shel80kg Member

Hi all, Myra, you sounded a bit flat. Hey, we are all in this together. You have always been an inspiration to me. A kind, thoughtful person with a great deal of strength. And welcom q88. How are you managing? I hit 95kg yesterday and think I am on track to achieve the illusive goal of 80 kg in the months to come. Not…

Well, I think I have found my "groove" again and I'm down to 98 kg. Somehow it seems easier this time around. I am really enjoying my work outs and my appetite has certainly decreased. I'm not concerned about dieting and just getting on with life. It's kind of interesting eating meals with my wife at her aged care…

Thanks Myra, My wife is now in permanent aged care and there is no doubt that I am in active grief. She is my soulmate and I will always love her and support her. I will do my best. She is a very young beautiful 71 year old woman who never deserved to be stolen away from her family, her home an community by the wretched…

Thanks for sharing Myra. You are a special person and deserve happiness. Depression is such a debilitating state of mind. It might best be described as hopelessness "on steroids". It's more than feelings of sadness and dispair. It takes us to the brink of believing that nothing is worthwhile and things just won't get…

Hi everyone, Apologies for disappearing again. It has been quite a difficult month for me as I am a full time carer for my wife with dementia as I still try and run my professional world. I lost my footing with regards to my health goals and yet again….starting over. But hey…it isn't the first time and quite likely won't…

Thank you all and welcome beautiful Myra!! Such a blessing to be amongst such supportive knowledgeable people. I think emotional eating makes more sense to me in my 60’s (I’ve had decades of time to acquire the insight) than when I was younger.its not just habit and patterned responses. For me it’s filling myself full with…

Hi, Day 3 and highly reflective on how I disassociated again from the impact(s) of what I choose to eat and how my body responds. I have returned to the (necessary) mindful approach that places me directly in the pathway of food choices and inevitable outcomes and consequences. What I have to work on is enjoying food and…

Thanks All, I had considered therapy and it does make sense to work through what might be underlying my recent weight gain. I think I have some insight however and it may because I have never really addressed a sustainable eating plan. If there is something that goes "deeper" then I may need to unpack that with someone in…

I'M VERY HUNGRY! (perhaps Hangry???). I blew my success up and I cannot deny my frustration and disappointment with myself. It's strange because I think I am a person who is heavily influenced by others (no pun intended). A GP I saw in July commented on my weight loss and quipped that I had a 1/500 chance of keeping the…

Thanks Ann, Nothing boring about maintenance. You are doing so well. I feel optimistic and focused. Logging food always works for me. It’s a great reality check. You know no matter how smart the brain is…. We can outsmart ourselves. Time to be honest and consistent.

Interesting you should mention AI. I consulted AI and could only squeeze a plan out of CHATGPT if I disguised my request as a "hypothetical case" and even then, must have noticed a zillion qualifiers in terms of how unhealthy and unrealistic the goal was (i.e. to lose 5 to 8 kg in 3 weeks). I did get the numbers I was…

And by the way, I wanted to thank Neanderthin for a bit of cold water. Please never hold back honest and relevant feedback. We are dealing with our lives and we all need to approach this area of our existence with critical thinking and awareness. Neanderthin and you others are clearly experts in the weight management field…

Thank you (all) so much for assisting me in clarifying my process and options. I do not want to see this as a crisis; by any criteria but I do not want to circle back to what worked over the year. Having these discussion with my friends on this platform helps immensely. I am a still a novice at getting this right and I…

pardon. Neanderthin (auto-check corrected it but maybe a Freudian slip)? Just kidding

Well Neanderthal, you are not known for your subtlety and your message was no exception. I kind of wish the first response was not yours....or at least your hard hitting approach but if I set aside my emotive response to your rather "cryptic" wisdom I will say that I have amended by plan to not starve myself as I planned.…

Well, it has been months since my last message and I have missed the experience of both writing and reading intelligent discord related to the never-ending process of weight and health management. I reached my goal by mid to late June and felt rather chuffed. Such a difficult and intense journey from 133kgs(ish) to 80kgs.…

What a beautiful answer coming from a beautiful person. You captured. my anxiety (which is really just fear at the end of the day). Damn, I always make this about me and my emotions. Bet you guys are sick of hearing about my emotions/psychology. What can I eat to give me more intellect? Thanks again. Shel

Hi Pav Yup, c’est moi. Great advice. I followed Keto ala the Diet Whisper approach. If you are not familiar with the program, the diet supports high fat, moderate protein and little or no carbs (for 12 weeks at least) with the inclusion of several versions of fasting time. This is where I learned about the power of…

Dear Respondants. Please forgive the delay in both acknowledging and thanking you for your careful, thoughtful and at times provocative comments and clarifications in reference to the article I quoted. Having read and re-read the postings, it is clear to me that my understanding of the biochemical, biophysical and…

My goodness! I’m grateful to all of the responders and could never do justice to the degree of thought and analysis contained in each submission. I would like to clarify that it was not my intention to “blame” MFP for any specific challenge I have faced in my pursuit for the “yellow brick road” to stellar health and…

(apologies for the myriad of grammatical errors to say nothing of the mathematical mistakes. I am feeling a lot of negative and hopeless thoughts at the moment and this platform has always been one of my safety nets/life lines and I felt that utilising the service was kind of urgent. I am "back on the wagon" and will be…

Hey folks, It's not "just about" weight loss me thinks. There is no doubt in my mind (now) that losing weight is mathematics, science and correct application of known facts about the qualities of foods, impact on the body and the metabolic requirements informed by our biological and environmental realities. In short,…

I am learning to adjust to a body that moves faster, is more flexible, and wears smaller clothes. It does not feel like "me" quite yet but my hope is that we will learn to get use to one another. My car seems easier to get into, I find it so much easier to move up and down our narrow staircase and I get in and out of…

I agree with you Yoolypr as I discovered something similar at 64. Weight management or more generally, life and health management can be improved at any point along on our journey and can be a rewarding experience regardless of age. I have found the most recent period (Sept 2023 to now) to be quite challenging as I have…

I learned at a family dinner that young people are getting their nutritional knowledge and guidance from the "expertise" available on Tik Tok, Instagram etc. My 16 year old grandson has embraced the Carnivore diet and believes that vegetbles and fats are superflous and meat is the "bomb". His evidence is soley reliant on…

I have been reflecting on weight loss from a motivational perspective and wondered if those of us who are frequent flyers in the dieting game need to address (honestly) how we came to be overweight and even more importantly, why we allowed fat to accumulate in obvious placed on our bodies in an almost dissociated/unaware…

Hi Epoch, I am very moved that you reached out. I just don't get on the platform as often as I would like due to personal circumstances but I am doing well. I know that I share (at times) the emotional side of me on this platform and I may leave readers thinking that I am a bit fragile. I do agree that I am moody and…

Thanks for the clarifications. I will think and re-think my process and slow the plan down a bit. Makes sense. Thanks again

That was very helpful Pav so thank you for the number crunching and the reflections (as well as the sound advice). I am curious about your rational for presuming that my TDEE could be between 2600 and 3100 calories? I try and work out at the gym and or go for run/walks 5 times a week now ( and burn between 300 to 500…

Hi, Thanks for your interest and I shall attempt to answer each question with accuracy: Am I recalling correctly that you started back in September, about 5 months or so ago at about 118kg? Yes. After seeing myself in a photo and breaking a plastic chair at a family event (the next day) I hit the ground running and…