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Update! I met a new guy and we’ve gone out on a few dates. He seems great! But I totally blew my calorie goal for dinner because we went out to eat. He suggested apps first then dinner. Anyone have tips on eating out? Also now that the smoke has cleared from my breakup and I’m moving on; my revenge body motivation is…

Motivation can come from anywhere 😊

Love the pole dancing idea - what an empowering way to stay in shape. And sounds fun!! True enough about not being able to seek revenge on yourself-very insightful. And @daneejela thank you for the kind words!!! I appreciate your perspective.

I’m feeling better; I just sometimes am hard on myself. We are our worst critics. My birthday was yesterday and I was reminded that I have a whole group of people who love me for me. I’m very lucky to have the friends that I do. I rented an Airbnb for the weekend and plan on having a big party on Saturday. I’m looking…

😂 Well boo then! I should have had the shrimp!!!

Thanks to those who could see the sarcasm in my post - making jokes is how I deal with things that are hard to say. Today was a big test! My birthday and going out where my friends want to buy me rounds and I was good; I kept counting the calories and when I had my limit I gave away my drinks. I also avoided the pile of…

It does! Thanks!

Thanks for the kind comments!

It’s not all in my head, I had a guy tell me he’d be happy to have a physical relationship with me but as far as girlfriend material, I don’t have “the look” he’s going for. Naturally comments like this knock back who I know I am and my confidence to put myself out there.

@chelny Bu the way you should definitely try rowing! That actually sounds like a fun way to get toned!

@whmscll good idea! Yes we have those.

@julesdechaine Thanks for your comment. I don’t mean to come off as disgruntled - my sense of humor must not have translated well. I’m just discouraged. I didn’t break up with that guy, he broke up with me and it hurt me to see him talking to a girl that I feel like I could never look like. I know not to compare myself but…

@Annie_01 Thanks for your comment. My friends have done nothing but be good friends to me and I don’t resent them; I was being honest with myself and was feeling discouraged by how much I work and how much time I spend on the road which I need to try to work around to get healthy. I am not going to move closer to work so…

@Cassandraw3 thank you!

@TavistockToad I didn’t mean to give the impression I drink every night. I actually very rarely drink when I have to work the next day. But I do go out on weekends. Counting calories has helped me think about what I’m consuming and alcohol has so many calories it makes me take note whereas before I’d just let loose. I…

@chelny agreed - I need to find something else to do for fun, thanks for the suggestions. And I do hope to find someone who is looking for something deeper than the exterior. I certainly look past that. The top five things I’m looking for are attributes not physical characteristics. The guy for me will feel the same. Looks…

Thanks for the comments! My commute is ridiculous but I wouldn’t want to live near work. Where I live is small town but it’s pretty and on the water. Gives me an escape from the craziness of work and the city. At the end of the day the revenge body I hope to have will be for me. But it’s my current motivation so I’m going…