TheLegendaryBrandonHarris Member

While we may wish things were different, some societal cliches exist for a reason. A woman wants a man. She may end up with a chump because she settles, as we probably all have done at some point or another, but she wants a man. Motivated, confident, thoughtful, caring, productive, fit, successful, decisive, skilled,…

What I've noticed with "Friend Zoned" guys is they are completely oblivious to these signals. Then they'll use something like confirmation bias to delude themselves into thinking a woman is interested in them. "Well, she did respond to my text, so that means something, right???" Usually, it's guys hoping against hope that…

Exactly. The signals are there, move on.

Yeah, I didn't read that as sarcasm, either.

BlackScorpio91 recognizes what I am saying about being genuine. Any intelligent woman will pick up on a ruse, con, or fakery. It's got to be genuine.

And I'd like to add that being rejected can and does lead to a 'turning off' and the attraction quickly dissipates.

Wingsandgills, The op was asking why he was often unsuccessful with women. The advice I shared was what I have been successful with.

Amyrebeccah, the op was asking about women. So my response was in regards to women.

Sigh...there I go, quoting myself again.

OK, sorry...mobile issues again...whoops.

Gah!!!! Sorry, sorry, I left something out! NO COMPLAINING! Don't do it. It's OK to mention a problem you are having, but DO NOT come off as a passive character in your own life. It makes women think you are powerless.

The best advice I can give is try to make yourself into the best man you can be, and you will attract good women. And go by the traditional things women find attractive. Be physally fit, or on your way to physical fitness, and take care of yourself. Take pride in your appearance---your clothes match and are clean, you take…

And I am typing this on a mobile device...holy crap. Please excuse any grammatical and spelling errors!

Sorry, I have been Andqvelling and unable to catch up. The main thing I keep seeing repeated is that my comment about women not knowing what they want is false. But I'm not wrong in this. The reason why is because people can make a list of things they want in a partner, yet end up attracted to someone completely different.…

I was diagnosed with Crohns in Nov. of 2006. A week later I was in for a resection. Food is tough because the easiest stuff to digest is not the healthiest. While, as some stated above, everyone is different, in my case I can eat vegetables that have been cooked. No raw veg, it's too coarse. Rich foods are tough so go…

I understand that you don't like what I said. I understand that you are trying to use signal words like rapey to let everyone else know that I am the bad guy and to scare me into being quiet. It's OK. A lot of people do that when they see things they don't like. Unfortunately, it stifles an honest discussion. But you are…

I've tried a lot of different ways, mainly based on time periods in my life and how I was feeling. It wasn't a conscious choice---shy and awkward in the early years, cocky and confident in my 20s, more reserved in college (I started college in my late 20s and most of the girls I dated were 5 to 9 years younger than me),…

Good deal! Wednesday was two weeks for me with no blood pressure meds. You're right, it does feel good.

lol... My, that is certainly an interesting tale!

It's ok to be angry. It's an emotion like any other, but it's not healthy to stay there for too long. Look at what's making you angry---is it something on TV? Is it a shirt with someone is wearing with something on it you don't like? I spend time every day around someone that cannot enjoy movies because the actors in those…

Take your dancing shoes and bust a move! :p

^^I am bad to not chew well, too, and eating way too fast.^^ I'll eat standing up a lot of the time, just chew and swallow and let's go!

Every few months I'll eat something that either gets stuck or my intestines will not let it leave my stomach. I have no idea how this works. It's pretty bad when this happens because the only way I get over it is by getting sick. Tuesday at lunch I had a hankering for a tomato sandwich. Just bread, tomato, lettuce, and a…

I often toast the bread in the pan with olive oil. Adds calories but holy smokes it's worth it.

I have Crohn's, have had an intestinal resection, and i struggle with this as well. Raw veg tears me out the frame! One food I love is collard greens. I like the flavor and have cornbread with it. I am also doing well with things like Boca burgers, and breads like Arnold's Health Nut. You might also try smaller quantities…

I'm down 30 pounds since mid-January. You just have to be honest with yourself. What's happened with me is I'm learning how to see foods differently. It's training me to recognize what a serving looks like. It's teaching me what foods I can more or less indulge in and what I need to avoid altogether. Also, I like reading…

I agree. I've been successful in eating healthier and enjoying what I eat by learning some fundamentals about nutrition. For instance, I can go to various food and recipe pages and look for new ideas, and when something looks interesting I'll go through the ingredients and make sure everything in it works for me. As you…

Fitz and the Tantrums "Out of My League" https://youtu.be/Z4mbxaa3XL8

Cool! This is very inspiring!