lunchboxchuck Member

I like this! I was definitely going to put some active, no-makeup photos and plenty of full body ones. It's just that the worst of my issues are obscured by any clothing besides maybe a bikini (which I don't even own nor would I ever!) so I'm inadvertently hiding most of it.

This is awesome! Thank you!

I definitely subscribe to this way of thinking in non-physical relationships. And I know I'm not that picky, even in those, but have had it emphasized so much in my 18 years of dating and a marriage that it's taking a lot to consider it isn't always this way. Thank you!

This would be really cool. Thank you!

Thank you.

I am afraid I am attracting the wrong people now that I am not outwardly fat in clothing. They have higher expectations and aren't expecting what's going on under a shirt. But I attracted men that told me to lose weight before, so I just don't know.

Good luck to you too! <3

I'm not saying I'm not willing to try again. I'm asking how to mitigate this is in the future by being straightforward?, posting unflattering pictures on dating sites?, looking for encouragement from people that have dated with post-weight loss horror shows and ended up happy, etc.

Well I reacted by not seeing him anymore after wasting month's of each others' time.

Like just say I lost 50 lbs and let them fill in the blanks? Will that sound like bragging? Do I put that in an online dating profile? Or do I say I lost 50 lbs and it isn't great under there?

Because I don't want to hear those kinds of comments again, nor do I want to imagine that's what guys are thinking about me. I "pass" for a good looking woman with clothes on so I feel like I'm misleading people and setting myself up for this.

That's fortunate. My skin might tighten a little, but the lines aren't going anywhere.

Um OK. The aforementioned comment was the first indication he wasn't a “better" man, so I'm not sure how I would have known.

I have had to take the focus off of looks to keep the weight loss going. I went from the 190s to about 140, and I honestly look a lot worse without clothes. I am focused on health markers like blood pressure, resting heart rate, and how easy running and other exercises are now. I look horrible, but I feel healthier.