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Tell him to stop acting like a little girl or you will begin to treat him like one.

I thought I gained muscle but I should say LBMass, which is probably just water then. I apologize for being such a dumba$$. I used the wrong terms. I did learn from all your posts, thought, and so thank you for taking the time. I am sorry you feel it wasn't worth it. I appreciate it and all your help. Thanks.

- Thank you for the tip. I went to the gym this morning and did cardio before breakfast. I will try this routine for a while and see if that increases the rate of body fat loss.

Thank you. The fat loss has definitely slowed down, and I hope to get it back up to 2 lbs a week, at least. I upped the cardio this morning to an hour (987 calories burned the machine said - I don't know how accurate it is. I entered my weight in). I could just be retaining water, like you said. I don't know for sure. I…

Impossible, right? I know it is hard to believe. Oh well, I will post before and after photos at some point so you can have a good laugh at my expense, encourage me to work harder, or whatever. I wish you the best of success in your journey, though. I am just relaying what docs are telling me. They could be full of it, but…

You're right. The sheet says 192 of LBM. I guess the increases in muscle could be just water. LOL. I do upper body one day, lower body the next, and cardio everyday. I just upped it to 1 hour of cardio each day (beginning yesterday). I decided to up the calories to 2200, now. Hopefully that is enough. When I started back…

Thank you for your insights and directness. I have learned a lot. I can't train heavy 1-5 rep range, right now. It is too hard on my joints. I am over 400 in my bench, again, but it is way too soon. Plus, I don't want to be a power lifter. Just want to get rid of the body fat. Maybe I should up the reps to avoid packing on…

Thank you for the link. Not being too knowledgeable about the best approach to losing body fat and maintaining lbm, I am falling back on Army days when we were deprived of calories for training, and I lost a lot of weight. Is it bad to eat below BMR? I don't know. Would it slow my metabolism down? I just figured out what…

Thank you for putting more info in, and my apologies if I come across wrong. How much of a deficit is too much? How does one calculate just the right deficit to be eating at? I hear if I consume too few calories, my metabolism will slow down. Right now, I eat 400-600 less than my BMR and burn around 800-1000 in exercising.…

Thanks. I am no expert at all, as many can obviously tell. I have tons of wrong assumptions. There are so many conflicting approaches. In the Army, I never did supplements, ran all the time and did tons of PT (infantry). Calories were low, body fat was low. I got injured jumping and over the years have put on weight. I am…

I am having a ton of work related stress, too - more than ever it seems. I switched my exercising to the first thing in the morning, when I think my cortisol levels are the highest. When I conquer just getting some exercise done, I go to work with some success under my belt already, and I feel better.

A day at a time. I just keep telling myself to be active, and the first thing I do each morning, now, is exercise. It is taking a while to rev up the metabolism, again, but I keep making small gains. Not all success is measured on the weight scale. You might gain a little muscle, which washes out any fat loss the scale…

There is a difference between losing "weight" and "losing just bodyfat". They are not necessarily the same. If you are in a deficit, are you saying you cannot lose any muscle?

We all know 3,500 calories = 1 lbs of bodyfat. If your desire is not to lose muscle, but rather only body fat, would it not stand to reason that you may want to have a decent amount of protein in your diet?

Sorry, you couldn't grasp the point.

Great job. Way to stick with it!

Looks like what you eat is important, too, keeping within calorie goals. Like another said, though, as long as it keeps you within the calorie goals, you should be good to go. Staying within calorie goals seems to be the consensus everyone agrees upon. What ratios of protein, carbs, and fats to eat is a topic for another…

Yes, you are so right. If you want to lose weight, eat whatever you want as long as calories are at a deficit. Grab some donuts. If you want to lose only body fat, however it matters where your calories come from. No myth there.

Energy and confidence.

An article spiked the topic for discussion. It had said that eating many small meals kept insulin up, which might not turn on fat burning enzymes. I have always thought that calories in calories out made sense, but I tend to overanalyze and second guess and constantly think the fat burning processes can be somehow enhanced…

Nice job! So, was that just eating less and exercising more?

His weight is the least of your problems. Pretty soon, age will catch up with him, or he may struggle at work or financially. Hurry up and leave him before he gets older, sick, develops mental health issues, financial problems, or fails to meet other expectations. Love 'em or leave 'em. All the conditions are BS.

I looked up Sylvester Stallone's diet... well, I tried to, anyway. It looks like he really did not eat a heck of a lot, and he exercised like crazy. I am not exactly sure at what point the body will stop burning calories, i.e., stop losing weight. The only thing I can figure, since we burn calories sitting around, is when…

I am really beginning to hate my scale. I about ready to throw it off a building. If that is the only measure of success, then I think I will be miserable by its ups and downs. I am feeling good, exercising, eating good, and my strength is increasing, fat is decreasing, and I enjoy life more... but that scale sucks! It…

I increased my calories a little and I began to lose weight faster, but as I have fallen behind, again, in calorie consumption, I am having trouble losing weight. I lift heavy weights 6 days a week and do 40 minutes of steady state cardio. I know I am burning around a 1000 calories a day in exercises. I have only been…

Why not eat below BMR? I am set at 600 below BMR, and I finished 800 below BMR, today. I am still gaining muscle (not a lot but a little) and burning fat. I am not a little guy, and I think my BMR is 2600. I shoot for 2000 calories. Am I going to go into starvation mode until I get it back to 2000?

I hope you will get a hug from him and a thanks! :smiley:

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Accept him at whatever weight he is, or let him go so he can find someone who will. Then, he might just go to the gym. Yes, the people we love may not care about being healthy in every respect. You have to let them live their lives, though, at some point. It is an effort in futility to change people into the way you want…

My kids go exercise with me.