SweetBasil35 Member

Ishy Minnesooootan accent - although I tried hard to not over pronounce my "r's" and vowels.

I LOVE THIS! And I need it for my teenager... is it an alarm clock that you use (with three alarms)?

Good for you girl! No one is going to look out for your best interest if you don't!

Defensive or not - I think it's really smart of you to protect your heart and LISTEN when a man tells you he doesn't want a relationship. If I man says he doesn't want a relationship, but still fools around with you - he DOESN'T want a relationship, he just wants to take what he can get. TheKit: I don't see it as…

Healed. :wink:

IMHO it isn't any one moment from childhood, but more about the messages you internalized from the way your parent(s) treated you. I am not aware of that book, nor the authors.... it looks like a good one, though! And btw, I really think that acknowledgement is half the battle to overcoming change - you're well on your…

There's this whole theory that the people we are attracted to (called our Imago) are actually people who could - or do - hurt us just as our parent(s) "wounded" us as children - that we seek these men/women out as a way to heal the hurt caused from our early relationship with a parent. More often than not, we don't…

It's easy to think about being codependent as all or nothing... you either are or you aren't. I see it more as a spectrum of tendencies and unfortunately, I really struggle with it in my dating life. I am completely INdependent in all aspects of my life: raised my children on my own (18 and 12 - they are AWESOME kids btw),…

I hate to admit that I fall into the box of a "sound byte" from Dr. Phil, but I think it's really true. I find that I have perfect chemistry with men who aren't super attractive... but think that I am! LOL Saying all the right things will make me fall for him, but it's his ability to DO the things he talks about (and live…

I love this... thanks for posting. :flowerforyou:

Girls are way too complicated to try and pin point. :noway: My suggestion would be to change/branch out to a different site(s). You're adorable, btw! Just checked my FB friends list for a single friend to hook you up with, but to no avail. I'd go for ya myself, but I'm an old lady with teenagers. :drinker: ha!

Oh don't stop cuz of my big mouth :flowerforyou: ... It's just that I don't read into it what other women might. I must say, I really like what you said above about the addition of finding someone to make a priority in along with his daughter. THAT would be a great thing to include!!! Win-win if you ask me!

I can only speak for myself, and I'll quit saying it after this - I promise! LOL I completely disagree with the other opinions about not listing your daughter as your #1 priority. I think that speaks volumes about who you are as a person. And I'll tell you flat out... I find being a good father to be a VERY SEXY quality in…

Ko - I respectfully disagree with the ENTIRE paragraph above. I'm a single mom myself and have raised both of my children (now teens) on my own. I thought it was FANTASTIC that your daughter is your #1 priority... KIDS SHOULD BE! They don't have anyone other than their parents to look out for them. I in no way take that to…

My problem too! All my pics are of the fatter me. Not so sexy.

I think this is close to being right on... I would add that confidence means "You don't have insecurities or doubts" that disable you from being your true self in everything you do. I think we all have doubts, and it's normal for our confidence to fluctuate, but when we're our most confident - we know that we'll come out…

Just looked at your MFP pics... use the one with you and your daughter - SUPER CUTE! Still like the one with you and your sunglasses, standing on the rocks THE BEST (it looks like its also your current MFP profile pic).

Hi Kobashi - here's my two cents... (Can't see the Match profile, sorry) Do you have pics that are more interesting? I LOVE the one where you're down in the rocks - MAKE THAT YOUR PROFILE PIC!!! =) Take out the "I have been on a couple dates in my life and cannot stand the concept of a blind date" statement. That's a turn…

Hi Rich! Here are some thoughts: * You probably want to share some GOOD times too (not just challenges) so talk more about what "good things" mean to you. As well as what you're looking for in a woman. * Delete everything after "working out and keeping fit is important to me"... reframe that say something like "looking for…

:laugh: Ha ha ha ha.... nope, I'm happy to report that I never saw him again. Afterward, that A-hole even mailed my sister AND MY BOSS a letter asking them to get me to go back with him. (I wouldn't read his letters/emails) CRAZY TOWN!

I read research a while back that said kids have to try a food 8 times before they'll like it... I made my children have just a small portion of the veggie they didn't like, or no dessert or second helpings of the other food items. It's a slow go.

You're welcome, honey. One helpful thing this book walks you through is how to be "present" when anxiety gets the better of you. It's an exercise like this: As you feel your anxiety/panic build, take slow deep breathes, concentrating on your breathing and the feeling of your body (if you're sitting in a chair, notice where…

Oh honey, I'm so sorry for what you must be going through right now. Eat to stay nourished. When you're ready, I highly recommend this book called "The Journey from Abandonment to Healing: Turn the End of a Relationship into the Beginning of a New Life" by Susan Anderson. It was my bible for a while. Take a look at it on…

HA! Yeah.... "Please excuse your ex-boyfriend for being an A-hole. He was hit very hard in the head and can no longer be held accountable for being a total douche. - Dr. Strangelove"

I was dating this guy (for a year and a half), we got into a heated discussion while he was on his way over to my house. He never showed up and never called me again... or so I thought... TWO MONTHS later he tells me that he got hit in the head with a rock on his way over to my house and LOST ALL MEMORY OF ME and…

Random - with profile pics like that, I'm not sure I can blame them.

What a jerk! I'm so sorry that happened to you. I'm sure there will be lots of speculation here about what could have gone wrong, but if you ask me - that's a sh*tty thing to do to someone. So unnecessary.

BRAVO! I think you're a smart chick!

LOL. There's that - and having been celibate myself (and I can only speak for myself) there comes the ability to stay more grounded and focused on self-improvement/healing past hurts and breaking previous patterns of poor relationship choices. As difficult as it is to not be sexual with someone, for me at least, it's more…

Butterflies get me into trouble EVERY time. :grumble: I've dated men where there were no initial butterflies, but they did come with time as I got to know them better. Personally, I think butterflies early on usually means T R O U B L E. But maybe that's just me. :wink: