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That sounds like a really hard situation, any way you look at it. Good on you for keeping on trying and being a good friend. I hope he comes out of the fog :-)

in How do I talk about weight-loss with an obese friend? Comment by gingeryone August 2014

This reminds me of my great-grandmother! They can be harsh, god-love-em! :-)

in How do I talk about weight-loss with an obese friend? Comment by gingeryone August 2014

Thank you :-)

in How do I talk about weight-loss with an obese friend? Comment by gingeryone August 2014

This is a really positive story! Thanks for sharing.

in How do I talk about weight-loss with an obese friend? Comment by gingeryone August 2014

I'm genuinely curious why you'd be so offended as to shut them out of your life? I know a lot would depend on how/why it was said, but I find it really interesting that you'd have this reaction.

in How do I talk about weight-loss with an obese friend? Comment by gingeryone August 2014

I'm asking people for their thoughts/experiences because I DON'T want to do that :-/

in How do I talk about weight-loss with an obese friend? Comment by gingeryone August 2014

That's one of the reasons I was originally thinking of broaching the subject - to basically indicate that I'm cool to talk about it if she wants. But I think the possible negatives of doing that outweigh the positives.

in How do I talk about weight-loss with an obese friend? Comment by gingeryone August 2014

There are so many negative land mines in the media to dodge! I always feel uncomfortable whenever any kind of body-shaming shows/ads come on! It's impossible to escape.

in How do I talk about weight-loss with an obese friend? Comment by gingeryone August 2014

My intention was never to point out that she'd put on weight. I'm more concerned with the social isolation and low self esteem that I think the weight plays into. But I agree that weight shouldn't be a part of the conversation - unless she wants it to be and brings it up.

in How do I talk about weight-loss with an obese friend? Comment by gingeryone August 2014

I think you're spot on. Will do :-)

in How do I talk about weight-loss with an obese friend? Comment by gingeryone August 2014

Definitely agree with this. It's just hard to sit with when it feels like a cycle she's on - feeling low and not having the motivation/confidence to be more active, but then being inactive making her feel worse *sigh*

in How do I talk about weight-loss with an obese friend? Comment by gingeryone August 2014

I agree. Just got to be her friend. Fragile self-confidence makes talking about these things so tricky! And let's face it, most of us have fragile self-esteem, at least at times.

in How do I talk about weight-loss with an obese friend? Comment by gingeryone August 2014

nope

in How do I talk about weight-loss with an obese friend? Comment by gingeryone August 2014

Thanks so much, everyone! I really appreciate your honest and open replies! I agree with everything you've all said. I definitely won't bring up anything to do with weight - because at the end of the day, it's not really about that - but I will try to talk to her about the fact that she doesn't go out much anymore and see…

in How do I talk about weight-loss with an obese friend? Comment by gingeryone August 2014

It's sounding like I shouldn't say anything. I'm happy with that. I don't want to make her feel worse.

in How do I talk about weight-loss with an obese friend? Comment by gingeryone August 2014

I think you're right and that maybe I shouldn't say anything. Even with the best of intentions, it might do more harm than good...

in How do I talk about weight-loss with an obese friend? Comment by gingeryone August 2014

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