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Absolutely, when you think your needs are important, then you assert yourself. Breast feeding babies do need their moms more in the beginning, but when the kids get to be the school age ones, things get a bit hectic in the household...especially if you have more than two...

There are many of course, good relationships to be had. Must be the locale I'm in. :wink:

Yeah, that's why the divorce attorneys are getting rich courts are running overtime... TBH, nobody knows what it's like to have a kid until they do. It's a life changing event, and some folks (men and women) just want out, so some don't come home, they spend a lot of time "at work" or "at the gym."

That's just it....the parents (mom and dad) are to sacrifice for their family. Just an observation that what each parent thinks sacrifice is....for instance, some men seem to think taking care of their kid(s) is babysitting...

But I'm not married, nor in a relationship...thank goodness...just an observation of the people around me, but thanks, I am feeling kind of gripey...goes with the territory...glad you are doing very well for yourself....not everybody is as lucky as you two (and your profile suggests you don't have any kids either.)

So, the working mom needs to pick up the kid from child care, get home, feed said kid, help with homework, do the odd chore like cleaning the kitchen, doing laundry, then she is suppose to have time to do these exercises at home? Oh, wait, let's have her do them in the morning before everyone is up unless said husband gets…

But that's the point....the male partners I'm referencing DON'T ask, they just tell their partner what they are gonna do, or don't even bother doing that. I don't mind asking, or even telling, but then nag or a the "b" word gets mentioned.... :neutral:

Well, he IS getting a workout... :neutral:

At first, all I wanted to do was get this weight off. When I lost 40 lbs on Weight Watchers, 10 years ago, it was the first time I had ever dieted, and so I was very disciplined. Then having reached goal, I relaxed. Pretty much day one of maintenance, was day one gaining back all 40, plus the extra 50. I never learned…

Easy if you stick to cheaper cuts of meat, poultry, and include beans and eggs as another source of lean protein. Rice, potatoes, spaghetti noodles, in season fruits and veggies, milk, and bread.

I read to the end.... It broke my heart to know that as a young person of 16 you could not go to your parents. Yes, they would have been disappointed to know you chose drugs, and that you were depressed, but more than anything they would have just wanted to help....to love on you and be there for you. You did amazingly…

Nothing to it but to just do it. One day at a time and before you know it, you will be a smaller version of the you of today. First few days can be tough cause your body needs to catch up to your mental decision. So, be patient with it as it adjusts. When I started, I didn't think I could live on the amount of calories…

Working moms are the ones who struggle to put themselves first. Their husbands seem to know how to stop off and get a drink with his buddies before he gets home. So did she pick a bad husband?

I love to do it...It keeps me mindful of what I'm doing. Weekly weigh in is light years away....lol. what's the harm unless you get wigged out that you gained a pound, and even then its good. Reassess what you are doing. I have gone up and down by 3 lbs within 3 weeks. Logging in my weight is like logging in here. Some…

This guy is not working. Working is very important to men. He has low self-esteem. You get to go out to work, mingle with people, socially, and now you want to hang out with your friends during time you should be hanging with him. So, now, he feels even more unloved, no matter what you say. Action speak louder than words.…

Wow...you need to love this man from afar....what are you waiting on? And were you always overweight since you met him? If yes, that's kind of your answer right there. You are changing and leaving him behind. His insecurities are coming out.

My take....don't have kids unless you absolutely can care for them by yourself, and have great life insurance in case. #1 reason why women are poor, usually overweight with no time for themselves is because they have a kid or two, or three. If I could get into the face of as many high school females as I could this is what…

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I don't go all out on day 1, for each new thing I try. Creep up on your goals. Baby steps. Build a foundation of effort, and the desire to do it every day will build till it becomes a habit. You want fast results but will burn out before it shows results, cause you are asking the question that you are now. Tsk, tsk. Do the…

Nah...don't start at all...you are not ready. Keep eating, no exercise...you will be where I started...hoping any change you make will keep you alive. Meantime...continue as you have. Doctor will give you a little talk, you might come back here, or not. Either way....you are responsible for you. First world problems....how…

Interesting....if we are truly just animals.....like certain animals who hibernate like the mammals on this part of the hemisphere...it means eating up and staying inside. Sooooo...how to counteract that....hmmm. Maybe something about where the sun sits signals something. I live on the West Coast, and am always interested…

This is pretty much me now. I started MFP this my 2nd time, for health reasons. So I was intentional on little sugar and sodium. The hardest part was my morning coffee, always cream and sugar, ALWAYS, since like forever. Now I can drink my coffee black. Never thought I would see the day. It took me about a month to wean…

The dreaded office snacks....me, unless I'm full for lunch I'm not going in to the breakroom! Avoidance for me is the ticket now....until what I'm currently eating is so satisfying and filling, why go where temptation is? Alcoholic in recovery is not going into the bar, even if they say I'll just have a tonic water...if…

I don't think she was trying to push a religion, but rather offered some reading that makes one feel part of something special. Since she is most familiar with the Bible, that was offered. Perhaps she could have phrased it in a way to seek something outside of one's self, like a greater good, thoughts of peace and…

So, when you buy the healthy food, do you keep it in your bedroom? If you can't move out cause of finances, can you at least buy yourself a little refrigerator to keep perishables in it in your room.....something you would have to do if you lived in a dorm at school. Honestly, willpower is going to have come into play at…

The thing I keep reminding myself is that time is going to go by anyway. We are just weeks away from Christmas, for pete's sake! I started MFP this second time, just 45 days ago. In another 45 days where do I want to be weight wise. In the past 3 weeks I have lost and regained, and lost again 3 lbs. Am I gonna beat myself…

Yes, I got my inspiration from the security people in the lobby of my building. They all wear the same, but very nice suits with ties, one is a female. She wears it everyday...so i said if she can wear her suit everyday and not be ashamed, I can do likewise. I also got this idea from something I read a time back how Steve…

It happens to all of us....just keep at it...look at the diaries of people who have lost a lot of weight. It encourages me. You encourage me. :smiley:

Ditto!