POF better or worse than OK Cupid?
HellsKells
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Have been using OK Cupid, with pretty miserable results. Just wondering if Plenty of Fish is more of the same or better? I may consider switching to a paid service soon, just because I feel like it might weed out some of the undesirables, but maybe not?
Any thoughts or opinions here? Please?
Any thoughts or opinions here? Please?
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I like OKC better as a site, I don't like the layout of POF at all. But the people will be different everywhere. Around here it seemed like most of the people on OKC were more artistic or creative types, more likely to have tattoos, etc. For me the quality of people on POF was severely lacking. Most people couldn't write a coherent sentence to save their lives and seemed like they were just there to hook up.
I've always like Match personally, most of the people seem to be fairly normal professionals like me, and the selection and quality are both good. That's just how it is around here though, I'm sure everybody has had different experiences.0 -
Don't bother with a pay site, they are not worth it! I think the difference between PoF and OkC is minimal and really varies depending on where you live. But since they are free, why not have a profile on both?0
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I tried POF years ago. It was recommend by my co-worker! That site was horrible! Made a profile on OKC, and honestly I'd say it's about 10% better. I deactivated my account yesterday. Done with internet dating!0
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I've been told that the same people are on all the sites, free or paid.
I personally like the questions on OKC more than the free format of "Tell me about yourself" box on POF, but I've had no luck with either. Of course I'm a guy so I have the trouble of trying to get a girl to notice my message amongst the hoard of *kitten* that send her pecker pics.0 -
I read all my messages, but definitely would notice junk pics first
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Seriously though, no one on there has sent me one so far. I just seem to attract dudes I'm not all that excited about, and the ones I contact that I'm interested in, either I get no response at all, or we message back and forth a couple times and then nothing.
So...I was wondering if I'd have any better luck on another site, but it sounds like, so far, that it doesn't really matter that much...haha.0 -
I've noticed a couple people on multiple sites, but not that many. Could be different in other places though. I'd say it can't really hurt to join multiple sites. Just more idiots to weed through.0
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It seems like sense you are one othe few guys NOT sending pecker pics, it would make you stand out.Of course I'm a guy so I have the trouble of trying to get a girl to notice my message amongst the hoard of *kitten* that send her pecker pics.
Pecker pics would make me delete and block a guy.0 -
I've met several nice guys from POF since I joined in January. But I've found that they key (for me) is really being picky and diligent about weekend out the riff raff. I can pretty much get a feel for someone after 2-3 message exchanges. Or by the first phone call. I think no matter what site you belong to, you have to keep in mind what it is that YOU need/want in a relationship. (Or just dating, if that's the goal....) And don't settle for less that what you expect. And don't pretend to be anything you aren't. I get tons of one or two line introduction messages like, "Wow, what gorgeous eye! I'd love to stare into them in person" or "Hey lovely lady would you like to meet up for drinks tonight?" and those I just hit DELETE. For me, if a guy isn't going to write me a proper message that shows he read my profile, then he's not the guy for me. GOOD LUCK! Whichever you decide.0
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I've met several nice guys from POF since I joined in January. But I've found that they key (for me) is really being picky and diligent about weekend out the riff raff. I can pretty much get a feel for someone after 2-3 message exchanges. Or by the first phone call. I think no matter what site you belong to, you have to keep in mind what it is that YOU need/want in a relationship. (Or just dating, if that's the goal....) And don't settle for less that what you expect. And don't pretend to be anything you aren't. I get tons of one or two line introduction messages like, "Wow, what gorgeous eye! I'd love to stare into them in person" or "Hey lovely lady would you like to meet up for drinks tonight?" and those I just hit DELETE. For me, if a guy isn't going to write me a proper message that shows he read my profile, then he's not the guy for me. GOOD LUCK! Whichever you decide.
What would think of a guy who's attractive, good job, and has a well written profile and send you an email like "hey what's up" or something lame like that. Would you delete?0 -
I'd respond to that, because hey, let's face it, there are a lot of guys that don't have the guts to message at all. At least that one was brave/friendly enough to try.
Besides, isn't that how you start out a friendly conversation anyway? It may not lead anywhere, but I'd at least give them a shot to expand on that.0 -
I found that POF is a much more active site, meaning more messages are exchanged and dates had.
OKcupid, was less active but the two dates I did get seemed to be better dates then the ones from POF.
So if your patient I'd say OKc is better, but if you're looking for a more active site POF.0 -
Same here! I'd be glad they started the convo at all.I'd respond to that, because hey, let's face it, there are a lot of guys that don't have the guts to message at all. At least that one was brave/friendly enough to try.
Besides, isn't that how you start out a friendly conversation anyway? It may not lead anywhere, but I'd at least give them a shot to expand on that.
It's like when someone on MFP sends you a FR and they don't put a message. Unless you specifically stated in your profile for them to say WHY they are interested, they probably won't do so.0 -
I've been told that the same people are on all the sites, free or paid.
I personally like the questions on OKC more than the free format of "Tell me about yourself" box on POF, but I've had no luck with either. Of course I'm a guy so I have the trouble of trying to get a girl to notice my message amongst the hoard of *kitten* that send her pecker pics.
LOL! .... last sentence.
I've tried them all... and honestly think that if it's the right time regardless of where you are or which site...it'll happen.
I hold onto hope for that anyway.
