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first date today for like 12 years

carlosdon
carlosdon Posts: 125
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and first since losing all the weight.

any tips welcome peps. Would like to get this right first time back! I've never not got a 2nd date at least, but i'm very rusty.

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  • Daisy_Cutter
    Daisy_Cutter Posts: 774
    and first since losing all the weight.

    any tips welcome peps. Would like to get this right first time back! I've never not got a 2nd date at least, but i'm very rusty.

    BE CONFIDENT! KNOW you are awesome and just be positive! You'll be fine.... Good luck!

    Confidence is SEXY!
  • solman66
    solman66 Posts: 175 Member
    Best of luck to ya!
    Just keep relaxed and realize it won't be your only date. It's ok to "not feel it", because there will be many more.

    I recently had my first date in over 8 years and forced myself into a 4th date before breaking it off, even though after the first I knew she wasn't for me. I just had that feeling like it may be another 8 years before I get a date again, so I needed to make that one work.
  • pa_jorg
    pa_jorg Posts: 4,404 Member
    Just do your best to relax and have fun. This probably won't be the love of your life, but I believe that certain people come and go from our lives at specific times to teach us lessons. Remember that regardless of how the date ends, just being with this person will most likely teach you about yourself.
  • MiaOrange
    MiaOrange Posts: 151 Member
    I'm not sure, because I have not gone out in too long to remember, decade or something. But please tell us how it goes!!! Be an inspiration to others.
  • lorro
    lorro Posts: 917 Member
    Howay Carl :happy: :flowerforyou: My ex is a Geordie.

    My tips: Go to bed so you can get a decent night's sleep. Be yourself, be a gent. Try and focus your attention on her, finding out about her, making her feel comfortable,thinking whether you like her, rather than how you are doing and whether she likes you.

    Have fun, this is not a test :drinker: :bigsmile:
  • dbrightwell1270
    dbrightwell1270 Posts: 1,732 Member
    I went 14 years without a date so I know what you're going through. Do your best to be yourself. No one really is his/herself on any first date but don't spend the whole night judging how you are doing. Remember that she is on a first date too. She'll be plenty nervous as well. Try to be funny or do something to break the ice. Most of all, have fun.
  • carlosdon
    carlosdon Posts: 125
    thanks for the tips guys! especially going to bed and getting shut eye think i'll do that now before I get too tired to go!
  • AnnaPixie
    AnnaPixie Posts: 7,439 Member
    Good luck Carl. You'll be great! Just relax and be yourself. Afterall, it's only a giiiiirl!!! lol:tongue:

    :flowerforyou:
  • carlosdon
    carlosdon Posts: 125
    went ok bar a few odd moments from moi but hey it's not like riding a bike! possiblity of another date thats up to her. 70 min date got my face covered in hot chocolate akward rookie mistake!
  • AnnaPixie
    AnnaPixie Posts: 7,439 Member
    went ok bar a few odd moments from moi but hey it's not like riding a bike! possiblity of another date thats up to her. 70 min date got my face covered in hot chocolate akward rookie mistake!

    Well done Carl, at least you got yourself out there! :bigsmile:
  • lorro
    lorro Posts: 917 Member
    Wo Hoo Great going Carl :bigsmile: Back in the saddle again! :happy:

    Well done :flowerforyou:
  • pa_jorg
    pa_jorg Posts: 4,404 Member
    Just going on the first date is a huge step, so congrats!
  • carlosdon
    carlosdon Posts: 125
    yeah its good to finally be back in the game at the very least!
  • carlosdon
    carlosdon Posts: 125
    she got back to me in the end not enough common ground but said i seem like a really nice guy and she enjoyed the date so half a success then! onwards and upwards!
  • pa_jorg
    pa_jorg Posts: 4,404 Member
    she got back to me in the end not enough common ground but said i seem like a really nice guy and she enjoyed the date so half a success then! onwards and upwards!

    This is common enough, just glad you can see the positive in having gone through the experience!
  • mrmanmeat
    mrmanmeat Posts: 1,968 Member
    Do something easy where it's easier to be yourself.

    If this doesn't work out, find someone you're not head over heels for, or a few people. Go out on a date with them - you're more likely to maintain "being yourself" etc and build confidence.
  • AnnaPixie
    AnnaPixie Posts: 7,439 Member
    she got back to me in the end not enough common ground but said i seem like a really nice guy and she enjoyed the date so half a success then! onwards and upwards!

    wow! At least she got back to you. THAT in itself in the dating world is unusual :flowerforyou:

    If this doesn't work out, find someone you're not head over heels for, or a few people. Go out on a date with them - you're more likely to maintain "being yourself" etc and build confidence.

    Great tip!! :bigsmile:
  • Meghan0116
    Meghan0116 Posts: 1,268 Member
    Soooo exciting! I'm glad it went well and here's to future good dates. :drinker:
  • carlosdon
    carlosdon Posts: 125
    thanks for the great encouragement peps! hopefully i can get another date soon enough!
  • Tropical_Turtle
    Tropical_Turtle Posts: 2,236 Member
    went ok bar a few odd moments from moi but hey it's not like riding a bike! possiblity of another date thats up to her. 70 min date got my face covered in hot chocolate akward rookie mistake!

    Yay for putting yourself out there!!!
  • BigDaddyBRC
    BigDaddyBRC Posts: 2,395 Member
    Be yourself.
  • lorro
    lorro Posts: 917 Member
    Great feedback- Next! :happy: :drinker:
  • Silver180
    Silver180 Posts: 294
    Hey yeah, good for you in any case!

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