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To be fair, I trolled back. ;)

Wowee, that was really unfair of his doc to put that on you!

^I'll sign an endorsement to @usmcmp 's comment. The thing is, we're all socialized based on what we look like. You (and me too!) don't have the tools that someone who's been barraged with compliments and borderline harassment constantly since 13 has. You're lucky that you have the perspective that you do so you can see…

Good luck. I mean that.

You've become Patrick Bateman! Turn back before you develop opinions about Huey Lewis & the News. https://youtu.be/46-WNPlCYsg Edited to add some light reading: https://scholar.google.com/scholar?biw=320&bih=460&um=1&ie=UTF-8&lr&cites=18245015398274086687 Kick the stims, they are making you weird.

@PartyKardy you have wonderful style! And your trip looks like it was a blast--party on!

Yeah, but my old measurements would likely look absurd hitched to my frame as it is now.

What the heck are you talking about? I see a torso. Wear your shorts, you are just fine!

You sound like an absolutely wonderful man. All my best wishes for you as you reach your goal.

I am so happy for you. Great job!

David Byrne? https://david-byrne-big-suit.tumblr.com/post/137841471342

Pobody's Nerfect. :D Hood work getting out to the gym and taking steps! I agree with @88olds and @Gimsteinn1 . You need to be kinder to yourself! Look at all you've done. It's admirable. Loose skin is not that big of a deal, and will reduce a little over time--drink lots of water, use a decent vitamin E enriched lotion,…

Sorry.

Leave now, don't go back.

You shouldn't shoot down the suggestions these people are giving you so quickly.

My story's close to @ButterballBookworm Identifying as a non-smoker works very well. It's what drove my success quitting. I bought nice shampoo and perfume and worked on finding joy in smelling really good--smoking would undo that! So I didn't smoke. And haven't since, after over 11 years as a smoker. My mom did too--she…

First of all, I love your Dalek shirt. Do you like the new series? Im loving it. I'm sorry that you're having such s rough time. Follow the advice of the regulars around here and you'll more than likely hit your weight loss goals, as many, many others have. Secondly, you should look into talking to a pro about your anxiety…

Don't give up, it can take time for new behaviors to become habit.

+1 for Nordie's. They tailor too, which is nice.

I like really strong flavors mixed in with my salad, but I don't like salad dressing at all. It's too soggy! My current favorite salad topping is pickled banana peppers and siracha. I like lime and cilantro and chives mixed in too.

Tried a new biking trail today and it was too easy and short for me. Got very frustrated due to the lack of workout and I think I spent more time wrestling with the shi--ahh, lousy bike rack than actually riding. I came home and blasted through the nearby streets subdivision instead. Not as much fun, but at least I got to…

I take a daily supplement containing collagen, biotin, hyaluronuc acid, and lutein. A decent inexpensive lotion with collagen, elastin and vitamin e is good--St. Ives or the like will work well with a little daily massage. Drink kots and lots of water. I've heard dry brushing before showers is helpful, but I haven't tried…

+1 for online romance successes here. We met online through friends, did the long distance thing for a while, and then moved together to give it a shot about 3 years ago. There's pluses and minuses to meeting people that way, but it can work out alright. Good luck.

Something you don't need so it feels like an actual reward. A new gold chain instead of that janky old one that's showing iron-color. Perfume that costs more than your shoes. Fancy bras. Rewards!

Thank you for sharing your story and congratulations on coming so far. I agree that setting the stage mentally is the hardest and most important factor. I hope you had a wonderful time at 6 Flags!

Meeting halfway in this situation means he makes a comment you've repeatedly told him is not constructive to your goals, and you tell him to cram it with walnuts. :smiley:

Yeah, tell him to mind his own beeswax. If he and his sewing circle want to gossip about you, they can do it on their time and can leave you out of it.

It can be a dog pile sometimes, for sure. Don't worry about it too much. :)

The surgery (body lifts, tummy tucks, etc.) is actually really difficult to heal from and is immensely uncomfortable. Also, aftercare includes keeping the weight off so you don't rupture sutures. I wouldn't consider it unless it became an absolute must--meaning I've kept weight off for a long time but the loose skin caused…

That rawness you're feeling may be the return of emotions you've been shoving down to get through the hard times. Say hi to them as you pass them by. Doubt means you care. Fear means you know what you want--and more importantly, what you don't. You're doing a great job getting on top of this, you've made a great start and…