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No, it was How to Look Good Naked. It looks like he's rebooting it.

I loved his makeover show!

I'm seeing someone that chews ice and now this will be in the back of my mind when he does it.

I don't require, or reject for lack of, tattoos. My preference would be that any body art or modification have meaning to the person, mostly because of the opportunity to get to know the person more by talking about it.

The Guest Book

Masterpiece's Us

Kindred by Octavia E. Butler

I'm cheesy about themes for my book club selections. I chose it for Father's Day and a lot of the member loved the idea (yay!). Let me know what you think.

The Guest Book

Quality mental health / relationship thought leaders on IG. I've found that following quality (*established, respected in their field*) experts has helped me reframe some disordered thoughts and work on my mental health. * This is in no way a suggestion to follow an IG account in lieu of working with a therapist. Pointing…

When the Emperor Was Divine by Julie Otsuka

This, plus some cinnamon candy canes that have been there for years, multiple bags of chips, and a light bulb for the fixture over the sink.

People change as they experience life. Some people change in different shifts but eventually merge paths, some people change along the same path, some people's paths diverge. I walked down the aisle knowing my marriage would end, but that it was supposed to happen. We were a good match as far as backgrounds, but t wasn't…

That series blows my mind. Most of them meet on an app but can't seem to be bothered to Google societal or religious standards. The egocentric attitudes were shocking at first, then it became like a wreck that I just can't pull my gaze from.

When he humors me with a game, then ends up enjoying it as much as I did

https://youtu.be/xvvKKTCRm58

How would/did you react the first time your person invites you to an event for an org they are deeply involved in? Does that feel like a "step" to you?

I have found that I have become a bit more "real" irl. Historically, I worked to craft what people knew of me, but I'm more genuine now. It could be the years of therapy, it could be the anonymity of posting in the forums here and feeling a touch of acceptance. Who knows? As far as being disappointed in a SO because of…

I realize that I am smaller than average and a lot of people might think that's really easy for me to feel, considering. Even so, it's taken me a lot to get to the point of accepting that I can't change anything except the bust size (with major surgery) and being closer to what I was raised thinking of as ideal is not…

I feel more comfortable in a bikini that compliments my body, than a one piece, but that's me. My stretch marks and cellulite will be visible, my small boobs will be out, my white af, pasty skin will be prominently displayed. Those that can't handle it are invited to avert their eyes.

Apparently it is for men that want to eventually be enmeshed. I met someone that told me on the first date that his next wife needs to know that divorce is not an option. Me: "You want to get married again?!?! That's crazy. Why tf would you want to do that?!" There was not a second date. Thanks, that's the goal.

I used to think this too, but now I see it can be a sign of someone that "gets back on the horse". Resilience and vulnerability in some, honestly more than I am capable of. Saying there is no way I want to invest enough in someone that I'm willing to live together or get married again is equally a red flag and has run a…