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I totally respect your experience and opinion but everyone's specifics are different. I started out at 140 and for my activity level and metabolism if I eat more than 1400-1500 calories a day I gain weight - unless I'm exercising a reasonable amount. I think the smaller you are, the tighter the margins. It takes more…

I'm 53 in a few weeks ;) It's wonderful that you're getting in a lot of exercise and you've lost a couple pounds! Whoo Hoo!!! I've had a headache for the past few days, which happens occasionally and always causes intense cravings. My body just wants something that feels good to counter the constant, nagging pain. Hoping…

You look amazing - your body is looking awesome but your face shows so much confidence and happiness! Keep posting! Love seeing your progress!!

I can't give up my coffee but have tried and it just hurts - headache, cranky etc. Maybe if you go really slow like drop a half can a week it will be less painful? Green tea is supposedly pretty caffeinated so you could add in that with a little honey or straight (if you can take it) to soften the withdrawal. But certainly…

Depends - I usually eat around the same for every meal unless I go out to eat for a meal. I tend to eat around 300 calories in the morning and then graze throughout the day. Often I don't really have a proper lunch or dinner just small plates every few hours. This works best for me.

My guy tells me that too. Honestly, I think he does love me no matter what but also I think he prefers women with a little meat on them. At times in the past I felt like he was fearful of me losing weight. This time around I didn't tell him until I'd lost probably ten pounds. I just didn't want to hear how I'm fine the way…

Yes, I also had this problem. Metabolism is slower with menopause. I never thought I could actually do this, but I've been successful this time thankfully! Since around mid-January and I've lost 15-16lbs - close to a pound a week. I've done this by eating approximately 1000 calories a day. If I eat the recommended 1200 -…

Most people do - even old folks like me;) For comparison, I'm in my fifties, 5'3" and not particularly active - seated job etc and I hit the gym sporadically - sometimes going several times a week, sometimes barely going for two weeks at a time. I lose on 1200, whether I work out or not. I really didn't think that was…

Do like the Kardashians and suck the fat from somewhere else and put it in your butt! Seriously, there's so much misinformation about increasing the butt with exercise. Squats, deadlifts, lunges, and such are the answer but it will take heavy weight and time to see it happen. Use as much weight as allows you to do 7-10…

Perhaps you need to really, really get meticulous on your food logging, and lose the cheat day or cheat meal. You can easily eat 1000-2000 or more calories in a decadent meal/cocktails effectively erasing all of your hard work the previous 7 days. Instead of cheat day or meal, incorporate your favorites into your meals -…

It's a long road and it's hard to keep up the enthusiasm. What gets to me at times is that even with all I've lost (a lot for me) I still have a ways to go and I still feel overweight so that gets me down. I do enjoy logging on here and inputting my new weight every so often. That's pretty enjoyable. I try to get on the…

Go to bed an hour earlier. Maybe try to bump up the protein and decrease carbs. Also, try drinking extra water upon waking and throughout the day. Mild dehydration can cause fatigue.

When I "cheat" the calories are worked into my daily total. I see no point cheating without making up for the extra calories - it's like going backwards. But I don't have a lot to lose so my margin for error is very small. I still manage to have ice cream, the occasional cocktail, even a little salty snacks in small…

There are a lot of myths out there about under-eating and holding onto weight - to truly enter starvation mode you need to do a lot more than slightly under eat. I agree with other folks - you are consuming more than you realize. On days where I feel like I've barely eaten I've actually gone over my calories at times. I'm…

Well, I know body fat in women is somehow connected with hormones - something about our bodies creating and/or storing more estrogen when we have higher body fat. Could be your body is going through some hormonal craziness due to weight coming off along with a change in your activity level and/or a shift in diet. Initially…

You're one of the few who get it! Lots of folks seem to think liking outside validation is a problem!

That's funny!

I haven't gone down a ton size-wise - in some things maybe 1 size (i've now lost a total of 15lbs) - but in other garments, it seems they just fit better and going down a size might still be too tight. I'm not shedding weight in my butt or boobs all that much - more in my stomach and legs and to a lesser degree in my arms…

I think you're onto something. Today, I wore a really cute dress I'd received as a gift last year (but it was too small). It's a little on the short side and tailored but age-appropriate - definitely emphasizes the waist. A client looked at me when I walked in and said, "Wow, you're too hot!" Maybe that would be offensive…

I get that. There are definitely some friends who I know who would never comment on a person's weight. But when I was thin people were always remarking on my weight - even though they were usually wrong about whatever they observed - frequently thinking I'd lost weight when I hadn't. I suppose people don't worry so much…

That's crazy! I think it's backlash to all the fat shaming that goes on. More contemporary thinking is we shouldn't police other people's bodies or say things that might make them feel self-conscious or under scrutiny. This is just so new to me.

Since I was convinced that I wasn't going to be able to do this, I told only a few people. My boyfriend has sabotaged my weight loss attempts in the past and he's very insecure. I knew if I told him he'd be rolling home with creme brûlée and tiramisu every night, so there was no way I was telling him. But, now that I'm…

I'm losing weight for me but I am so damn proud of this accomplishment and I feel like I look so much better that yes, I wouldn't mind a little external validation. We are humans, social creatures, and I don't think anyone is truly human from the need for validation or a pat on the back. Will it stop me from continuing -…

I disagree. What I found was that since people knew I wasn't into it no one offered me anything or even did it in front of me. I've got non adult-working friends who are total potheads and/or hard drinkers. I think you're basing your opinions on stereotypes you've seen in the media. Until you've worked in the industry you…

And not all strippers are great pole dancers - you can make just as much gliding around the stage looking hot as you can doing impressive moves on the pole. Plus, pole dancing can result in unsightly bruises and brush burns - not great for the appearance when you work mostly naked and the pole is shared so if you're a…

I think you're right! I've been hesitant to get more form-fitting things because I haven't been able to wear them in so long and then my age makes me feel a little funny about dressing in tighter clothes - but I'm going to go for more fitted items - might as well enjoy this new waist thing I've got going!

It may be that I haven't changed what I wear significantly - I have a few new things but mostly just enjoying the extra room in the old things ;)

I care because I see big changes in my body, energy level and attitude. This is profound and amazing to me and I'm so happy about it - and yet, inexplicably it's invisible to those closest to me. So what does that say? Does it say I'm just this invisible older woman who people don't really see anymore? Does it say the…

The other thing - sorry TMI - is that my chest has not shrunk with the weight loss and I feel like it makes me look huge in the torso - I was hoping to lose some more in that area.

I'm actually NOT a yo-yo dieter. I've fluctuated a little - in my twenties it was 115-120. In my thirties and forties it was 125-128. When I say I've tried diets and failed - basically I never lost anything or lost just a couple of pounds. I've never lost this much and put it back on - except once 20 years ago when I went…