shel80kg Member

The last few comments have helped me rethink the “game” metaphor and perhaps I have been reluctant to enjoy the transition from obsessive over-eater to thoughtful/mindful enjoyer of food. Why not enjoy healthy eating when it can include amazingly delicious choices without tons of sugars, processed chemicals and useless…

Dear Ann and Chicken Thank you for your responses. Really helpful and poignant.I am impatient and easily frustrated; expecting results in an unrealistic manner. I appreciate the time you both spent clarifying and adding to my insight. I cannot thank you enough. Both posts were excellent. Thank you

The idea of making eating "fun" by mixing and matching and trying out new food types and preparation processes sounds reasonable. I suppose if those of us who really struggle with our old patterns and habits could break them and just introduce new eating and prep methodologies easily, we would have done that by now. This…

What an awesome answer with some great strategies embedded in your helpful comments. Thank you. "balancing current pleasures with future well being". Love it!!!!Something about this approach resonates with me. I'm not completely sure I can implement the positive strategies as a "game" because it seems to real to me. This…

Hi everyone Back in Ketoland. I know, I know. It must be boring hearing my roller coaster ride with Ketosis. I am sorry about that. It is just that Keto for me represents being "on the wagon". I wish I was more consistent. Day by day. I sure envy people who do not have to think about food endlessly. I wonder if it ever…

Reboot!! Okay...Birthday weekend and was spoiled. Consequences....kicked out of Ketoville and up 2 kg. I do not feel too guilty and am surprisingly motivated to make August 1st 2022 a start day (again). Been here before but we cannot live in the past. I want/deserve to feel/be healthy and the challenge is ahead. I do not…

Up and down. Up and down. Not sure at times how to measure progress. Consistency? Bathroom scales? How clothing fits? People's comments? Personal feelings? Doctor's opinion..... I get that this "thread"is just one of too many. I guess I am in touch with a deeper reality today. It's not really about weight loss. Maybe it's…

Hi Pera_aus_2021 Over eating is so familiar to meet it is as if you are telling my story. The "domino effect" I call it. One thing begins to break down and the bad choices just all fall on one another. This happens for a reason or reasons and I would not be arrogant enough to offer any superficial advice or comment. Just…

Some thoughts.... I wonder if accepting the way our body looks and feels is a prerequisite to commencing a life-changing process? It seems to me that seeing weight loss as a chore or even worse, a "battle" puts at odds with our physical selves. It is as if we hate ourselves as a starting point and then go on the attack. We…

Thanks ReenieHJ I am pleased that I was able to regroup and recommit to the plan. I agree with the view that we will have great days, good days, not so great days and days to forget. Food is not the enemy and we are not slaves or victims. Just living organisms who have developed patterns and habits which require…

I wasn't so amazing yesterday. 4ooo K down my throat. I felt depressed, sad and overwhelmed. I feel like I will never reach my goals and instead will go back to no control or balance. I know this isn't true but it feels like it could be true. I just wanted you to know that I am not immune from doubt and fear. I'll get back…

We are amazing! No-one can do this for us ....just our amazing selves No-one can fill our hearts and souls...food won't do it in any sustaining ways We are the therapy, and we are the cure Just and always.....our amazing selves Shel

Hi Rockani, Sounds like you are doing it tough with friends who are busy, financial challenges, PMS and the all too familiar reliance on food to sooth your yucky feelings. Well done coping. I guess it is all about breaking patterns and habits and you are doing that. Be kind and gentle with yourself and know that you have…

Hey ReenieHJ, I’m sure we have a myriad of memories and experiences which lay the foundation for our eating behaviours. I think we need to identify the core of our learned responses and teach ourselves that we can make different choices. I know we can. Let’s do it as a team. Ok? Shel

Hi, I can so relate to you kshama. It does feel like my brain weakens and opens the window to indulgence and deviation from the plan. It is like a part of me doesn't agree with or even at a more primal level has absolutely no interest at all in me being healthy or fit. A dissociated split off part of me (problem developed…

Hi everyone, I was so moved to receive some responses. Thank you so much. It is nice to know that my brain is not alone in the variety of ways it has learned to transform psychological issues/patterns/needs into eating behaviours and choices. I really related to your stories and I found both solace and empathy for all of…

Hmmm. Feels like I am talking to myself but hey, one day there may be someone out there who lets me know something interesting about them. Good news, The Keto G-ds didn't exile me for very long and I am back in the kingdom. Not sure if there are any immediate benefits as the scales are still stubbornly pointing to those…

July 12th.....Broke my routine of intermittent fasting and Keto and had a lovely breakfast including smashed avacado, smoked salmon a a small bit of bread and some greens. May get kicked out of Ketoland but I am not religious about it. We are not meant to starve for too long as far as I can tell and Keto occurs when our…

Well, Day 2 Just landed in Ketoland. The world of avocados, meat, vegetables and seafood. Say goodbye, for now, to chips and chocolates, cakes and yes.....popcorn. I was listening to a podcast today about food addictions. Oh my goodness. In the past, me thinkest I had protested too much. I was/am an addict. There is a…

The 4 golden rules are as follows: 1 - if you are hungry, eat. (Cravings and real hunger are two different things and sensations.) this applies to actual hunger, not cravings. Cravings are a different sensation and should be dealt with differently. I like this suggestion although I think I may be way beyond discriminating…

I would really like to learn the 4 "golden" rules

I very much appreciate the (collective) wisdom offered to mere plebes such as me. If I can embrace the science of weight management rather than become distracted by the emotional/"psychological" points of view, I think I can get into a consistent and constructive paradigm of success. Thank you

I was so sad to learn that I have gained 5 kg in the past 2 weeks. Why is there such fluctuations in my weight. I am driving myself crazy. I feel like giving up but here I am....going to try again

I think us overeaters have no idea how to manage sensations of hunger and the actual cues that our bodies generate. I think we eat to dissociate or to distract from what is really going on in our minds. I am going to stop all sugar ad flour based substances for a while and try ad get in touch with my hunger and my…

A bit of fluctuation over the past week. family stress, too much work, Covid, climate change, Afghanistan etc. How do we balance our small worlds lodged in the global scene?Sometimes it's all too hard.

I am completely sure that our moods and ways of looking at life intersect and even intertwine with our eating behaviours and food choices. The mind is such a powerful thing. I imagine my brain as my computer and my mind(me) sitting at a desk program the amazing piece of technology. It does what I need it to do. I am aware…

May I return to (according to my intepretation) the point of this thread? I have a question about Ketosis. Having dabbled a bit with converting my metabolism to Ketosis, I have discovered that one meal/a few choice snacks, can catapult me out of Ketoland without mercy. I was in Ketosis yesterday and had crispy chicken and…

I am so excited as I am back to 100g and exercise is going well. Eating well and feeling great. I feel happy with my progress and my (renewed) commitment to the calorie deficit process. I think being able to explore my thoughts and feelings on this platform has and continues to be a significant factor in assisting in my…

Hi, May I offer you a more considered and empathic response? The tendency to wave the flag of "Calorie Deficit" as the only relevant piece of information just seems to be to be as simplistic as it is indifferent to the challenges many of us have with weight management. Academically Mr. Cwolfman13 is correct because some…

Good news. Scales today were a bit more forgiving. Down to 1.4 kg which meant that the weight gain was only 1.4 kg and not 3.9. It was a wake up call however as I know I have been eating too much of the "foods" that take me down the rabbit hole. I am pleased that I flipped the switch again this week. Isn't the mind an…