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I am 5'1 and weigh a little bit more than you, and my target is 1700 cal sedentary, and I still lose weight. 600-800 calories a day and such a limited menu is not sustainable and is setting yourself up for failure. Just because there are starving people in the world who are underweight doesn't mean starvation isn't…

More than likely OP, you were eating above maintenance. It doesn't mean you were pigging out or eating "bad" foods, but you ate more than you burned. I got to where I was partially because of PCOS, but also because I overate. I didn't think I was eating badly (my parents put me on diets for much of my childhood, and I…

Here's my question, OP. Does he support you in this even though he doesn't care for the "bulky" look, or does he say he doesn't like you lifting, or does he sabotage your goals? I think this is where it matters. Of course you want to strive to be the best wife you can be (and I hope he is trying to be the best husband in…

^Agree 100%. Just because it's something you don't understand doesn't make it an "excuse."

With food - you MUST learn how to do it. You can't give it up completely like alcohol and drugs. It's really not that hard to understand, unless you want to think the worst of those who struggle with disordered eating of any type.

So if you're giving up on cooking after you mess up on something, then what makes you think you have what it takes to get the body you want? To do well at pretty much anything, it involves trial and error and you may not get it right the first time. It is life - deal with it. And you cannot possibly use your wallet as an…

Yeah - it's awesome. It wa my DH's idea and I decided to do the exercises with him as support (not the diet though - I just track my calories to stay in a deficit and DH doesn't diet). DDP Yoga has been a great gateway into us getting fitter and stronger. I have lost some weight doing it (I have added a few other things as…

I get that it's supposed to be a good friend, but it is ALSO a coworker. If that conversation doesn't go over well, you still have to work with the person. When I'm working, my business is my job, not other people's waistlines.

I have a desk job also. I've started to incorporate workouts before work because generally speaking, when I get off work I am not motivated to go anywhere else but home. My DH and I also do an exercise DVD routine together (DDP Yoga) before we go to bed, so working out doesn't necessarily mean going to the gym. If you're…

I don't like it - I already know I'm big, and it's not like telling me is going to be some sort of wake-up call. My mom made a comment on it a week ago, saying that she was worried about me and I needed to lose weight. I wasn't angry at her because I know she was concerned (she struggles with her weight too and was…

I'm a foodie, so I like various types of foods, but my DH eats a lot like you - he is very much a meat and potatoes kind of person, and doesn't like to deviate from that. So I get that. I agree with the others, you can eat what you love and still lose weight. Just make sure you are measuring your portions and maintain a…

It's not name-calling. It's an opinion. You have yours, others have the right to consider your opinion rude. You don't pay to be comfortable on the plane unless you fly first class or on your own private jet. You pay to get from point A to B - period.

^This. OP - I don't know why you are on a MOTIVATION board to complain about motivation. It seems silly. In any case, maybe it's not that people who need motivation need to "want to lose weight." Maybe they need to be encouraged to keep making the effort to do so, because some do not see the fruits of their labor right…

Tank tops because that's generally what's available at the store and on sale. I like bottoms with some stretch to them, but not shorts. Yoga pants are helpful in that regard.

I don't care for mayo and order sandwiches without it (or its cousins salad dressing and ranch). I prefer mustard or hot sauce. I like peanut butter, but typically I like them in things that aren't good for me, such as Reeses cups and Graeter's Buckeye Blast ice cream. So I prefer pb to mayo, but I don't eat mayo and not a…

I have never had it happen to me in my 15 years on and off of going to the gym. Even at the gym I went to in college and grad school, full of young college students, no one has ever said anything to me, and if they commented about me, I had my headphones on so I didn't hear it. Besides, I tend to have an intimidating look…

This. Someone's size says very little, if anything, about their skill set in the type of exercise in question. Like another poster said previously, you build your body at the gym and you lose weight in the kitchen. So being overweight doesn't mean they don't know how to exercise. When taking classes, I don't care about…

It's important to look into why you eat too much, because if you don't address that, you'll keep going in the same direction. Support groups like OA or counseling can help. Even talking through it with a supportive friend, or taking some time for introspection can help. As someone who has been overweight for just about all…

This. OP - It's one thing if you and him were on the same page. However, you have the goal to lose weight, and he is clearly not on board with that. You deserve someone who is willing to support you in your goal, especially when that comes with living a healthier life. That is a huge problem. Yes, you choose what you eat,…

It doesn't matter if she has 20 lbs or 200 lbs to lose. He doesn't know her and he doesn't know where she is in her life. Just because someone is obese doesn't mean they need the unsolicited "help" of a total stranger. Generally speaking, fat people know they are fat, and don't need a stranger to swoop in and play captain…

What is wrong with people on MFP who seem to think that being overweight gives strangers the okay to make assumptions and comments on another person's body?? It doesn't matter if the OP is "sensitive" or not. What this man did was inappropriate - PERIOD. It doesn't matter if the stranger was once overweight or thinks he…

I was on WW, and it worked when I was doing meetings. The social aspect and accountability was helpful. But when my schedule changed and I needed to do online-only, it wasn't worth the money and I had issues sticking with it. MFP has the same stuff and it's free. I have no problem with different approaches - as long as…

Diet pop can be addictive due to the caffeine, which is a drug and can definitely cause dependency. Not sure if it will affect you long term, but I can see if losing dependency on any drug is a goal. Also, pop is filled with sodium. It's not a big deal for many, but is to some, especially those with high bp. I do drink…

I would say sedentary. I had an MFP membership from some time ago and started back using it a couple of weeks back. I had a different app I was using before and it had me at a similar calorie per day target as MFP, and I wondered why I wasn't losing. When I started back on MFP, I checked the settings when changing my…

I don't think it's that. It's staying in communication with your spouse to know where the boundaries are when working together to lose weight, which is a loaded issue for some. My DH and I are also working on weight loss together. We are both working out using DDP Yoga exercise program, and we both push each other to stick…

I get the idea of fighting for your family, I really do. My father died of diabetes-related heart disease at 57, my brother had cholesterol problems in his teens. However, everyone's body is different, everyone's life experiences are different, and weight issues are very personal. I'm sure most of us are on MFP in the…

Yes, mind your own business. I don't know any fat person that isn't aware they are fat. And especially if one is a large child or teen, they will have been made all too aware. If they want weight loss or management help from you, they will ask you. But otherwise, everyone has their own issues, pay attention to your own.

My NSV was doing a DDP yoga workout with my DH and being able to stand up from being down on one knee without putting my hands to the floor. Also, after the workout, I was able to sit on the floor unsupported for several minutes without feeling pain in my legs or back (I haven't been able to do that for the past decade).

To the OP - how do you know that your friend isn't already addressing weight with her daughter? Just because she is getting bigger doesn't mean that your friend or her daughter is unaware of the situation. I was an overweight child and teenager, and I would gain about 10-15 lbs a year. My parents were obese. To people on…

But I think that what you're missing (as well as the OP) is that you can't simply ignore her feelings in the name of "her health is more important." Just because you mention to your cousin that you're concerned about her weight doesn't mean that the outcome you want will be the actual outcome. As a matter of fact, it…