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ENFP You’re single because: You have the attention span of a goldfish and cannot decide what you want. You’ll get into a relationship when: You find someone just unattainable enough to intrigue you for a significant period of time. Ha that's spot on for me! :D Thanks Kate

Hell Yes! So many tracks, so little time. However, All roads lead to Rome

LOL. Guess we've all got one track minds...

I agree with Crista. Meg, you are amazingly brave, resilient and resourceful. You are a survivor. You survived a terrible childhood and fought your way through the fear to achieve a few blissful years. You survived three traumatic events and the loneliness they brought but kept going through the bad times to find a man…

Sorry you are having hassle Kirstin :frown: Many years ago I was sent on a basic self defence course through work, it took about 3 hrs and was run by ex police. They covered lots of how to avoid becoming a victim stuff too - some was obvious but other sections less so eg how to react if threatened (body language/eye…

I think he cares (that was what he was saying you were wrong about). None of us know, you'll have to talk to him about it. My advice: forget about labelling it and defining what it is or could be. Forget about negotiations and what he/you may want or not want. Try and see this as an opportunity to break your pattern and…

This ^^^. Nothing else really matters, it would not have gone well even in a face to face conversation. As for blowing hot and cold, the guy either wants something casual or has committment issues. Next! :smile:

Normally it's best to be direct, but the "desperately" part can be a turn off. So I would make your interest known by flirting (thus stepping out of the friends zone) and distract yourself from the "what does he think of me" doubts by focussing on the moment, what he is saying (rather than what he is not) etc. Try and go…

Thanks for sharing :smile:

I have yet to meet people who regard their marriages as disposable or temporary. I see people in dysfunctional relationships that need to end for the health of those people in them and the children whose parenting otherwise suffers. I see people who are unable to cope with life resorting to any means possible to block out…

I think the combined response of every post on the thread contains the answers you are looking for: From qurkytizzy: Expressing compassion to self and another living thing; Staying socially connected, even if it's only online; Paying attention to the small stuff eg. looking for and noticing things of beauty around us. From…

Not silly at all :smile: I was with my ex for 21 years. The loss of our relationship was neccessary but devastating for us as people and for our family, but I don't regret all the years we spent together or what we created. So therefore it was not silly to marry. To me marriage is not the issue, it's whether it's silly to…

Exercise (minimum 30 mins a day) and good therapy. Try a rating scale like the phq9 which is available free online. If it is severe then medication is recommended too. If it is mild/moderate a good self help course may help. Here's a link: http://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/resources/infopax.cfm?Info_ID=37 . Above all, keep…

Sometimes if we feel guilty we can project those feelings onto others and imagine how they may react to us in a worst case scenario. In cases like this it can be helpful to face our fears and hopefully find that others can be more accepting and suppportive than we predicted. But if this fear is based in a reality of how…

Come and visit Anna and I in the UK :smile:

A wonderful quote Peter :) You may like this article: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-mindful-self-express/201303/turning-the-positive-personal-growth-after-trauma

Hiya H, Welcome :flowerforyou: Friends request sent :smile:

She may have good intentions but she's weak. She allowed herself to be manipulated into harming you for someone who harms her. Now she is continuing to harm you by remaining in contact. Why? Because she can't let go of someone who she thinks needs her more, even though it's unfair and unhealthy. I suspect you have more in…

You're welcome :bigsmile: So is that you in the corner losing your brown pigeon?

Thanks Luke :flowerforyou: I must admit, I made up the one heart per year thing as I posted in exasperation with myself :ohwell: Unfortunately, I've had a lifelong problem with the "This is for you, not for them" thing. With me, it's all about the other person. I've sorted this out in other areas of my life eg with family…

Sounds to me like she is ready for the relationship to move to the next stage and she's wondering whether it will, so she's feeling a bit insecure and reading too much into random signs rather than addressing the emotional need. That would fit with feeling better after she talked to you (as she gained reassurance you are…

I now have that REM song (Everybody Poofs) going on on my head :laugh:

I totally agree with the "go for what you want" advice. Of course if you end up always doing all the work then you need to reassess but you are not at that point that you can say that is happening yet. Also it seems in the contact you have had, he has taken the initiative to arrange the dates. That sounds like he is making…

Hi wolfelements. I've read quite a bit about DID but haven't met anyone with so many alters. It must be difficult to focus on one goal, especially one as difficult as weight loss. Are any of your alters children? I would imagine that would complicate things as much as the one that drinks alcohol constantly. Well done on…

Such a wholesome thread .... :huh: :bigsmile: Anyway back on topic.... Single, most likely to remain so this year unless Mr.Right lays siege to my castle.:love: I met a lovely man last year but after much angst have decided he is a friend. Db do you have no women friends? How do you survive? :flowerforyou: I set myself a…

I hate to generalise but here goes.. This is the typical behaviour of someone who thinks all men are users who only want one thing. They resent it, but they don't question the truth if it so they also use it. It's a self perpetuating prophecy as they only attract users. Taking an extreme example it's the reason why kids…

Perhaps he's just happy to see her! :bigsmile:

Is it my imagination or is one of them holding a very large elecric drill?

Thanks for the laughs! :happy: Weird coincidence Lacroyx, I have used the pop up book of phobias. :huh:

Well done girl, is this an old flame or Mr.New? :bigsmile: LMAO. Great exit line... I had a Valentine all the way from Australia :love: Pity he's not closer :ohwell: