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You should go to the doctor before you ask a bunch of strangers on the Internet for healthcare advice. But since it's too late, go to the doctor ASAP.

The host should have bought more cream puffs. I'm Italian and Jewish and it's in my blood to overdo food. But I find most people don't have enough. If you know you're going to have 40 guests, you buy (or make) enough for everyone plus extra. It's ridiculous to think people will only eat one cream puff ...

"Gary Taubes" is enough for that response.

For me, it's about 2,000 steps per mile. If I walk to the bathroom and back to my desk once an hour at work, plus the walks to and from my car, I get about 2,200 steps in -- not counting getting ready in the morning and other miscellaneous walking. If I take a one-hour walk during the day, I easily end up around 13,000…

To put your mind a little at ease, WLS has come a long way since the '90s. A close friend recently had the surgery. She had lost a lot of weight on her own ... over and over and over and just kept putting it back on and adding more each time. She saw the surgery as a tool. She's still relatively newly post-surgery, but she…

It sounds like your family is going to criticize you no matter what, so do what makes you happy. Your current weight is perfectly fine for your height, especially as young as you are. They also aren't used to seeing you so small, so that's probably part of it. I'm also 5'3". I was thin most of my life, weighing around…

The presence, or lack of, of a gallbladder shouldn't have any effect on weight loss or gain. The only thing I noticed after was that I felt better and could again eat food that bothered me before the surgery.

I would absolutely never walk or run alone on a trail. Nope. On busy. lighted streets or parks (there are a couple here that are a sidewalk around a lake and there are always lots of people) and during the day on streets or in those parks, sure. And I wear headphones, but also keep them low enough I can hear things and am…

You will get over him. It takes time. When I was in your situation, I saw a therapist and he offered short-term antidepressants. I didn't take them but I know others who did in the same situation and they were helpful to those people. So it's an option if you want to feel better more quickly. But either way, as they say,…

Did you not pay attention to the news? I wouldn't have asked for links because this was common knowledge when it was happening.

I have been with my SO for 11 years. Do you want to know the last time I spent a holiday with MY family and not his? Twelve years ago. No, not all wives are like this. I use almost all my vacation time around HIS schedule and needs. There are reasons for this, so I'm not complaining. Just pointing out that your statement…

My dear, if you want to solve this, you must leave him. If you want to stay, resign yourself to the fact you're involved with a controlling, abusive jerk.

*I* would walk away at some point. But you have to decide that for yourself. In my case, I've been in a similar situation (no kids together, though) and he actually changed his mind and wants to get married now. It's just a matter of getting our respective families here so we can do it surrounded by the right people.…

OK. I've read through this entire thread now and the only conclusion I have, based on the information given, is get the hell out of there ASAP. And be really careful when you do.

Staying in an abusive relationship (even with their father) is hurting them. I know that's tough to hear, but I think you know that. He IS abusive. He is NOT a good father.

That's called "gaslighting." Look that up if you don't know what it is.

Appearance has nothing to do with it. And so what if you want to go "clubbing" with your friends? You can do that without hooking up with another man. People do it all the time. I dated someone like your husband. It lasted seven months and it shouldn't have lasted that long. He needs to stop and you need to put your foot…

My fiance has made similar comments to me and I tell him that my opinion of myself matters more than his opinion of me and the case is closed. I wouldn't even continue discussing it. It's your body. Marriage does not mean you no longer have control of your own body. There are reasons I want to be thinner -- clothes fit and…

Assuming you're not miscalculating (are you weighing and measuring food?), have your thyroid levels checked. And make sure the test looks for antibodies because if you have Hashimoto's, your TSH can be perfectly normal depending on where you are in the cycle. I had exactly this happen and it went on for years because I had…

I would advise you talk to a dietician, not a nutritionist. I know that's probably what was meant by this post and it sounds like picky semantics, but it matters. ANYONE can call him or herself a nutritionist and hang a shingle with very little training or knowledge. Dieticians have to have specific education and…

Not a lot of calories. Not much nutrition in those calories, but if you're getting that nutrition elsewhere and it's not leaving you feeling sick (it would me!), then no big deal. Some PTs are idiots. Few of them have any actual training on nutrition. Don't listen to him. He had no business remarking on your breakfast. He…

Yes.

Take responsibility for your own actions.

Yes, dear. Yes, there is. I have one of them. But you're all-knowing so I bow to you. You know more than my endocrinologist, apparently.

True. But when you have certain health conditions, "above what your body needs" sometimes means more than 500 calories a day. So ... what do you suggest to those of use in that boat? Because for many years, if I eat more than that -- regardless of how much exercise I do -- I gain weight. Or at best, I maintain. Yes, I use…

You do realize, don't you, that 1,200 calories is what some people have to eat to lose weight? I have Hashimoto's. I'm 5'3". 1,200 is almost too many calories for me. And I've been at this a long time, so I kind of know what I'm doing with my own body. Get over yourself.

Apparently I'm too old for this question. It must be an issue for the Internet age or something. I mean, men I dated watched porn and stuff (the old-fashioned way) but never seemed to expect me to live up to anything I don't think. It never seemed to be an issue ... There isn't a man out there who I've known in the…

There is no such thing as adrenal fatigue. It isn't a real thing. However, thyroid disorders, stress, and too little fat in the diet are all things that can lead to hair loss (among others). See a doctor.

I have a "broken" metabolism, but it isn't due to not eating enough. I have an actual medical condition that affects my metabolism and ability to lose weight. Unless you have something like that, your metabolism isn't broken and more likely, you aren't being honest with your tracking.

Not every woman has that body shape. Sorry. Genetics and all that.