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Welcome @jessgetsatit ! But you haven't given up on yourself! You're here! Treating yourself with a little compassion for being a human who struggles sometimes can go a long way <3

I'm very fortunate to not have any family members who are ever mean, rude, or intrusive about anything related to weight loss, but they definitely have fallen into some misinformation traps. Husband and I are in this together this time, both of us looking to lose about 40 lbs. I'm eating 1300-1500 cals a day, he's eating…

You posted pretty recently about losing your period, yeah? I think thing #1 for you is to focus on getting enough calories in to maintain a healthy weight. Doesn't really matter how at first. If you have to eat ice cream or a donut to get those calories, do that until you're healthy again. If you've lost your period due to…

160 for 6'0" is right in the middle of the middle of the normal BMI range, so that doesn't seem too low at all. At 5'5" I'm probably looking at 115-120 to be as lean as I want without building up some muscle, but I'm probably gonna try for 125 and some recomping because muscle is nice.

MFP is really buggy right now, and I'm not sure its cardio database is very accurate outside of the basics like walking and running. If you don't think it's right, you can adjust the calories yourself. That said: 1) I have found that branded fitness programs (Beachbody, Zumba, etc. ) will state the high end of what…

Can I pick neither? When we're doing something we shouldn't do, we tend to hide it and lie about it. Having an affair? Stealing? Spending money you don't really have on new clothes? It doesn't have to be an addiction like drugs or gambling for a person to want to keep it secret. You *know* that you'd be scolded by your…

Isn't there some diet plan that brags about you getting to eat plates of pasta on it? :D To be clear, I agree with everyone above that weight loss is about calories, and between Atkins, keto, etc. I think carbs have been very unfairly demonized. That said, I think there's a reason why pasta, bread, and other starches tend…

I'm confused. Jeans are actual pants. Why is anyone wearing actual pants these days? I'm mostly WFH right now but occasionally have to go into the office. I showed up in yoga pants that had a hole in the butt one day because I'm really over pants.

Outdoors, year-round is going to really depend on your climate and what you have access to, but here's a few ideas: Gardening. You can make your space pretty with flowers or you can grow your own food. If you're stuck with a tiny balcony like mine, you can look into a community garden. Disc golf. Usually there's some…

Elphie! Last time I was on here we were talking about diet soda flavors. Now I'm here because I've put on 40 lbs (more than I *lost* the first time around) because my back went to *fluffywhitedog* and I just gave up. So... I feel the anger and disappointment. But we're all here, we can get through this together.

Vegetable - Chinese broccoli Nut - Pistachios Seed - Sunflower Grain/Starch - Fresh pasta Flavor for sweets - Chocolate Chocolate - Extra Dark Condiment - Soy sauce Topping for sweets - Uh... what the recipe calls for? Breakfast - Tacos or migas Type of food - Asian noodles. Or maybe dumplings. Or maybe dim sum. Fruit -…

Congratulations!!! I started MFP (on another account) in 2010. We've had an on-again, off-again relationship for 10 years. It's been a LOT of drama (I'm hangry, what do you MEAN I'm out of calories??!) I may have been guilty of manipulation a few times in this relationship (hmmm, I don't want my green curry to be 800…

Started September off with a beer last night. I walked 4 miles (!!! yes, that's a lot for me lol) and had the calories for it, plus on a cool, rainy evening a chocolate milk stout sounded *really* good. I waffled over it forever, but I realized the Big Question I was asking myself was "Am I a bad person for having one…

I want to be able to get my wedding ring on and off without it being a struggle. Idk if that's 5 lbs or 10 lbs away, but it will be the best accomplishment when I get there.

I'm on team "weigh things until you're a pro at eyeballing 4 ounces of chicken," but that's a bit of a long game, and I'm not sure if you're getting discouraged before you reach that point. Maybe thinking of calories in different terms might be better for you? Noom uses a green/yellow/red system that's entirely based on…

Don't use fresh eggs. Older eggs are easier to peel.

1) Yes, based on how much I'm guessing you have to lose, 2 lbs/week is definitely too aggressive. 2) The most important thing is to do something sustainable. If you feel 1200 calories is too restrictive, don't do that. But if you go down the 1500 calorie road and your weight loss rate feels very snail-like, you don't have…

I track fiber and calcium since MFP gives you five things you can look at, but I think trying to make your macros and micros perfect for every single day would be utterly exhausting. I do use the MFP report function to look mine over on occasion to make sure there are no glaring holes. Also, if I feel a bit off, I'll check…

Spend a few weeks turning into a pro with logging. Weigh and measure everything. It's tedious at first, but you'll get comfortable with it, and it will be much easier for you to assess portion sizes going forward. Log every single thing - every carrot stick, every condiment, every vitamin - for a while so you can get…

Gonna round out August here. Today will be day #10 AF. Sleep: -I've slept through 8 of 9 nights instead of waking up periodically. -I still wake up feeling exhausted, and two mornings I woke up feeling "hung over." I've been staying hydrated, so I don't really know what's going on. Hoping this improves. Physical…

Thank you all for the words of encouragement. I think these past few months have been testing all of our limits, and it's good to hear how you all are coping. I like @Samand303 's suggestion of specific tea for destressing - I'll probably pick up a stress blend (not mint or chamomile, I go through a box of each a week) and…

Once upon a time when I had a much more functional body, I used a step tracker to help me intersperse movement throughout the day. Sitting for hours is not exactly the best thing, so getting up every hour or so to get 500 steps in helped. Sure, I could do this without a step tracker, but the tracker helped reinforce the…

A cup is a measure of volume. It's about 237 ml.

Well, yesterday was a rough one. Had a stressful day at work where I realized I'd been working off of an outdated file, so a whole day's work was wasted. REALLY wanted a glass of red wine after that. Didn't have one, but also realized I have no alternatives for dealing with stress. A cup of tea? Nah, that's just normal…

Covid has really restricted what we can do, but under normal circumstances, I'd opt for an experience over accumulating more stuff: -Go to a park for a picnic -Take a class (online or in person) for a skill you've been interested in -Get your nails done -Buy concert or play tickets -Go to adult night at a museum -A spa day…

With less than 50 lbs to go, 2 lbs/week is very aggressive, especially since you don't mention any resistance training. You're in an extreme deficit with no muscle-saving measures. I would make the following changes: 1) Set your goal to 1 lb/week. 2) Either: disconnect your fitbit and put your activity level to Active, or…

I feel this so much :D All my friends and I had a thing for Orlando Bloom, but my one friend was OBSESSED and claimed Legolas as her husband because middle schoolers say stupid things. Anyway, my dad tried to be cool and bought me a TON of LOTR posters for Christmas... Along with a life-size Legolas cardboard cutout. My…

There's a psychological trick - "plan to fail." Pick a day where you're going to do something you're not "supposed" to do, whether that's skipping your workout, not logging, or eating something really indulgent. Do that thing, then get back on track the next day. Prove to yourself that you can "mess up" a little bit and…

I'm late to the August party, but after what's basically been a nonstop corona binge for Husband and I, we're on the wagon. Today is AF day 4, and we're going to do at least 1 week 100% dry. We have a vacation at the end of September and I'd like to go AF until then, but if an opportunity for a socially-distanced drink…

SW: 139 CW: 137 GW: 130 What worked: sticking to my gym schedule, logging daily What didn't work: the all-day grazing at a family get-together