I had one guy tell me he had to have sex within the first 3 dates to make sure there was chemistry.
Just crap like that.

I do this as well. If I don't want to have sex with them by date 3 it's not going to go anywhere.

I had one guy tell me he had to have sex within the first 3 dates to make sure there was chemistry.
Just crap like that.

I do this as well. If I don't want to have sex with them by date 3 it's not going to go anywhere.

I think there is a difference.

You want to know you'd have sex with them, he HAD to have sex with them...
If I am not attracted by date 3 I would move on too, but even if I am head over heals, I am not having sex on date 3.

If it makes yall feel any better, I dont get the sexy emails in my inbox either... maybe I should get more slutty pics

Please show us your new pics first

Me too me too LOL!!!!!

Oops sorry maybe that was innappropriate.

Hmm.. maybe as I am the initiator of sexual discussion..or at least hinting at it..relatively early on, I don't give them time to do it?!

If I made it to date three and didn't know if I wanted to have sex that would likely mean a total lack of chemistry. Being head over heels is dangerous - have met wonderful men who are crap in bed, unfortunately. And that's just not going to fly.
Even a kiss is only an indicator of possibility.. nothing more.

I think if you have met in person for atleast 1 date, even hinting or discussing things is ok.
What I was meaning is that I haven't even made it thru 1-2 POF emails and I am getting sex talked. I think there is a difference.
What is the point of getting all worked up thru emails BEFORE you met the person, you could be repulsed by them.

I just, personally, don't think you should NEED to have sex within a couple dates to see if they are worth being with.
I don't know, just not me.

This is the other line that had me scratching my head:

Yes been told my pics are a little slutty well I don't care cause if you got it then flaunt it cause someday you will lose it. Its not like Im nude! Besides it seems to be the only way I get your attention.

Most of her pictures included low-cut tops or were at angles where you looking down at her chest. In one of the face pics she had this look like she was doing the tongue hitting the inside of the cheek to mimic a BJ.

She's been told she looks slutty. She is complaining that all the guys are looking for a hookup. Yet, she isn't willing to change her image because that's the only way to get any guys to pay attention to her.

I hate to generalise but here goes..

This is the typical behaviour of someone who thinks all men are users who only want one thing. They resent it, but they don't question the truth if it so they also use it. It's a self perpetuating prophecy as they only attract users. Taking an extreme example it's the reason why kids who are abused behave in a sexually precocious manner. Poor woman, send her a nice message db but don't date her!

If it makes yall feel any better, I dont get the sexy emails in my inbox either... maybe I should get more slutty pics

OK :happy:

Ran into this profile of POF. The lady is 45. The phrase that comes to mind from her pics is Rode hard, put away wet a few too many times.

Why do a lot of you good-looking guys say your looking for long term relationship when your not...

I stopped reading right there. I'm not a total grammar nazi, we all make mistakes. But if you're a native English speaker and you don't know the difference between "your" and "you're," then I'm really not interested. Sounds harsh, but I absolutely hate this.

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Ran into this profile of POF. The lady is 45. The phrase that comes to mind from her pics is Rode hard, put away wet a few too many times.

Why do a lot of you good-looking guys say your looking for long term relationship when your not...

I stopped reading right there. I'm not a total grammar nazi, we all make mistakes. But if you're a native English speaker and you don't know the difference between "your" and "you're," then I'm really not interested. Sounds harsh, but I absolutely hate this.

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I'm just glad I'm not the only one that weeds them out for this one. I always feel mean, but it's not that hard.

Is gramatical erros really so offensive that you discredit the entire profile?

I ask because, Yes, I know the difference between you're and your. But most of the time unless I am typing something official or important, I tend to just use "your". Mostly because its simpler, its quicker, and it still very understandable with what is being communicated when its used.

Maybe its the yrs of gamming and online chatting that makes shortening words and phrases, second nature to me. But it feels like its part my own style of casual writing.

I don't understand how something seeming so trivial can be so offencive to some.

Is gramatical erros really so offensive that you discredit the entire profile?

I ask because, Yes, I know the difference between you're and your. But most of the time unless I am typing something official or important, I tend to just use "your". Mostly because its simpler, its quicker, and it still very understandable with what is being communicated when its used.

Maybe its the yrs of gamming and online chatting that makes shortening words and phrases, second nature to me. But it feels like its part my own style of casual writing.

