So I joined POF...
Laura_Suzie
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I opened a profile, I've had it for two hours. I have one picture (my profile pic from this website that's not revealing at all). All the guys I've messaged so far have done nothing but badger me for topless pics. Ew no thanks. Never going to happen. Is every man on this website a pervert? Seriously... go watch some porn if you are that desperate.
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Hey, I asked politely!
Yeah, I deleted my POF. Seems like a vast wasteland.0 -
The early messages I got were pretty funny...what you're seeing is normal (well, ok, abnormal, but normal for online dating). There are a lot of freaks on free sites, but there are good guys too. Guys that do that, well, they do it to almost all new women and if it works even one time, they got free pics of boobs! Can't fault them for trying, haha...0
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if it works even one time, they got free pics of boobs! Can't fault them for trying, haha...
Or they could just use google images. Why do they need pics of specifically my boobs? haha Just putting it out there...0 -
Or they could just use google images. Why do they need pics of specifically my boobs? haha Just putting it out there...
It's a more personal fantasy for people who probably don't see a lot of real boobs. You're dealing with a real person and the boobs were sent to just you, not anyone with a keyboard and a wifi connection.
I prefer the kind I can touch, though. I assume any boobs sent to me online are coming from a fat dude in Georgia who drools on himself.0 -
you'll get used to it. Just delete and move on.
What happened to your date IRL?? Haven't you arranged another one? :flowerforyou:0 -
you'll get used to it. Just delete and move on.
What happened to your date IRL?? Haven't you arranged another one? :flowerforyou:
Date went really well and we've talked several times since. No plans for another one yet... :ohwell:0 -
After two dates from POF I gladly gave up that site....not worth it even if it is free. Of course now I moved on to OkCupid and went on one date and there wasn't too much of an improvement. But honestly I try not to expect too much from free dating websites and just have fun with it. If I meet someone great, if not then there's no harm done. Good luck! :drinker:0
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There are guys who just wait and prey on the newbies on the free sites. Give it a week or so and you'll start to see some of the more normal ones.0
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lol just block them all and go to your mail settings and weed them out!
You can manage it better that way. And be patient..you'll probably get the perverts all the way through as you are young and pretty but from memory they calm down after the first week.0 -
haha A guy asked me what I was wearing and I said, "Ummm, Sweats." He was like, "Mmm that's sexy." Wait. Come again? In what planet is that sexy? Pervs... haha0
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MFP is far more reliable source of potentials than pof will ever be. No offense, but the quality of the people on there don't really rock my boat. I'm sure it's different depending on where you come from. But the paid sites seem to have a nicer selection.
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For "First Date" a lot of the guys have, "I'll surprise you". Surprise me with what? Stuffing me into your trunk?0
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I opened a profile, I've had it for two hours. I have one picture (my profile pic from this website that's not revealing at all). All the guys I've messaged so far have done nothing but badger me for topless pics. Ew no thanks. Never going to happen. Is every man on this website a pervert? Seriously... go watch some porn if you are that desperate.
This is exactly my problem with POF. It seems like they are nice, for like a few messages, and then they start asking for dirty pics. Lame! I said to someone earlier: I have MFP for that! haha!
I don't even get on POF anymore, better to meet someone the old fashioned way....kinda.0 -
haha A guy asked me what I was wearing and I said, "Ummm, Sweats." He was like, "Mmm that's sexy." Wait. Come again? In what planet is that sexy? Pervs... haha
Actually sweats are sexy to a lot of guys but it is POF so it comes off creepy especially with themmm added in front.0 -
Honestly Laura if you're willing to pay, Nat is right that the quality is higher on paid sites. You're a beautiful woman and should have no trouble getting messages. I just never did get anything, other than scammers on Match, so free sites were the better option for a girl like me... You won't have that issue! Good luck!0
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Honestly Laura if you're willing to pay, Nat is right that the quality is higher on paid sites. You're a beautiful woman and should have no trouble getting messages. I just never did get anything, other than scammers on Match, so free sites were the better option for a girl like me... You won't have that issue! Good luck!
You get the same garbage on paid sites that you get on the free ones....it is all because they are hiding behind a computer.0 -
Ive only just joined. Ive been on for a week and I havent got any messages yet!!!!
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There are guys who just wait and prey on the newbies on the free sites. Give it a week or so and you'll start to see some of the more normal ones.
