I tried for a homebith with DD#2 and chickened out at the last min :embarassed: (literally). Ended up making it to the hospital just in time to give birth. Why oh why didn't I stay home? I dunno....

With DD#3 I wanted to give it another go, but several things came up. The midwife I wanted was no longer practicing. She referred me to a high risk midwife due to my recurrent m/c and she wasn't accepting new patients. Found another lady, but we just didn't click at all. And then DH lost his job and we moved in with my mom and there was no way I was giving birth in her home...

This time we both discussed it at length and decided to not. Buuuuuuut a part of me wants to try just one more time. I have a midwife who will be doing placenta encapsulation for me, I keep debating about talking to her about homebirth too.

This will be my 3rd homebirth! My first was delivered on my bed and my second was delivered in water, in a tub we rented. Oddly enough I met my first midwife when we were on our honeymoon 2 years before we first got pregnant. She happened to live in the same town as my DH parents, where we lived at the time. We didn't realize that we had met previously until we met up and remembered each other, it was quite funny. She ended up referring us to two midwifes she had helped train as she was retiring. It turned out great as they were younger/having their own kids and I had a better connection with them. One of them has attended both of my homebirths and will attend my 3rd as well.

I think a mother needs to be where she feels the safest when she delivers, so if you want to do a homebirth, you should spend a lot of time reading stories on homebirthing so you get a good idea of what it is like and get comfortable with it. If you chicken out at the last moment, just know that it was meant to be! If you don't feel safe at home, it can actually stall the labor and make it harder on you. Do what is right for you and your baby!