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A lot of the old regulars are in serious relationships/engaged. Also, seemed like a group of folks ran off most of the folks they didn't agree with. It's really too bad because I learned a lot from this group - even from guys whose positions were frustrating. The first time I tried online dating I did it all wrong! It was…
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I'm glad you left appearance blank. I would never have guessed from your picture you're that heavy! If you had to choose, I would put a few extra pounds if you're looking as you do in you MFP profile pics. Even if you were brutally honest, people can still express disappointment with your size. I am hourglass and very fit,…
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Met my fiance on match. also met 20+ great guys who were just not great for me. Met 1 decent guy on a free site (the rest were all crazy weird -you could tell why they were all single) As a church girl, I thought I would have great success on ChristianMingle- NOPE. Can explain more via pm. I agree w/PPs who said there are…
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Congrats Kim! So happy for you! We've been ring-shopping so I'm not technically engaged but I know it's coming.
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I think a lot depends on the kind of partner you want too. I suppose if one likes a really shy type of partner, they'd need to do most of the chasing to draw him/her out and show you really are interested? Guys always tell me that they want women to initiate contact and take the lead in the relationship, but I've,…
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I've had the same experience others noted: the few times I did respond "I'm not interested" the guys were VERY rude in their responses. I stopped responding if I wasn't interested. If I wasn't interested for a "solvable" reason (like their divorce not finalized yet or they're a certain rank in the military) then I would…
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One thing that makes this easier is if the kids don't see it as them being dumped on a sitter but, rather, as them having a good time. A couple years ago, I brought my son to a youth center activity and was surprised to hear "go away...we'll take care of him...see you in 4 hours." Up to that point, all the "activities" he…
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Since I've been receiving messages lately from people reading my old posts, it's causing me to go back and read them too. If any of the folks who commented on this want to know the REAL reason I was so upset buy this whole situation: I was upset because a mutual friend was very in love with this guy. They did everything…
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yes, the video says (in their study) Asian men were the least popular, but it also implies this is partially their own fault because they approach a very limited range of women. It notes that the middle eastern guy goes after women of all types and has the highest response rate. Strangely, it said Asian and middle eastern…
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@ Congrats Dave!! @ Congrats Kate!! @ Kit,so happy you love this new job and I'm glad you're realizing now (as opposed to later once the damage has been done) that you need to take care of yourself for the long term @ Bre, sorry to hear about all this drama... people are funny and can turn on you in a moment. You say…
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I confess I was irritated to discover that, by the CDC's standards, I'm considered "obese." Then I looked in the mirror and felt better about it. But still. Overweight I get. Obese?? SMH!
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You are right... and my bf likes women who are shapely (which I honestly didn't believe til I saw his ex). It makes an AMAZING difference to be in a relationship with a man who finds you truly attractive vice one who just thinks you're a "good woman" and wants you to take care of him but deep down doesn't find you hot…
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Here's another one: on the slopes. I had a lot of guys helping me out today. I'm taken, but you ladies might enjoy that tip!
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I gave up trying to work out in the morning. I just had to force myself to do it when I get home, while dinner was cooking. I bought a treadmill and I have some really good fitness tapes. Like someone else said, I try to workout before eating so that's motivation. I actually find that I perform better after work anyway -…
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Losing weight didn't change my personality.... until I started hearing what thin people really think of heavy people. They never made those kinds of comments around me when I was heavier. Because of that, I've become WAY more self critical than I EVER was. I used to love myself no matter what my size and be very confident…
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My best friend runs an Asperger's Blog (The Saved Aspie). http://savedaspie.blogspot.com/ While not Aspergers myself, I am a scientist and share many traits. I can TOTALLY identify with what you are saying. Last year sometime I suggested that one of the guys in a forum I frequented might have Aspergers. Apparently it…
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For anyone that finds this post later (or for those still following it but, like me, are in the military where "find another doctor" isn't exactly an option) here's some good stretches I found. I've been doing these after walking on the treadmill and it's really helped the pain.…
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It amazes me how people are so quick to dog out others -usually displaying a lack of reading comprehension in the process. Guess their inner confidence is lacking or they can only love themselves in the context of "Glad I'm not as ___ as s/he." I would remind folks that my post clearly notes what the dr said (meds) but…
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ewwwww. I totally would NOT be on that site. I would feel like if a guy paid money to go out with me he would expect something, not unlike many women feel like a man would expect if he treats her to dinner/the night out. PS: this is NOT to say a woman owes a man sexual favors for taking her out on a date (even if he pays).…
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I still don't understand why this is a problem. Out of the 20 first dates I had (between April and Aug of 2012) only a handful of guys I met were 2nd or 3rd date material. Yet several guys would be upset when we hadn't even met yet and I was still online in the dating system. I don't get that. The two guys that turned into…
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Easy. Word docs. For each of the guys I made a word doc with their pic, profiles, important emails, and a running log of our dates and phone convos. I had a blackberry back then, so it was easy to synch that up with my contacts and review them before meeting in person. You can get apps or (before apps were popular there's…
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Exactly what I would have done. no blaming, giving him an out in case HE was over-reacting, and then explaining concisely what actually happened. Also exactly what I would have done. I would give him another chance the next day (sounds like what you did) but I don't tolerate this kind of drama for long. Him even asking…
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Neat idea! My first thought was "oh yeah I'd totally use that" and then I stopped and thought about it... the last couple guys I enjoyed going out with for any length of time (including my current BF) aren't big into volunteering like I am so I'm not sure they would have been on such a site. OTOH, if they were looking for…
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Just depends on what you want. Was at lunch with two guy friends the other day. One (overweight, health problems, out of a job, still lives with his mom in his late 30s, very loud and opinionated, but still a nice guy) expressed frustration that all the girls liked the other guy (good-looking military officer, nice guy who…
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Instead of looking at it as "Divorce on V Day" you could look at it as "I'm finally FREE on V Day" or "I love MYSELF (enough to have gotten out of that bad relationship) on V Day" {{{{hugs}}}}
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JJ. in DC.
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I confess that (even though I'm happy in my relationship) I still get irritated when I see another guy who didn't like something about me with a girl who is even worse. So, for example, saw two guys this week who cited my weight as one of the reasons things didn't work out and they're dating someone heavier. I always put…
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I know everyone is joking around, but... Gals, if you have "pointy hips" or "saddlebags" as some call them, that style in the first pic (high waisted high leg opening) is very slimming.for that body shape. I hope that style will resurface in swimwear this season. All the swimwear for the last year seems to sit low on the…
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Hi DJ, this is the same problem I had when training for my marathon. Weight and size both went up, then fell back to normal quickly after ceasing activity. Basically, because this weight gain fell off immediately after stopping Insanity for a week (6 pounds in 1 week, and I'm actually down lower today another 4 pounds 4…