This was true for me as well - I got some pretty lewd messages on the first few days - but after, things seemed to calm down a lot. I'm okay with POF, but I met the most wonderful man on there - it's been over a month and we're still going strong
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I agree with this, pay sites are not worth it! This is from my own experience plus that of friends. Just don't waste your money.Honestly Laura if you're willing to pay, Nat is right that the quality is higher on paid sites. You're a beautiful woman and should have no trouble getting messages. I just never did get anything, other than scammers on Match, so free sites were the better option for a girl like me... You won't have that issue! Good luck!
You get the same garbage on paid sites that you get on the free ones....it is all because they are hiding behind a computer.
Yay! Keep us posted!!This was true for me as well - I got some pretty lewd messages on the first few days - but after, things seemed to calm down a lot. I'm okay with POF, but I met the most wonderful man on there - it's been over a month and we're still going strong You just never know
Sorry, but I'm sure you'll find someone interesting on there soonIve only just joined. Ive been on for a week and I havent got any messages yet!!!!
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Ive only just joined. Ive been on for a week and I havent got any messages yet!!!!
Sorry, you're a guy. You might as well get used to not getting messages in online dating, it comes with the territory for most of us. I would send out a message a day and get 1 reply every 2 weeks. Only once had a girl message me first and that was a fake profile. Hopefully you'll have better luck though!0 -
Honestly Laura if you're willing to pay, Nat is right that the quality is higher on paid sites. You're a beautiful woman and should have no trouble getting messages. I just never did get anything, other than scammers on Match, so free sites were the better option for a girl like me... You won't have that issue! Good luck!
I am going to kick your *kitten* woman! You are beautiful too and smart, talented, and a great friend. So stop it!0 -
Honestly Laura if you're willing to pay, Nat is right that the quality is higher on paid sites. You're a beautiful woman and should have no trouble getting messages. I just never did get anything, other than scammers on Match, so free sites were the better option for a girl like me... You won't have that issue! Good luck!
I am going to kick your *kitten* woman! You are beautiful too and smart, talented, and a great friend. So stop it!
I'm not saying I'm not great, Meghan... no *kitten* kicking needed :laugh: I am just realistic enough to recognize that putting "Plus a few Pounds" means I'm not going to get the traffic of someone "About Average" or below. Like it or not, online dating is all visual, and since men are more visual than women, it makes it even harder. I've literally gotten 2 messages and 6 winks in 6 weeks on Match....
Now I made a HUGE mistake with Match in that I used an OLD account that I unhid so I didn't get that benefit of being new, but outside that, it's been worthless. Trying not to feel like that means I'm not of the right caliber, but it isn't always easy 0 -
You'll get enough messages on either a free or paid site to set up some dates. Choose to go out with the best guys! But I think you'll have even better success offline, with your initial meeting of the person being in person rather than via some sort of electronic device. When you meet someone in person first, there is a better chance that you'll get a sense of whether you will mesh with them better, leading to better first dates and first dates that lead to more second dates and beyond.0
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Unless you are in college 17-21 is a bad age for dating cuz you are out of high school and you are too young to get in to most bars/clubs (though in my area most are 18+)0
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Honestly Laura if you're willing to pay, Nat is right that the quality is higher on paid sites. You're a beautiful woman and should have no trouble getting messages. I just never did get anything, other than scammers on Match, so free sites were the better option for a girl like me... You won't have that issue! Good luck!
You get the same garbage on paid sites that you get on the free ones....it is all because they are hiding behind a computer.
I was on POF, Match and OKC at different times and sometimes the same time, and even tried eharmony---ALOT of the exact same people---some don't even change their profile. So, paid sites don't give you better qualty---but I do live in small state of CT--maybe that is why?0 -
Ive only just joined. Ive been on for a week and I havent got any messages yet!!!!
You have to be on line to be seen, and if you message them, some do message back :flowerforyou:0 -
MFP is far more reliable source of potentials than pof will ever be. No offense, but the quality of the people on there don't really rock my boat. I'm sure it's different depending on where you come from. But the paid sites seem to have a nicer selection.
I agree. This would be more of a way to meet people in your area. If you want, try meetfitnesssingles.com or http://www.fitness-singles.com/ (I'm on this one but you have to pay for it to get better resuts.. i haven't committed to paying for the site yet)0 -
Eh I deleted it. I did have one normal conversation that was nice, but I don't think online dating is for me. I would rather meet people the oldfashioned way.0
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I really struggled the old fashioned way since I don't get out much with my crappy schedule. I went on a few dates from Match.com and none of them were bad. Normal people and I had fun each time. Met my now boyfriend (as of last night) on Match.com...
You have to give it some time if you choose to try again.0 -
I met some creepers on POF, but I also met the guy I have been seeing on there. He is a normal nice guy - which astounded me but I am happy. There are always creepers and stuff, you just have to weed them out.0
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