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Super interesting discussion with lots of great points. I remember I used to roll my eyes at people who said they only had 10 lbs left to go. After being on MFP for a while, I now know that whatever your last 10 lbs are, they are physically the hardest to lose. Along with the psychological effects of being so close or…

Thanks everyone :) I was wondering if it would be more like 1 oz, too. I appreciate you all encouraging me not to worry about the count, and to an extent I'm not- I know whatever I choose is going to be inaccurate, but I'm still at a point where I have to at least try and account for what I'm consuming. I'm afraid for me…

No- not full glasses, usually just a small bit, though some pourers will be rather generous. I think it depends on how fancy the event. The ones I've always attended/been part of, people usually drink most of what is given, but they've all been fairly low-key wineries and events. Yes, usually ending up a little tipsy by…

Oh gosh, I don't think there's a simple answer to this. There's so many factors contributing, some more than others based on the individual, and what works for one person might have the opposite effect for the other. I will say, however, that I strongly believe that losing weight is 100% about breaking through mental…

I think it's a very personal decision- what works for everyone else here may or may not be best for you. What I would personally do is try to continue logging to some extent, even if it's going to be very inaccurate. For me, it's sort of a way to keep myself in check and be more mindful of what I'm actually putting in my…

Just to clear something up- there is no possible way you were gaining lbs of fat if you were actually only eating 900-1,000 calories per day. You were probably underestimating how much you were actually eating, or retaining water for one reason or another. Make sure you are counting correctly- using a food scale is the…

**BIIIIIG HUGS**! I know the feeling- it's awful. Take things a day at a time- make sure to take care of yourself. One of the best pieces of advice I had after relationship troubles was to take care of yourself as if you were sick or injured and need to heal. Even though it's not a physical wound, it hurts all the same. If…

AWESOME!!! Way to go!!! I can't wait until I'm there. That is a huge accomplishment, and you deserve to claim it!

I understand your feelings completely, OP. This is my second time around the block- I noticed how differently I was treated when I lost a decent amount of weight in high school, and how that changed again as I gained weight back (and then a lot more). It can be really discouraging. I've lost a lot of weight again (~65…

See, I kind of think it's a problem when people say things like this. Please be careful about becoming the bully, because your words sound pretty darn judgemental. It sounds more like YOU'RE the one making fun of people here. It's kind of sick to joke about laughing at others dying from obesity-related illnesses. I think…

Bottom line is- too much cardio is not the problem. That's your anecdote, but you were probably eating too much when you weren't seeing results. It wasn't because you were doing cardio all the time. Maybe you had some water retention or something, but doing cardio is not going to stop anyone from losing weight. Also- if…

I think this is the PERFECT response. I think a lot of us naturally try to go for the passive aggressive (or even just aggressive) response, but I honestly believe that being sincere and straightforward is a better way to get it to actually stop- especially if the person/people are friends. The chances are probably slim…

I second this. He isn't accidentally gaining muscle while doing cardio. There MAY be some water retention from increased exercise. OP- you haven't said anything about how much you're eating- one thing you'll quickly learn on My Fitness Pal: it's not about WHAT you eat, it's about how much. You can eat "healthy" food all…

Hi Michael! It sounds like you're on the perfect path and have the right mindset. I particularly love your mention of incorporating small positive changes at a time. All of the times I've failed in the past, I tried to do too much at once. When I focused on my mental health and well-being in other aspects of my life, and…

I would be careful about that-a meal vs. a day is probably better, but I know that I (and most people I know) can easily go to a buffet or party, or go out to eat and consume more than a day's worth of calories in one sitting. I don't think anything is "good" or "bad", but I still think it creates the mentality that what…

Hahaha love this! I think it's great that you're recognizing that you might need to start to think about taking some action soon. Your TOM probably IS playing a role, so I'd probably make sure to check again after it's over and done with and see where you're at. If you're still a bit heavier than you'd like to be, I'd say…

I really don't think it's a good idea to be honest. You can (and probably will) easily wipe out any deficit you've created throughout the week. As you lose weight it gets harder and harder to create a deficit, and having a "day off" is going to make it almost impossible to continue to lose. I also don't think giving…

Just wanted to jump in and clear up some misinformation- supplements absolutely are NOT regulated by the FDA. They do not have to meet ANY purity and/or potency standards. If you are lucky, they follow GMP (good manufacturing practices). This means they voluntarily promise to meet some level of quality that is monitored by…

Kind of a weird situation. If my friend did that to me I'd be like "No way. If you really want me to meet this guy, set up a time when we can all hang out. Otherwise, I'm not blindly calling someone I don't know." Some people might be comfortable doing that, but I wouldn't be, and you obviously aren't either.

I was more referencing the person I quoted than OP, which is why I edited my original post- it wasn't helpful.

nevermind- wrote a bunch of stuff but it was off-topic and not important :) ultimately- love vs. lust. If someone cares enough about appearance they'd end a relationship over it, it's probably more on the side of lust.

Given everything you've ever said on this board, I'm not surprised. Otherwise, lots of great encouraging words in this thread! I hope some of it helps you OP. <3

I wish I could give you the BIGGEST of hugs!!! I can't imagine how much that must have hurt. I had issues with a guy a little while ago that I will always believe had everything to do with my weight- even though he had a little more restraint and never directly told me so. I am so sorry you had to meet a jerk like that,…

This. I have always known I was overweight and needed to lose. I didn't want to be heavy. I knew things were getting REALLY bad when it was affecting my work. Back when I was my highest weight I had a job that required standing on my feet with no break the whole day. I remember how absolutely physically painful each and…

I do log them for the most part, yes. Nibbling adds up FAST. Also, by accounting for them, I'm less likely to nibble things for the sake of nibbling. I think it's all a part of being honest with yourself when logging- that's one of the major problems people face when they're struggling to lose weight with MFP. Many people…

I make it a point to eat in front of people and at fun events- socialization is important and I also want to avoid the "you're starving yourself" comments. If I know beforehand a dinner or party or social event is coming up, I'll kind of balance my calories to accommodate it. I'll usually decrease my calories for a couple…

I agree that the motivation has to come from within- external motivators can only carry you so far. Things that keep my motivation up: -Listening to upbeat music and imagining myself being awesome :# -Reading the success stories section of MFP -Wearing clothes that fit nicely -Doing my hair, makeup, etc. even when I have…

I second this. I've been to a couple 4th of July parties this week, with large amounts of food sitting out waiting to be eaten. It's so easy to just keep grabbing small amounts here and there- from the dessert table, a small glass of lemonade, a little macaroni salad... it's surprising how quickly these things can add up.…

I don't think my opinion matters here, nor should it, so I'm focusing on your relationship with your doctors. However, it looks like from your charts you went from being ~114-118 lbs (or around 120 for a BMI of 20) down to ~107-108ish lbs. That's underweight by only a few lbs if you're going by BMI. I don't know anything…

To be perfectly honest, it sounds like your doctors are doing a great job. That's a lot of tests and they're above and beyond the tests I would expect from such a situation. I know when people are frustrated to find answers or want an easy solution it's easy to point fingers at the doctors, but I'm willing to bet they're…