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Absolutely, the last thing I want is for her to feel untrusted and unhappy. She's a very competitive person so I think that if she did want to actively join me in trying to change our lifestyle a little bit, we would have to be extra vigilant against that sort of thinking. She sometimes talks rather wistfully about how…

I think this is part of the reason I was feeling guilty - I don't strictly need to lose weight. I am in a 'normal' range, just towards the upper end. I am also relatively healthy. I didn't eat chocolate all day long before, but I also didn't give too much consideration to making sure that the meals I cook are nutritionally…

Like you say, a lot of it may come down to the way in which I talk about it. Her family can be a bit insensitive and I know she finds it hard when they say things like 'I feel so fat' or 'I can't eat that, it's too fattening'. But we've done well so far with doing a bit more exercise and framing it as being for the sake of…

Thank you all for your advice. I think I knew really that I should be honest with her. I feel like I am having an affair with my scales at the moment; hiding them under my bed xD I will have a think about how best to have this discussion with her and then we'll talk when it feels like a good moment.

Thanks for the advice, Liftng4Lis :) A big concern is that I don't want to treat her as a child who can't make her own decisions and can't know certain things, so you may be right.