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Hey folks, It's not "just about" weight loss me thinks. There is no doubt in my mind (now) that losing weight is mathematics, science and correct application of known facts about the qualities of foods, impact on the body and the metabolic requirements informed by our biological and environmental realities. In short,…

I am learning to adjust to a body that moves faster, is more flexible, and wears smaller clothes. It does not feel like "me" quite yet but my hope is that we will learn to get use to one another. My car seems easier to get into, I find it so much easier to move up and down our narrow staircase and I get in and out of…

I agree with you Yoolypr as I discovered something similar at 64. Weight management or more generally, life and health management can be improved at any point along on our journey and can be a rewarding experience regardless of age. I have found the most recent period (Sept 2023 to now) to be quite challenging as I have…

I learned at a family dinner that young people are getting their nutritional knowledge and guidance from the "expertise" available on Tik Tok, Instagram etc. My 16 year old grandson has embraced the Carnivore diet and believes that vegetbles and fats are superflous and meat is the "bomb". His evidence is soley reliant on…

I have been reflecting on weight loss from a motivational perspective and wondered if those of us who are frequent flyers in the dieting game need to address (honestly) how we came to be overweight and even more importantly, why we allowed fat to accumulate in obvious placed on our bodies in an almost dissociated/unaware…

Hi Epoch, I am very moved that you reached out. I just don't get on the platform as often as I would like due to personal circumstances but I am doing well. I know that I share (at times) the emotional side of me on this platform and I may leave readers thinking that I am a bit fragile. I do agree that I am moody and…

Thanks for the clarifications. I will think and re-think my process and slow the plan down a bit. Makes sense. Thanks again

That was very helpful Pav so thank you for the number crunching and the reflections (as well as the sound advice). I am curious about your rational for presuming that my TDEE could be between 2600 and 3100 calories? I try and work out at the gym and or go for run/walks 5 times a week now ( and burn between 300 to 500…

Hi, Thanks for your interest and I shall attempt to answer each question with accuracy: Am I recalling correctly that you started back in September, about 5 months or so ago at about 118kg? Yes. After seeing myself in a photo and breaking a plastic chair at a family event (the next day) I hit the ground running and…

Thank you for your prompt responses and my sense is that ddsb1111 was not trying to be offensive. I certainly accept that. I do not mind debate and I value critical thinking which is so important in the pursuit of knowledge and insight. I am prone to my own emotional reactions and I know I need to do more to not take…

My first response ddsb1111 is...what on Earth does your name mean? I struggle with understanding if it is an acronym of some sort or if it has some hidden symbolic meaning that has no real relevance to anyone other than you.... I suppose this is my way of saying, I do not really need you to pick apart each of my words and…

My apologies as I think I confused (even) myself and you have all been very kind, patient and respectful to this discussion. I really liked the metaphor of the "sprint" vs the "marathon" as that captures what I think both the professor and I were reflecting on. Both involve running, but one is less sustainable. The…

PAV8888, like many others on these forums, you responded with the type of logic which implies that guys like me"don't get it" and dieting and maintaining weight loss involve the same skills. With respect, you appear to be missing the main point ( paraphrased by me but presented in scholarly fashion by a Psychologist with…

Hi mtaratoot, The mentor was/is a professor in Psychology with a speciality in motivation and addiction. He provided clinical evidence and longitudinal case studies on the dieting and maintenance as two separate and distince processes which I found useful (and convincing). Most people become quite successful at losing…

Something I wrote earlier today to someone who is part of the "yo-yo" fraternity of weight loss and weight gain that many of us subscribe to: I remember one of my favourite mentors at university explain that the skills required to lose weight are completely different to those involved with maintaining the weight we have…

I remember one of my favourite mentors at university explain that the skills required to lose weight are completely different to those involved with maintaining the weight we have achieved. Two different goals likely require separate and well thought out approaches.The first is about breaking the patterns, building…

EpochAhead, we must have been chanelling one another last night. I made a lamb roast with yummy mashed potatoes and a beautiful salad. I had a bit of bread and salami as I was preparing the little feast for me and my lovely wife. What was significant about this experience is that it is the first time in 4.5 months that I…

Oh yes, As a point of interest.... My beautiful wife made a simple yet lovely breakfast for me this morning although I was going to hold fast to intermittment fasting. Neverthless, the two pieces of buttered toast laced with a little bit of cheese and salami beckoned. At first, I resisted and then wondered why I would not…

Thanks Sollyn 2312. I hadn't considered the association between initial bonding, food source and delivery and parental reliance. Makes perfect sense. Do you think we underestimate the importance of the "early" years of development and learning? I know that some psychologists make this a major focus in therapy. I have…

HI, I am 64 and "change" and have really noticed an uphill climb this time around with seeing the needle move on my scale. It is happenning and I have had to adjust and moderate my expectations and not blame my body for its stubborn responses to decreased calories and deficit eating. I suppose in a way, this 64 year old…

Hi gang, It has been months and I have missed writing here. I have been reflecting on the importance of this thread to me and I would like to breathe life into it again.I have some sensitive and perhaps even controversial topics to explore. I hope we can have some robust and informative discussions. My body has certainly…

At the risk of taking this thread in a slightly tangental direction, I wanted to ask about metabolic speed.efficiency and ageing. I have lost a substantial amount of weight over the past 4 months but I am clearly noticing a "slowing down" of weight loss and longer plateaus. My question is; Eating far less then our bodies…

Hey Milo, I have been on this platform on and off for years and have been "confronted" by the "regular" responders who dedicate their own time to consider what we are worrying about and perplexed by , and offer wisdom, direction and at times their own personal experiences. I have always found them respectful and considered…

Hi Again, Apologies if I took your threat in a different direction. I did read the articles you were so kind to advise me of and they were helpful. The tendency for many of us "frequent flyers" in the weight management world to fall off the wagon and see how far we can deviate from the plan requires more research in my…

Hi Ann* I am guessing you tend to explain a significant dimension of weight management challenges as a function of psychological conditions, pathologies and learned responses. Although I do not disagree in a general sense, please consider that there can (and is quite likely) metabolic realities which may make weight gain…

An awesome thread. I'm wondering if there are any peer-reviewed studies which explore how one might create some type of "resilience" with regards to withstanding the occasional deviation from the recommended caloric intake. I have often wondered if the body becomes complacent with low caloric intake and slows down…

Arrogantly, I thought my threads were the "bomb". This one tops anything I have tried on this platform. I did not realise that my obsession with the steady descent into thin hood would make be paranoid about occasional relapses with " me and my Twisties". How weird some of us are thinking that we are horrible people for…

Good point Papy… If we are impulsive, reckless and dissociated kind of folk, well, good luck with consistency and responsible eating. I used to chomp into large bars of chocolate with no limitations. Eat the whole damn think without a second thought….or a second of thought. And I wonder why I was relegated to the 4xl…

I had some nice food yesterday and feel a whole lot better. Isn't the relationship between mind and body amazing? We are not just "what we eat" but our emotions are all intertwined in what happens in and because of our gut. Guess it's important to look after both with mindfulness, respect and caution.

Your cat looks scary. I remember a poster I used to have with a black cat similar to yours with the caption. "I'm low on esterogen and have a gun.....any questions"?