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Wonderful!! Great news, congratulations :flowerforyou:

Reminds me - people are happiest when they have a strong sense of themselves, when they are doing things they love, when they construct lives rich in meaning by building them around their values.

*Doing a Lorro Happy Dance* :happy: :drinker:

Good news!! Are you feeling any better yet? :smile:

I knew I was more likely to stay logging on regularly and therefore losing if I knew some people on here. This is a smaller group than the main forum and it's easier to get to know people because we talk about personal stuff. It's all about the weight loss :smile:

:frown: I can't imagine how awful it is that your meds depend on your finances. But this may have happened with any SSRI change so just give it time before you make any major changes. What you may be like when stable on this medicine may be nothing like how you are now. Meanwhile, hopefully the Dr will be able to moderate…

This is objective evidence that you do not come across in the way you tell yourself you do. Why not try believing this instead, behaving accordingly by stepping out of your comfort zone again and see what happens :flowerforyou:

It's an SSRI (as is Paxil and Lexapro). Activation syndrome is a serious side effect of starting on SSRIs, there is a warning for it and doctors are asked to monior for it closely. It involves a big inrease in anxiety at the start of drug treatment. Suicide risk increases too, which is why it is so important to seek…

Aww PJ!! Thanks :flowerforyou: :heart: What a pity about single peeps :frown: NCTravellingG could this be the reason?: Shyness usually comes with a self focussed attention which evaluates how one may be coiming across to others (otherwise known as "seeing oneself as a social object"). One remedy is to consciously focus…

Totally agree. Kirstin, it bothers me that you are thinking of settling so indulge me if I explain why I think it's a bad idea :flowerforyou: For example my kids define part of me, as does my work. I'm not saying everyone has to appreciate them, I have some friends quite apart from my family that are into different things…

Wow that was an unpleasant read. What happened to singlepeeps being a safe haven from all the hostility on the main forums :noway: I gave up reading half way but wanted to respond to those posters who seemed more socially anxious than shy (especially if alcohol or benzos are needed to manage the anxiety). If you want to…

Stop making me laugh, my throat hurts too much. Caught man flu :noway:

Makes sense but after lots of non matches I went the other way and got lower volume but better matched results. Eg. I used a cheesy username to sift out the cynics. I think we need to have this discussion over drinks. Kirstin are you up for a meet up and profile writing night out in Notts? :drinker: :bigsmile:

You see it's the masses thing that put me off match. There was waaaay too much contact for me. But then I'm ambivalent about dating at the best of times - never mind online...

Wow that's great news! I'll review your profile :smile: Also happy to PM swap you online dating advice/stories/rants if you like :laugh: :flowerforyou:

Sparkles all the way! :happy:

Husky, you always ask the best questions! :laugh: I think the clue is in the question. What attracts you and keeps you in relationships with people you can't have? It may be way off base, but I'll share with you some of what others have said. Often its to do with our expectations of others and how they will react to us.…

I don't agree that men and women want different things from sex. Stereotype does not equal norm. In my experience, men are every bit as romantic as women and often more so. Of course many are not. I'm not interested in numbers, maybe I filter out those who fit the stereotype. The point is that men over a certain age (and…

Another day, another Jamaican food thread :laugh: Mine: Guinep and Tamarind. We had trees in our yard whan I was a child, it was like having a free sweets suppy :bigsmile: I'd totally forgotten about bammie, wonder if you can buy it in the UK..

Woo Hoo!! :drinker: I have the drinks in my kitchen and the song on your namesake's ipod. Now all we need is the invite. Will PM you dates later :bigsmile:

Ah well, quality not quantity :bigsmile: :drinker: I checked groups - if you put military in the search box you'll find a few. I bet they post more there than here.

P.S. It's true - Sailor is an awesome friend. Add him!:flowerforyou:

Anna, Sweetie!! :frown: Men... :huh: Too right :flowerforyou: (((Hugs)) I'll be in touch soon xx

Hey, I'm not dead yet! :tongue: :laugh:

I usually tell them I swim daily but if they persist in seeking more exciting answers, I tell them it's all the coke fuelled sex

Ha! Totally agree with Anna, as usual. Moreover, people with views such as those expressed in the article often assume that everyone views relationships as commodities, whether they have set their sights too high and are being unrealistic as to what they can attain, or would have done better to lower their standards whilst…

You're welcome :happy: Every day in the gym and a two inch loss - that's a great start and shows that you can do it! :bigsmile: There will be set backs but as long as you get back on track every time you will get there in the end - that's as true of staying positive as losing weight.

^^^ Truth! :happy:

Hi TinGirl. Welcome to MFP :flowerforyou: Three of the things that seem to be most difficult about BPD are the degree of self attack, the general chaos when things are bad and self sabotage. So I would try and focus on improving your skils in the following areas: being kind to yourself, especially after self attack;…

Well done on posting!! :happy: What comes across most strongly in your message is your fear of being judged negatively as a parent. That's such a pity, as it may affect your chances of meeting the right guy for you. If I was you, that's the main thing I'd work on as I think it's quite different from the general single…