Need some breakfast / morning after advice.
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Hey don't shoot the messenger ,I am only stating what I have observed women saying on this forum and if one reads back those in agreement are ladies.
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Not shooting the messenger Carl. Nothing personal... ;-)
And sure, it's better if you bring your own food. I had assumed he was planning to do this? He definitely doesn't want to make a lovely breakfast with her roommate's hard earned pancake mix... :-) And sure, he shouldn't make a mess. That's just rude. Clean while you cook, it's not hard.
In any case, it's a great "test." Doing this at the very least shows he's kind and considerate. Even if the gf preferred he didn't, her reaction should still be "Thank you." Anything else is just terrible manners.
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Well, if I got up and made breakfast for my relatively new gf, and her reaction was, "I'm just not comfortable with this yet in our relationship," instead of the proper answer: "Thank you, that's so sweet!" then adios. She just saved me a lot of time. I mean, how rude is it to ***** when your gf/bf is trying to be nice to you by performing a simple favor? Isn't this the same woman he's sleeping with, btw? So it's ok to exchange body fluids, it's not ok to get up and scramble eggs???
It's just breakfast, people, not an engagement ring, or a new puppy. He's not asking to cook breakfast for her parents.
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You can make me breakfast.
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Making breakfast for your gf isn't controversial. Making breakfast for a girl the op describes as a friendship that has turned into something more is the issue here. To me, the way it is worded implies that the op is in a fwb with the girl. He never says " my girlfriend" and says they only see each other on weekends. if it is truly fwb I wouldn't recommend it because it is turning the relationship into more - which is fine if both agree. But to do it as a surprise might not go over well. And of. Course manners are needed but it could hurt their friendship/fwb.
It's one thing also If it's planned like "would you like to make breakfast tomorrow?" that way she can decline if it is too much.
Ideally everyone should be on the same page.0 -
Making breakfast for your gf isn't controversial. Making breakfast for a girl the op describes as a friendship that has turned into something more is the issue here. To me, the way it is worded implies that the op is in a fwb with the girl. He never says " my girlfriend" and says they only see each other on weekends. if it is truly fwb I wouldn't recommend it because it is turning the relationship into more - which is fine if both agree. But to do it as a surprise might not go over well. And of. Course manners are needed but it could hurt their friendship/fwb.
It's one thing also If it's planned like "would you like to make breakfast tomorrow?" that way she can decline if it is too much.
Ideally everyone should be on the same page.
How did you arrive at her being a FWB? She's a friend....he likes her....she likes him. Their relationship is moving from friendship to something more romantic. No where is it implied she was a FWB. SMH
He's a guy that really likes a girl and wants to impress her with a knockout breakfast. That's it. Simple.
OP...I hope it went well this morning!!0 -
I probably got here too late, but my two cents. I have served breakfast in bed and been served breakfast in bed.
I can cook and have looked in other people's kitchens once in awhile if I felt the inspired when I didn't wake up in my own bed, however that was rare.
This morning's breakfast is probably already done, but for next time I have a pretty simple recipie for an open faced Italian Omelette thats has been well liked by those I have served it too. Most people should have the ingredients in their fridge/cupboards.
They are, eggs, potatoe, onions, garlic, peppers, parm cheese, oregano, salt and peppers and lastly chedder cheese.
If you so inclided to attempt it, just message me and I shall give you the recipie. Not posting it here for the world to see, not sharing my secrets with everyone.
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Its a little bit laughable at how making a meal for someone can be over-analyzed as something that can be only done if you're in a perfect relationship with such defined rules and values. Seems to me there were a lot of jaded responses but that probably is a function of not knowing the entire story behind the relationship, or either parties in question which is to be expected because its just a forum on the internet and information is always left out.
