ago so I don't really remember specifics.

My second relationship with kids I got married and I was a stepmom. I couldn't stand it. I was never put first. I think I just don't like kids. I'm definitely not a kid person. I am very awkward around them and I don't know if I even want a kid of my own someday.

That being said, I am only 25. If I were in my 30s or 40s I don't think I could be that picky, but there are still lots of people around my age that are childless.

IMO, husband and wife come first. So yeah, I probably won't have kids. I've been flamed for this opinion before, but.. well nevermind. I'm done. But I completely support people dating other people with kids if they like it! It's just not for me.

I dated and married and then divorced a woman with 3 kids. I have known her kids since they were 1, 3, and 4 and now they are 13, 15, and 16. I have a better relationship with them than their mother they are now living with their dad after our divorce. With that being said I would date someone with kids again however I am not ready to go thru the terrible two's or pre-teen phases again so for me the kids would have to be in high school. I have mentioned this before in the "dating age range" before but for me people are in a few stages..."no kids", "raising young kids", "raising older kids", "empty nesters". Right now I am looking to date women in the "raising older kids" or "empty nesters" stage. Age to me doesn' t matter but "stage" does becuase I have changed enough diapers for this lifetime and I am not ready to go thru that again.

I'm 24 so for me dating someone with older kids would be a flag in my mind as to how and when they had them... As for younger children, it would really depend on the guy and his situation. Now for people who are older than I and who have kids - I know my coworkers date people with children. One of them is currently in a long term relationship with a woman who has a 14 year old and a 17 year old. So I don't think it should be a huge deal breaker - but it's probably just going to be VERY people and situation dependent. If it's the right guy (or a good guy) and he had a kid, would you really mind it?

For me, if it's not the right guy, having a child will go into the con side of things, but if it is a good guy (or right guy) then I know I wouldn't mind - but there would of course be limitations on what could be done due to his responsibilities as a parent.

My preference would be to date someone in my similar situation; with older kids and will be an empty nester in the next few years. While I'm interested in being supportive of a man being a father, one with younger kids isn't the ideal.

The appeal of having young adults and the freedom to explore 'whims' is awesomely exciting!

I have 13 & 16 y.o. daughters and have 50/50 shared parenting time with their mother. I find that trying to make time to date is difficult at times and should the woman I'm trying to date have young kids it's near impossible to a find a mutually convenient time to do so. I'd prefer to date a woman with older kids or no kids as schedules are far more flexible. That being said, as far as dating women with no kids, I would l be open to the possibility of one day having another child with the right woman.

I guess I am in the minority, but I prefer to date men with kids, because i think that shows alot of their character - they way they parent. I have no kids of my own, but would prefer his kids to be on younger side rather than older side, and maybe that is just because I am way better with younger kids---the younger the better....do better with a newborn than with a 13 yr old. I have no kids of my own, so maybe that is part of it too......

i have 5 small kids. i fully expect that to run off a decent number of people. i have tried the dating people with kids, same ages as my own. and i did not like it.

after trying, i have realized i don't want to mesh my family with someone else that is in a similar situation. it's not for me. i love kids, i don't even mind other people's kids, but unless they are raising their children in a way that is very close to mine it's just not going to work. i'm not gonna change what i'm doing. and i don't want someone else attempting to do things differently with MY kids.

if they had kids that were out of the house, that's fine. i would prefer no kids.

it seems though that men with small kids want to date women with small kids. i'm guessing because the women would probably be considered a good mom......... i know that i have been asked by a fair amount of guys that don't have kids how i would feel about having MORE!