shel80kg Member

Interesting you should mention AI. I consulted AI and could only squeeze a plan out of CHATGPT if I disguised my request as a "hypothetical case" and even then, must have noticed a zillion qualifiers in terms of how unhealthy and unrealistic the goal was (i.e. to lose 5 to 8 kg in 3 weeks). I did get the numbers I was…

And by the way, I wanted to thank Neanderthin for a bit of cold water. Please never hold back honest and relevant feedback. We are dealing with our lives and we all need to approach this area of our existence with critical thinking and awareness. Neanderthin and you others are clearly experts in the weight management field…

Thank you (all) so much for assisting me in clarifying my process and options. I do not want to see this as a crisis; by any criteria but I do not want to circle back to what worked over the year. Having these discussion with my friends on this platform helps immensely. I am a still a novice at getting this right and I…

pardon. Neanderthin (auto-check corrected it but maybe a Freudian slip)? Just kidding

Well Neanderthal, you are not known for your subtlety and your message was no exception. I kind of wish the first response was not yours....or at least your hard hitting approach but if I set aside my emotive response to your rather "cryptic" wisdom I will say that I have amended by plan to not starve myself as I planned.…

Well, it has been months since my last message and I have missed the experience of both writing and reading intelligent discord related to the never-ending process of weight and health management. I reached my goal by mid to late June and felt rather chuffed. Such a difficult and intense journey from 133kgs(ish) to 80kgs.…

What a beautiful answer coming from a beautiful person. You captured. my anxiety (which is really just fear at the end of the day). Damn, I always make this about me and my emotions. Bet you guys are sick of hearing about my emotions/psychology. What can I eat to give me more intellect? Thanks again. Shel

Hi Pav Yup, c’est moi. Great advice. I followed Keto ala the Diet Whisper approach. If you are not familiar with the program, the diet supports high fat, moderate protein and little or no carbs (for 12 weeks at least) with the inclusion of several versions of fasting time. This is where I learned about the power of…

Dear Respondants. Please forgive the delay in both acknowledging and thanking you for your careful, thoughtful and at times provocative comments and clarifications in reference to the article I quoted. Having read and re-read the postings, it is clear to me that my understanding of the biochemical, biophysical and…

My goodness! I’m grateful to all of the responders and could never do justice to the degree of thought and analysis contained in each submission. I would like to clarify that it was not my intention to “blame” MFP for any specific challenge I have faced in my pursuit for the “yellow brick road” to stellar health and…

(apologies for the myriad of grammatical errors to say nothing of the mathematical mistakes. I am feeling a lot of negative and hopeless thoughts at the moment and this platform has always been one of my safety nets/life lines and I felt that utilising the service was kind of urgent. I am "back on the wagon" and will be…

Hey folks, It's not "just about" weight loss me thinks. There is no doubt in my mind (now) that losing weight is mathematics, science and correct application of known facts about the qualities of foods, impact on the body and the metabolic requirements informed by our biological and environmental realities. In short,…

I am learning to adjust to a body that moves faster, is more flexible, and wears smaller clothes. It does not feel like "me" quite yet but my hope is that we will learn to get use to one another. My car seems easier to get into, I find it so much easier to move up and down our narrow staircase and I get in and out of…

I agree with you Yoolypr as I discovered something similar at 64. Weight management or more generally, life and health management can be improved at any point along on our journey and can be a rewarding experience regardless of age. I have found the most recent period (Sept 2023 to now) to be quite challenging as I have…

I learned at a family dinner that young people are getting their nutritional knowledge and guidance from the "expertise" available on Tik Tok, Instagram etc. My 16 year old grandson has embraced the Carnivore diet and believes that vegetbles and fats are superflous and meat is the "bomb". His evidence is soley reliant on…

I have been reflecting on weight loss from a motivational perspective and wondered if those of us who are frequent flyers in the dieting game need to address (honestly) how we came to be overweight and even more importantly, why we allowed fat to accumulate in obvious placed on our bodies in an almost dissociated/unaware…

Hi Epoch, I am very moved that you reached out. I just don't get on the platform as often as I would like due to personal circumstances but I am doing well. I know that I share (at times) the emotional side of me on this platform and I may leave readers thinking that I am a bit fragile. I do agree that I am moody and…

Thanks for the clarifications. I will think and re-think my process and slow the plan down a bit. Makes sense. Thanks again

That was very helpful Pav so thank you for the number crunching and the reflections (as well as the sound advice). I am curious about your rational for presuming that my TDEE could be between 2600 and 3100 calories? I try and work out at the gym and or go for run/walks 5 times a week now ( and burn between 300 to 500…

Hi, Thanks for your interest and I shall attempt to answer each question with accuracy: Am I recalling correctly that you started back in September, about 5 months or so ago at about 118kg? Yes. After seeing myself in a photo and breaking a plastic chair at a family event (the next day) I hit the ground running and…

Thank you for your prompt responses and my sense is that ddsb1111 was not trying to be offensive. I certainly accept that. I do not mind debate and I value critical thinking which is so important in the pursuit of knowledge and insight. I am prone to my own emotional reactions and I know I need to do more to not take…

My first response ddsb1111 is...what on Earth does your name mean? I struggle with understanding if it is an acronym of some sort or if it has some hidden symbolic meaning that has no real relevance to anyone other than you.... I suppose this is my way of saying, I do not really need you to pick apart each of my words and…

My apologies as I think I confused (even) myself and you have all been very kind, patient and respectful to this discussion. I really liked the metaphor of the "sprint" vs the "marathon" as that captures what I think both the professor and I were reflecting on. Both involve running, but one is less sustainable. The…

PAV8888, like many others on these forums, you responded with the type of logic which implies that guys like me"don't get it" and dieting and maintaining weight loss involve the same skills. With respect, you appear to be missing the main point ( paraphrased by me but presented in scholarly fashion by a Psychologist with…

Hi mtaratoot, The mentor was/is a professor in Psychology with a speciality in motivation and addiction. He provided clinical evidence and longitudinal case studies on the dieting and maintenance as two separate and distince processes which I found useful (and convincing). Most people become quite successful at losing…

Something I wrote earlier today to someone who is part of the "yo-yo" fraternity of weight loss and weight gain that many of us subscribe to: I remember one of my favourite mentors at university explain that the skills required to lose weight are completely different to those involved with maintaining the weight we have…

I remember one of my favourite mentors at university explain that the skills required to lose weight are completely different to those involved with maintaining the weight we have achieved. Two different goals likely require separate and well thought out approaches.The first is about breaking the patterns, building…

EpochAhead, we must have been chanelling one another last night. I made a lamb roast with yummy mashed potatoes and a beautiful salad. I had a bit of bread and salami as I was preparing the little feast for me and my lovely wife. What was significant about this experience is that it is the first time in 4.5 months that I…

Oh yes, As a point of interest.... My beautiful wife made a simple yet lovely breakfast for me this morning although I was going to hold fast to intermittment fasting. Neverthless, the two pieces of buttered toast laced with a little bit of cheese and salami beckoned. At first, I resisted and then wondered why I would not…

Thanks Sollyn 2312. I hadn't considered the association between initial bonding, food source and delivery and parental reliance. Makes perfect sense. Do you think we underestimate the importance of the "early" years of development and learning? I know that some psychologists make this a major focus in therapy. I have…