With that out of the way, Thank you very much to everyones input and I truly appreciate it. I went simple and just made crispy bacon, scrambled eggs and pancakes with some fruit that I bought early this morning. I screwed up the first couple of pancakes but then I perfected the cooking time and all was good. The girl in question is absolutely loved it as she's never really had anyone do that for her and I really enjoyed doing it as well. I made extra for the roomie and I'm pretty sure i'm in good with her for life after this morning. Thanks again single peeps!0 -
Its a little bit laughable at how making a meal for someone can be over-analyzed as something that can be only done if you're in a perfect relationship with such defined rules and values. Seems to me there were a lot of jaded responses but that probably is a function of not knowing the entire story behind the relationship, or either parties in question which is to be expected because its just a forum on the internet and information is always left out.
With that out of the way, Thank you very much to everyones input and I truly appreciate it. I went simple and just made crispy bacon, scrambled eggs and pancakes with some fruit that I bought early this morning. I screwed up the first couple of pancakes but then I perfected the cooking time and all was good. The girl in question is absolutely loved it as she's never really had anyone do that for her and I really enjoyed doing it as well. I made extra for the roomie and I'm pretty sure i'm in good with her for life after this morning. Thanks again single peeps!
Good for you!! I'm glad it went well. 0 -
Making breakfast for your gf isn't controversial. Making breakfast for a girl the op describes as a friendship that has turned into something more is the issue here. To me, the way it is worded implies that the op is in a fwb with the girl. He never says " my girlfriend" and says they only see each other on weekends. if it is truly fwb I wouldn't recommend it because it is turning the relationship into more - which is fine if both agree. But to do it as a surprise might not go over well. And of. Course manners are needed but it could hurt their friendship/fwb.
It's one thing also If it's planned like "would you like to make breakfast tomorrow?" that way she can decline if it is too much.
Ideally everyone should be on the same page.
How did you arrive at her being a FWB? She's a friend....he likes her....she likes him. Their relationship is moving from friendship to something more romantic. No where is it implied she was a FWB. SMH
He's a guy that really likes a girl and wants to impress her with a knockout breakfast. That's it. Simple.
OP...I hope it went well this morning!!
I got fwb because he still has not came out and said my girlfriend. Even in his post that it went well.0 -
In any case, it's a great "test." Doing this at the very least shows he's kind and considerate. Even if the gf preferred he didn't, her reaction should still be "Thank you." Anything else is just terrible manners.
Her reaction should be "Thank you" but I wish we could move (as a society) away from the mindset that it's only the effort/thought that counts. I find myself often saying "thank you" for things I didn't want. Sometimes people even ask you, "How would you like XYZ" and even though I say "that's not my style, what I'd prefer is ABC..." they still get upset when they do XYZ and can tell I'm just being polite rather than truly delighted.
Oh, by the way, as someone mentioned earlier....Yes, to me a man cooking for me means he is interested in more than friendship. I get confused when a man cooks for me but then I find out it's only platonic.0 -
bacon cheese and veggies in an omelette (cause you can use a fork and it wont flake or crumble all over the place like a pastry would and make me look like a slob) with kiwi slices and strawberries and coffee.
BOOM
panties drop for round 40 -
Bring me coffee (home perked or purchased), toast me toast, or even complete the 9-week C2EB course and make that for me....doesn't matter...you are SO getting morning nookie just for being so thoughtful!
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bacon cheese and veggies in an omelette (cause you can use a fork and it wont flake or crumble all over the place like a pastry would and make me look like a slob) with kiwi slices and strawberries and coffee.
BOOM
panties drop for round 4
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I got fwb because he still has not came out and said my girlfriend. Even in his post that it went well.
SMH - I hope guys I'm interested in ...before I refer to them as a "boyfriend" aren't automatically considered FWBs. That's a leap in the opposite direction and would not want them labeled as such.
A FWB is someone you come to a mutual understanding with that they are a FRIEND - nothing more. This is clearly not the case here. Doesn't matter if he calls her a girlfriend or not. They are romantically involved - on whatever level. This clearly goes against the FWB definition.
HEY OP -- I'm thrilled it went well for you! Sounds like a delicious breakfast and you definitely got some major points with that! Great job!!!0
