better to do it alone or with someone?
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I had to learn how to do a lot alone in my marriage because my ex wouldn't join me so activities I'm ok with doing alone. I can do what I want when I want without a girlfriend eating up two hours trying on everything in the gift-shop... twice.
I'll agree though it's more fun to do certain things (like amusement parks!) with a friend, and when I can't find an adult friend to do stuff I call on friend's kids. I'm glad my son is getting to the age where he can accompany me almost everywhere I want to go.
What I'm still working on is going out to eat alone. I travel a lot for work, so this happens a lot. I can go somewhere to watch the game by myself (because I can easily meet other fans) but when I go "out to eat" by myself I still feel very awkward sitting at the table alone. I don't like sitting at the bar, but if the restaurant has a bar-like counter (and newer ones are starting to) I am more comfortable because I'm next to other people who are eating alone.0 -
Don`t hesitate to do some of it alone,you will probably stand a better chance of meeting a decent guy that way then on OKC.
Agreed.
I do tons of stuff by myself. If no one wants to go see a movie, I'll go see it by myself. I work out by myself a lot, and I go shopping by myself often. And I have no problem going out to eat alone.
I'd rather live my life how I want than to wait for someone to come do the stuff with me.0 -
I get bored too. It's difficult with my working nights, sleeping during the day sechdule to do things with my friends. Plus my weekend is literally Monday/Tuesday and my friends of course work the typical Mon-Fri and aren't always open to the idea of going out and doing things when I am off. I focus alot on exercising, going to the YMCA, that sorta thing. I however do go out alone. To the movies, eating out, that sorta thing.I hate doing things alone. I feel your pain. It's not that I mind the act of being alone, I just get bored. It is always more fun with good company around. I've also heard great things about meetup.com. I may try it myself soon here.
That's something I've never felt akward about myself. I have no problems going out to eat alone. :laugh: I'd say it contributed a little to my weight gain.
What I'm still working on is going out to eat alone. I travel a lot for work, so this happens a lot. I can go somewhere to watch the game by myself (because I can easily meet other fans) but when I go "out to eat" by myself I still feel very awkward sitting at the table alone. I don't like sitting at the bar, but if the restaurant has a bar-like counter (and newer ones are starting to) I am more comfortable because I'm next to other people who are eating alone.0 -
I LOVE roller coasters and don't have any friends here that are interested
. Unfortunately, I'm in Colorado, lol. I have the same problem you do. I moved across the country without knowing anyone for a job and I did make some friends, but they're all married or in serious relationships. I also find that the culture of the area is to do everything with your SO. People invite them everywhere, even to work happy hours and things like that. My friend asked me if I wanted to go shopping the other day, and when she came to pick me up her boyfriend was in the car to join us on our shopping trip- which to me is totally crazy. I'm more interested in meeting single friends to just do stuff with (or even non-single friends who will at least hang out without their SO sometimes) than dating right now. Meetup is not active in my area but I'm moving to a much larger area in a few weeks so I am hoping to use that. I am kind of shy though and meeting a whole big group of people at once makes me really nervous! I am a bit of an introvert and I like my time to myself, but with living alone and working a lot less in the summer time, I get lonely. 0 -
What I'm still working on is going out to eat alone. I travel a lot for work, so this happens a lot. I can go somewhere to watch the game by myself (because I can easily meet other fans) but when I go "out to eat" by myself I still feel very awkward sitting at the table alone. I don't like sitting at the bar, but if the restaurant has a bar-like counter (and newer ones are starting to) I am more comfortable because I'm next to other people who are eating alone.
I started bringing a book with me to the restaurant. Though now I try to reserve going to restaurants to the weekends when I am sight seeing and during the week I grab somethign to go, usually subway.0 -
With someone.
The activities you mentioned don't necessarily need to be done with a significant other, but it helps.
Bottom line-life is better with a quality significant other. Quality is the key word. Because life can be worse in a relationship with the wrong person.0 -
What I'm still working on is going out to eat alone. I travel a lot for work, so this happens a lot. I can go somewhere to watch the game by myself (because I can easily meet other fans) but when I go "out to eat" by myself I still feel very awkward sitting at the table alone. I don't like sitting at the bar, but if the restaurant has a bar-like counter (and newer ones are starting to) I am more comfortable because I'm next to other people who are eating alone.
I started bringing a book with me to the restaurant. Though now I try to reserve going to restaurants to the weekends when I am sight seeing and during the week I grab somethign to go, usually subway.
i eat alone, no problem. started that in 2009, on my trip out to LA. went alone, so i dined alone, and went to Universal Studios alone, and on tours alone :-) it was fun. i just made sure i had my iPod touch or smart phone and kept myself busy, LOL
i do all sorts of stuff by myself. ;-) hahahaha0 -
Just wanna let you ladies know I was thinking of yas while sitting in Mellow Mushroom with one of my fave meals I always get when I make this particular roadtrip. By myself, lol, taking up a table with my laptop and surfing MFP. It's a college town so it's not like the guys would be flirting with this old lady anyway, but I'm having a great time. Alone.0
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Mellow Mushroom
Mmmm...pizza.....:bigsmile:
I love having solo time! My son and I spend a lot of time together though so for me it's more of a break to enjoy some "me" time. In 5 days I'm going white water rafting and zip lining solo and am SO EXCITED! :drinker: I got a little cabin, bringing some vino, chick flicks, smores (shhhhh!!!), will maybe do some hiking, and will love every single second. I think it's great to have fun by yourself. I like having a balance between spending time with my munchkin, on my own, family and friends, dating etc. It's nice to have a balance.0 -
I love Mellow Mushroom! There's one here.
Let me know if you stop in Biloxi, JJ! Lol. 0 -
If you were closer I would totally go on the rollercoasters......especially the upside down ones !!!
Me too!!0 -
I do some things alone.
But I have my kids all the time, so I'm never truly alone. Though, when we go to a water park or something and they have their friends with them, they run off and do their own thing, and I sometimes feel alone. It would definitely be more fun for me if I had a buddy. Sometimes I can get a friend and her kids to go which makes it more fun, but I don't sit around and wait for that to happen either.0
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