I don't understand how something seeming so trivial can be so offencive to some.

If it makes it too hard to read the context of what someone is writing then yes gramatical errors are that offensive. I don't want to translate something that is supposed to be in english.

Is grammatical erros really so offensive that you discredit the entire profile?

I ask because, Yes, I know the difference between you're and your. But most of the time unless I am typing something official or important, I tend to just use "your". Mostly because its simpler, its quicker, and it still very understandable with what is being communicated when its used.

Maybe its the yrs of gamming and online chatting that makes shortening words and phrases, second nature to me. But it feels like its part my own style of casual writing.

I don't understand how something seeming so trivial can be so offencive to some.

My own point of view is that part of looking for a relationship is the possibility of marriage and children. The educational level of the parents is one of the best predictors of educational achievement of children. I wouldn't want to risk having a child who may be raised by someone who seems ignorant of basic communication skills. If you can't see LTR-potential, why bother?

So the words that I **choose** to use in a sentence, suggests my lack of intelligence and therefore my child’s expected lack of intelligence? You can tell this from my punctuation??? This seems extremely foolish to make assumptions like this!

Now I understand that an online profile should be considered similar to a job interview; and yes there should always be time, thought, and effort put into ones profile. But it amazes me how significant of a red flag it can raise to someone if they find improper grammar. I can see how it can be taken into consideration, but I believe that it should never be so significant as to kill the interest all together. Now I have my own red flags that I look for, that will make her and I immediately incompatible. But grammar, at least for me, definitely is not one of them.

So the words that I **choose** to use in a sentence, suggests my lack of intelligence and therefore my child’s expected lack of intelligence? You can tell this from my punctuation??? This seems extremely foolish to make assumptions like this!

Now I understand that an online profile should be considered similar to a job interview; and yes there should always be time, thought, and effort put into ones profile. But it amazes me how significant of a red flag it can raise to someone if they find improper grammar. I can see how it can be taken into consideration, but I believe that it should never be so significant as to kill the interest all together. Now I have my own red flags that I look for, that will make her and I immediately incompatible. But grammar, at least for me, definitely is not one of them.

I don't know if that's what he meant, but I just got into the habit of proofreading all of my emails at work, because I feel like it reflects on my work performance. If I send out careless emails I don't want people to think I am also careless at my work. There's just a certain level of professionalism I try to maintain.

In dating, I try to stick with people that I have a lot in common with, similar values, etc. I just feel more connected with people who put a bit more effort into the English language.

So the words that I **choose** to use in a sentence, suggests my lack of intelligence and therefore my child’s expected lack of intelligence? You can tell this from my punctuation??? This seems extremely foolish to make assumptions like this!

Now I understand that an online profile should be considered similar to a job interview; and yes there should always be time, thought, and effort put into ones profile. But it amazes me how significant of a red flag it can raise to someone if they find improper grammar. I can see how it can be taken into consideration, but I believe that it should never be so significant as to kill the interest all together. Now I have my own red flags that I look for, that will make her and I immediately incompatible. But grammar, at least for me, definitely is not one of them.

Future children are probably not what people are holding in their conscious minds when clicking through profiles, but I think we're all programmed to look for whatever "the best" is, and lazy writing or lazy proofreading does not signal "the best". The biological drive behind wanting "the best" is generally procreation, so I think that line of reasoning makes sense.

So, in terms of written communication, casually I am super sloppy with syntax. I know that, and realize that a lot of people might just skip over things that I write because I'm lazy about correcting word order and stuff like that. However, dating profiles are little representations of you, and I really wouldn't want the sloppiness of my writing to communicate overall sloppiness to potential dates.

(Also- my daily is serious learning disabilities- so I absolutely get and make allowances for the fact that micro components of language do not necessarily correlate with intelligence- but the ability to recognize when something is important and needs to be carefully executed absolutely correlates with intelligence)

How about if the person just can't spell!! What does that indicate? My spelling/grammar is ok, but it's definitely not perfect. I'm neither unintelligent nor lazy!!

In my experience, X doesnt always indicate Y!

What if this person who's spelling isn't up to scratch is a banker on a 6 figure income, is loveable, affectionate, fit, common sense, witty, sexy, reliable, doesnt do drugs or get crazy over stupid things?

But hang on, s/he spells lose, loose!! Spell check wouldn't even pick that up! :huh: