Interpretting a phone conversation....
NCTravellingGirl
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I had a phone conversation with someone from POF that I’d love to hear your thoughts on why he told me the stories. I have my own theories of course, but it seemed random so I thought I’d share.
He asked me how long I’d been on PoF and how my experience had been. I told him only 5 days and it had been interesting to say the least, having already earned my first online stalker (a story for a separate posting).
He then said he had two funny stories to share with me.
1- He met a woman whose picture showed a pretty face but no other pictures and after speaking with her, she forewarned him that she was FLUFFY. He met her at a McDonalds for coffee and said he walked right past her because he didn’t recognize her. She was evidently the largest woman he’d ever seen. He chuckled and ended that story by saying he was polite but didn’t call her back.
2- He had a date with another woman last week that he said he didn’t find all that attractive but she seemed nice when they talked so he met her. He shared the above story with her after having what he thought was a pretty good date. She wrote him back after and said the story made her uncomfortable because according to her, she wasn’t a small woman either.
Because of the complete lack of humor in his funny stories, it really put a damper on the conversation. Why do you think he shared all that? It was completely out of context in the conversation…maybe I'm making too much of it after losing 70 lbs myself? He reached out to me first and has made every move, and I have full body shots dated on my profile...
He asked me how long I’d been on PoF and how my experience had been. I told him only 5 days and it had been interesting to say the least, having already earned my first online stalker (a story for a separate posting).
He then said he had two funny stories to share with me.
1- He met a woman whose picture showed a pretty face but no other pictures and after speaking with her, she forewarned him that she was FLUFFY. He met her at a McDonalds for coffee and said he walked right past her because he didn’t recognize her. She was evidently the largest woman he’d ever seen. He chuckled and ended that story by saying he was polite but didn’t call her back.
2- He had a date with another woman last week that he said he didn’t find all that attractive but she seemed nice when they talked so he met her. He shared the above story with her after having what he thought was a pretty good date. She wrote him back after and said the story made her uncomfortable because according to her, she wasn’t a small woman either.
Because of the complete lack of humor in his funny stories, it really put a damper on the conversation. Why do you think he shared all that? It was completely out of context in the conversation…maybe I'm making too much of it after losing 70 lbs myself? He reached out to me first and has made every move, and I have full body shots dated on my profile...
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I think his story is just a story. He might have said it to try and respond to your stalker story. Maybe his attempt at humor failed or wasn't well received but I don't think it's a red
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sounds like he was sharing his online dating experience so far... I don't think it was out of context. If anything I'd say he thinks you look good enough that he would share a story about someone who lied on their pictures. I wouldn't look to far into it.0
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I actually think he was trying to get you to talk about weight. He was leading.
I do this every now and then... bring up something to see if it will lead to a conversation regarding a topic I'm interested in. I've never done it about weight, but will about health and fitness. I just like to see where their mind-set it. So, for example, I was talking to a guy about running. He of course said he would never run unless being chased (this is a fine comment, not everyone has to like running) but then he added that he hated all exercise in general unless it was lifting a beer. Then couple that with his many - I'm a bachelor and never cook anything and live on Jack N the Box - I knew we were definitely not a match.
So, I think what he may have been doing to was to see where you mind was on the issue. Maybe he was looking for a comment like -- Yeah, I've definitely had my struggles, but haven't we all? OR Maybe something along the lines of telling him how important it is to you to keep up the good fight to stay/become more fit?0 -
Meeting at McDonald's for coffee isn't a great date idea. I'd be concerned about his date planning skill.0
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Meeting at McDonald's for coffee isn't a great date idea. I'd be concerned about his date planning skill.
^^^^^ This too! LOL0 -
Meeting at McDonald's for coffee isn't a great date idea. I'd be concerned about his date planning skill.
^^^^^ This too! LOL
HAHAHAHAH!! Yah...I paused for a split second when I read that part about McD's. Tehehe0 -
sounds like he was sharing his online dating experience so far... I don't think it was out of context. If anything I'd say he thinks you look good enough that he would share a story about someone who lied on their pictures. I wouldn't look to far into it.
Yup! I've dabbled in online dating off and on for the past 10 years....asking about past experiences and stories seems to be the norm...nbd0 -
I think he was sharing his story but I also think he was trying to get you to say if you were over weight or not. As long as you had a recent full body picture posted I wouldn't worry about.0
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I think he was sharing his story but I also think he was trying to get you to say if you were over weight or not. As long as you had a recent full body picture posted I wouldn't worry about.
I would agree on this - and I would for sure question his date planning skills if he thinks McD's is a great coffee date! That alone would be a turn off for me lol0 -
Meeting at McDonald's for coffee isn't a great date idea. I'd be concerned about his date planning skill.
^^^^^ This too! LOL
HAHAHAHAH!! Yah...I paused for a split second when I read that part about McD's. Tehehe
Right, show some class dude, Taco Bell is where it's at!!0 -
Yeah Angie, sounds to me like he was just making conversation talking about past experiences. In fact, not everything men say has hidden meaning to it
But what's wrong with McDonalds? The playhouse is where it's at!0 -
sounds like he was sharing his online dating experience so far... I don't think it was out of context. If anything I'd say he thinks you look good enough that he would share a story about someone who lied on their pictures. I wouldn't look to far into it.
Yup! I've dabbled in online dating off and on for the past 10 years....asking about past experiences and stories seems to be the norm...nbd
10 years? So share some stories, I know you have some good ones 0 -
sounds like he was sharing his online dating experience so far... I don't think it was out of context. If anything I'd say he thinks you look good enough that he would share a story about someone who lied on their pictures. I wouldn't look to far into it.
Yup! I've dabbled in online dating off and on for the past 10 years....asking about past experiences and stories seems to be the norm...nbd
10 years? So share some stories, I know you have some good ones
:sad: :sad: :sad: Let's just say if I was a tv comedy or horror writer, I'd have plenty of material...0 -
Right, show some class dude, Taco Bell is where it's at!!
Nothing says romance like a Beefy, 5 Layer Burrito!:laugh: :laugh:0 -
If I had heard just the first story, I would have wondered if he was trying to warn me "don't show up if you're too fluffy." So I can see why the second girl didn't go out again- if I were her I'd have thought he was trying to give me a hint and it *would* have made me uncomfortable.
If he had told me both stories at the same time, like he did OP, I would have taken it just as sharing ironic experiences.0 -
sounds like he was sharing his online dating experience so far... I don't think it was out of context. If anything I'd say he thinks you look good enough that he would share a story about someone who lied on their pictures. I wouldn't look to far into it.
Yup! I've dabbled in online dating off and on for the past 10 years....asking about past experiences and stories seems to be the norm...nbd
10 years? So share some stories, I know you have some good ones
:sad: :sad: :sad: Let's just say if I was a tv comedy or horror writer, I'd have plenty of material...
:sad: well hopefully you can laugh at the comedy and block out the horror and still give "new" men a chance.0 -
:sad: :sad: :sad: Let's just say if I was a tv comedy or horror writer, I'd have plenty of material...
What's that saying...? "There's no such thing as a bad date... they're either good dates, or good stories"0 -
I agree with everyone else, its an online dating experience he shared with you. As you are new to online dating, you won't have any. But as time goes on, you'll be sharing yours too!!
Yes, I think you're being too sensitive about the weight issue. And if you dont find his delivery humourous then perhaps you wont click with him, humour wise!
HOWEVER, when a guy says something like that to me I indicate that I'm not super model material and is if he's not attracted to a bit of blubber we best not meet!! :laugh:
How did the rest of the conversation go? TBH if I dont click with someone on the phone, I dont meet him :flowerforyou:0 -
Meeting at McDonald's for coffee isn't a great date idea. I'd be concerned about his date planning skill.
^^^^^ This too! LOL
HAHAHAHAH!! Yah...I paused for a split second when I read that part about McD's. Tehehe
Right, show some class dude, Taco Bell is where it's at!!
I love Single Peeps! Where else can a question about a phone conversation turn into a debate about bad date ideas....I'd prefer Starbucks or Dunkin over McD's for coffee any day, but it's a funny thing that became the discussion. I honestly had the same reaction! BUT, I also know I make twice what most people in the area do so I'm trying not to be a snob since I don't know if the choice is about preference or money. Ironically, if it's preference, it's a FAIL. If it's money, I get it! Would certainly change my first date strategy for outfits though... heels in a playhouse???But what's wrong with McDonalds? The playhouse is where it's at!
Only you, Dave :huh: I'm hoping that's just because you'd have a blast in the playhouse and not that you're picking up dates there or we need a whole other thread... :drinker:0 -
Right away I thought it was a sly way to get a better idea of your size. Certain responses from you could give him a better idea of what to expect. I suppose like others said, it could mean nothing, but if he is particular about a woman's size then it probably meant something.0
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But what's wrong with McDonalds? The playhouse is where it's at!
Everyone knows you take a classy lady to Burger King so she can get herself one of those kid club crowns. Classy ladies love the jewelry!0
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