I would like to go back to being invisible again for awhile
MaraDiaz
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Went to the store just now and I have no idea how to interpret the looks I got from a couple of men in there. I don't know if it was 'oh my god, fat beast' looks, 'oh my god, big boobs' looks, 'oh my god is that her hair or extensions' looks, or 'hey, she's kinda cute' looks.
No. Clue. At. All.
No. Clue. At. All.
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Umm, in my experience, if they keep looking... it's "she's cute"... or "wooh baby"...
Think positive. Be confident. You're a sexy beast, and you know it.
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Umm, in my experience, if they keep looking... it's "she's cute"... or "wooh baby"...
Think positive. Be confident. You're a sexy beast, and you know it.
:laugh: Well a beast, anyway! But thanks. One of them kept glancing over. Nice looking guy.
Hm, come to think of it, he was Latino, he might've been one of my ex-boyfriend's friends and just happened to recognize me. Oops! I hope not, I never did learn everyone's names and faces. My ex was so social I swear he was friends with every spanish speaker in the city, and would have been friends with every english speaker if he'd spoken english.
Aww I hope that wasn't it. I didn't even smile at him.
I need to take a 'glances, stares, and general dirty looks' interpreter with me next time I go out so she can elbow me and whisper, "He thinks you're cute!"0 -
Umm, in my experience, if they keep looking... it's "she's cute"... or "wooh baby"...
Think positive. Be confident. You're a sexy beast, and you know it.
:laugh: Well a beast, anyway! But thanks. One of them kept glancing over. Nice looking guy.
Hm, come to think of it, he was Latino, he might've been one of my ex-boyfriend's friends and just happened to recognize me. Oops! I hope not, I never did learn everyone's names and faces. My ex was so social I swear he was friends with every spanish speaker in the city, and would have been friends with every english speaker if he'd spoken english.
Aww I hope that wasn't it. I didn't even smile at him.
I need to take a 'glances, stares, and general dirty looks' interpreter with me next time I go out so she can elbow me and whisper, "He thinks you're cute!"
LOL I'll go! I'm a pro at men's glances and stares and general dirty looks. That was my minor in college.
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You need to come club hopping with me when I hit goal weight! Unless I start getting too drunk, in which case, I will dance, and that will ruin my prospects for the night. :happy: So yeah, no dancing for me!0
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When a guy looks at you just take it as a compliment. It's far easier than trying to interpret anything else :flowerforyou:
Unless your blouse is undone or something. In which case he's definitely looking at your boobs!! :laugh:0 -
No fly, no buttons, no wardrobe malfunctions. Thankfully! But this shirt is a 16-18 and I'm going to wear it because I'm tickled not to be a 1x anymore. It just might be a wee bit on the tight side across the chest. Not omg they're busting out tight, but compared to the drapery I've been wearing for clothing, it's definitely form fitting. I'm not trading it back for the 1x, either, so if that's what the issue is, I'll just have to get used to it! 0
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You need to come club hopping with me when I hit goal weight! Unless I start getting too drunk, in which case, I will dance, and that will ruin my prospects for the night. :happy: So yeah, no dancing for me!
The men will all be drunk too:drinker: and won't care if you've got good rhythm or not. They just wanna see you shake your butt.
:smokin:
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We could just go to Wal-Mart.
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No fly, no buttons, no wardrobe malfunctions. Thankfully! But this shirt is a 16-18 and I'm going to wear it because I'm tickled not to be a 1x anymore. It just might be a wee bit on the tight side across the chest. Not omg they're busting out tight, but compared to the drapery I've been wearing for clothing, it's definitely form fitting. I'm not trading it back for the 1x, either, so if that's what the issue is, I'll just have to get used to it!
Good for you!! Congratulations on your weight loss. And, yeah... you may just have to get used to those glances and stares. :happy: 0 -
Thank you! I guess it's okay to dance if the men are drunk enough not to notice I'm stepping all over their feet!0
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I'm down 40lbs and wearing about the same size too........and I've noticed more guys glancing around and it's not the "oh that poor fat girl in the twilight shirt thinks she's cute" look anymore. lol. It's really akward trying not to think the automatic negative thoughts and I try really hard to remember to make eye contact and smile at everyone I can.
I was wearing a shirt the other day that says, "Kwityurbellyachin" and this guy walking by at the grocery store says, "Hey I like your shirt!" Which startled me and I quickly look up saying, "uh thank you" and continue walking. Hey.....it's gonna take practice to realize I'm no longer invisible.
Then later that day I realized..............he had to read the shirt and understand what it said.........and that means he was staring at my chest.
I do believe the girls are bigger than the belly for once!! Progress!! ha ha 0 -
Then later that day I realized..............he had to read the shirt and understand what it said.........and that means he was staring at my chest. I do believe the girls are bigger than the belly for once!! Progress!! ha ha
This made me laugh. I was shocked after losing 70 lbs that a male coworker looked at me and asked if I was losing weight. Obviously no guy wants to call attention if he's wrong, but it shocked me that it would take 70 lbs. My friend's theory is that my boobs finally stick out more than my stomach so NOW they notice, haha... and probably true!
I still walked around with my friends saying "I am invisible, men don't notice me"....until I changed my attitude. I was staring at the floor with a lack of confidence not noticing men who DID pay attention. Now I make myself look up and make more eye contact. It's kinda empowering honestly, so don't go back to being invisible, Mara!0 -
If the look is more wide eyed like you are a steak they are about to devour or they are thinking about what you look like under your clothes and you need to shower from just the thought of them looking then they think you are cute in a creepy old man kind of way. ... I had a steak reaction yesterday. Dude you are in your 50's I may be 41 but pass for 28 stop please...
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:laugh: You guys are great. Thanks for this! I'm going to chill a little and just assume the best when I get those looks from now on. Guess it's just been awhile since anyone took any notice of me at all. It kind of made me antsy!0
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Enjoy it girl and definitely take it as a compliment!
I went into a restaurant last week to pick up my lunch and watched a guy turn all the way around to look at me. Not something I'm used to, but I met his gaze and gave him a big smile. Made my day...
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yeah I still have trouble telling if people are like OMFG THATS A HUGE ***** or damn she looks pretty today. Cause it actually is 50/50 of those two things.0