Over the years I have tried them all... and no luck yet.
Though I have never tried ok cupid...0 -
I've been told that the same people are on all the sites, free or paid.
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This is my experience.....maybe because I am in tiny state of CT0 -
I'm not a big fan of both. I find it harder to get ANY messagse on POF. IN fact, I think I've received 2 messages from there. OKC is a little better but challenging. I'm not too sure when it comes to women.
A friend of mine was telling me that she got less creepers on POF vs OKC. Also, a lot of couples would hit her up on OKC.
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POF is far worse in my experience.0
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Haven't trid OKC, but I am thinking about it. I've been on POF less than 3 weeks and gone on 2 dates already, one of which has some promise. I get a lot of silly emails on POF. A few guys who seem to chat nice for a few messages then ask for pics, some that flat out just offer a hookup, but I have yet to get the illusive junk shot **crosses her fingers**!!
My only comparison is with Match... that's been pointless. TONS of very obvious scammers, probably 30% of my messages. Keep us posted if you join OKC. I'd love to hear how that is for you...
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Oh I'm already on OKC....I've been using it for about a month now and I've been on 3 dates. None of them were good :laugh:
But I do get fairly decent profile views and messages, they're just not generally from guys I'd be interested in. There have been a couple that I really was, but after a few messages back and forth, they kinda disappeared, so I'm guessing they got a better feel for someone else.
Was just wondering what others' thoughts on POF were, if they'd also tried OKC.
Sounds like it really doesn't matter one way or the other.
Thanks for everyone's feedback though. Much appreciated 0 -
Sorry, I missed that in your opening email. I'd expect more of the same on POF. Good Luck!0
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Stop with all the POF's and the OKC's. MFP is the the place to be.
Wow that was bad, totally rhymed that on purpose. If I lived in the northern Hemisphere... I'd be all tied up.0 -
I chuckled...haha.0
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I did both... let's first off start by saying I have not had a successful relationship with anyone from either site. That being said, I did however like the matching system through OKCupid. That was way better than just random people that you know nothing about writing you. Either way, you will just have to weed through them.
Or just be like me, and GIVE UP!!! I'm so sick of this dating bs0 -
I did both... let's first off start by saying I have not had a successful relationship with anyone from either site. That being said, I did however like the matching system through OKCupid. That was way better than just random people that you know nothing about writing you. Either way, you will just have to weed through them.
Or just be like me, and GIVE UP!!! I'm so sick of this dating bs
I've deleted all my online profiles, well the ones I can remember the passwords for. I also gave up on Internet. All the local resources have dried up lol0 -
I did both... let's first off start by saying I have not had a successful relationship with anyone from either site. That being said, I did however like the matching system through OKCupid. That was way better than just random people that you know nothing about writing you. Either way, you will just have to weed through them.
Or just be like me, and GIVE UP!!! I'm so sick of this dating bs
I've deleted all my online profiles, well the ones I can remember the passwords for. I also gave up on Internet. All the local resources have dried up lol
You're so right too Nat... I know the ladies love you around here. I may have met someone worth putting some effort into on this site... but only time will tell. You just never know!0 -
Stop with all the POF's and the OKC's. MFP is the the place to be.
Glad MFP is working for you, Nat... can't say I'm having that same result on here! Oh well :sad:0 -
Stop with all the POF's and the OKC's. MFP is the the place to be.
Glad MFP is working for you, Nat... can't say I'm having that same result on here! Oh well :sad:
Just with one particular young lady.
Worlds biggest dating site this is.0 -
When I was thinking about online dating a few people recommended Match.com saying you are more likely to find.. how do I word this.. People who have it together more than on free sites. I understand that this is obviously not 100% true but I talked to a lot of guys with good jobs and their heads on straight.
No one is immune, I got the jerks on Match as well, inviting me over for a good time even though we had never spoken. But I met someone amazing and I never go on mine anymore.. Even though I am paying for the next 5 months. lol Damn contracts.0 -
No one is immune, I got the jerks on Match as well, inviting me over for a good time even though we had never spoken. But I met someone amazing and I never go on mine anymore.. Even though I am paying for the next 5 months. lol Damn contracts.
On Match, no average looking woman (or better than average) in her 20s and without children needs more than a 3 month contract. You'll have enough inquiries to schedule enough dates and have a good choice in a man in a month or two. If that's not the case, the woman is likely too fussy and stringent in her boyfriend prerequisites.
But that someone amazing is worth whatever you are paying for the next 5 months. And if things don't work out in the next 2-3 months, you'll still have some time left.0 -
LOL if only life worked in neat logic like that!On Match, no average looking woman (or better than average) in her 20s and without children needs more than a 3 month contract. You'll have enough inquiries to schedule enough dates and have a good choice in a man in a month or two. If that's not the case, the woman is likely too fussy and stringent in her boyfriend prerequisites.
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LOL if only life worked in neat logic like that!On Match, no average looking woman (or better than average) in her 20s and without children needs more than a 3 month contract. You'll have enough inquiries to schedule enough dates and have a good choice in a man in a month or two. If that's not the case, the woman is likely too fussy and stringent in her boyfriend prerequisites.
I will admit I think I am a rare exception that I found someone so quickly.. but it happens! It is WELL worth the price I paid for the 6 months and yeah.. if he flips a switch and turns out to be nothing like he seems I still have time on Match..0
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