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This sounds a lot like you need to focus on taking care of your mental and emotional needs, if you're cycling through emotions that severely. I started up at 290, and I really had to focus on self care and treating myself kindly before I could deal with the effort of going through with weight loss. I simply could not be…

I went MyBodyGallery, and looked at images of women at my current weight and my goal weight, who seemed to have similar body types to mine. Weight loss has been 90% vanity for me, and I wanted to see if I felt I would like how I looked at my specific weight. I also calculated my estimated TDEE at various weights, from my…

I have the Flex, and since I only really run or walk, it's great! But as I've gotten more serious about running and more curious about my heart rate, I've considered possibly upgrading to the HR when this one wears out. I've never paid my heart rate much mind before, but now I'm trying to make sure I'm continually pushing…

This. I if I buy a tube of cinnamon rolls or biscuits or whatever, I freeze the half I'm not cooking at that moment. I freeze a lot of foods, and buy smaller amounts of things, and make a point of not buying or cooking stuff if I'm not going to finish it. (This means I eat a lot of leftovers for lunch.) That said, I'm also…

I had this fear when I was losing weight after a divorce, and I want to assure you that for the most part, it doesn't turn out to be as big of a deal as you might fear. I've dated two guys since I've lost weight, and neither had anything to say about loose skin at all. I don't know if that helps, but I hope it does. :)

I feel like if you're the sort of person who doesn't need a motivator to keep active, it's probably not necessarily. However, I'd rather curl up on the couch with a book and eat potato chips, so I use the Fitbit the same way I use MFP -- to change, modify, and monitor habits. I'm extremely data motivated, so I use the…

"Many flight physicians" is not a source. Doctors are just as prone to misinformation and outdated studies as any other human; they aren't magical because they have an MD. Even the military ones. Again, if you have recent sources, feel free to share them. I'm guessing that you don't, because the idea that your body can't…

This happens to me when I tie my shoes too tightly. It's habit to string them up as firmly as I can, and it abated when I started loosening them up a bit.

Sources for this information? I don't feel like being "informed" means taking someone's word on it without, y'know, authoritative data.

It's okay to feel angry and frustrated -- I have been there, lol -- but it sounds like you could benefit from not weighing yourself daily, emotionally. I find that weighing weekly or every other week also works in loss, so long as you're seeing a downward trend. If weighing daily is your thing, then you might also consider…

Thanks! :)

I started in 2012 at an official starting weight of 290, and am now in the 190's. I hit 199 in January 2015, and spend the rest of the year bouncing around that range (I hit 190 in the autumn, but haven't gotten any lower). I'm looking to get to 165 hopefully by the end of July.

Watching the scale change can wig some people out, but keep in mind that your body's weight can fluctuate up to several pounds in single day. Some simple advice: * Weigh less often, if weighing daily is stressing you out. More important than your day-to-day weight is the overall trend, and as long as you're staying steady…

Yep, what other people have said: eat lightly, perhaps, but continue to eat as your would for the rest of the day. You'll be over your calories for today, but tomorrow you can look back on the experience and do better.

I actually find it interesting, because these same people wouldn't usually say that about another person at the same weight. It's the same way that people can have harsh internal monologue, but would never say those things to another person. I'll admit that it used to hard to swallow; my goal weight is 165, and it used to…

I hear you. I understand that for some people, the shock of the change works for them, and that they can learn from there how to eat sustainable. But I would have crashed and burned (and did, many times, when just trying to learn to eat 1500 calories, because that was the number I learned in high school) if I had just…

It's pretty rad being with an awesome person who respects both your effort and your person. Well done to both of us. :)

Yes, that. I would seriously reconsider my fiance if he were the sort of person to throw away my things, especially in a passive aggressive, "My stuff is more deserving of the space," way. *kitten* that noise. (We talked about this thread last night, and he was like, "Hey, please don't throw my food in the yard. If I…

Do one thing at a time. I started by tracking without restricting, and then tackled the easiest things first. I started by not drinking calories, and once that became routine, I jumped to something else.

Yep, this. Learning to make the eating conscious rather than unconscious sucks, but the more often you say, "I don't have the calories for this," or better yet, "I have the calories for [one serving, half a serving, etc] of this," the easier it becomes to ignore the food you tend to overeat. My special dudefriend loves…

I remember reading once, ages ago, that treating "fat" as a neutral descriptor can help. Like, I'm a brunette, I'm in my 20's, and I'm fat. These are not statements of worth, but statements of fact. It's hard to do, when the word is loaded and treated as a synonym for any number of unkind sentiments, but it ought not to…

I go the other way. I sag in both the thighs and the stomach, and my stomach doesn't bother me but my thighs do. I think it's because I frame my stomach as normal, since I have a kid. (If I'm in a mood that's bothered by it, if that makes sense. Some days I'm like, "Well, this is your body, and that's fine." Other days I'm…

I've lost a little shy of 100 pounds, and this advice is spot on. I also always advise people to log for a few weeks to assess their eating habits, so that they can make small changes. (Like, first I stopped drinking calories except for creamers, then creamers, and then I started tackling how I structured my lunch, etc.)…

Yes, absolutely. I think disappointment, discouragement, frustration -- there are all normal stops in the peaks and valleys of setting any goal. Either it's not like you thought it was, or you didn't get where you wanted to go, etc. It's okay to feel them, so long as you can then work with and around them, rather than stop…

So, everyone will find a different type of eating that works best for them -- some people need a hearty breakfast and a light dinner, whereas that would make me hangry and doomed to fail. It'll take time to figure out what works best for you, and what your overeating triggers are, and how to plan a day that works for your…

Have you adjusted your calories to reflect your new weight? Are you weighing all of your food, and making sure to log all of the food you're eating, including condiments and additions to drinks? (Creamer in coffee, etc.) As you lose weight, your calorie needs decrease. If you're not adjusting, maybe it's related to that.…

Not exactly. I woke up one day and realized I wasn't paying any attention to what I was eating, and I was finally unhappy enough to really consider what I was doing wrong. So I started with just logging to see what was going on. From there, I took out the easy things. Then I took on the more challenging aspects. I did it…

I feel your pain. I was getting these huge bands (40 - 44, depending on my weight) to get cups big enough to deal with my breasts, and I was always in so much pain. A friend finally sent me to a website that took better measurements when I first started losing weight, and it changed basically everything. Seconding the UK…

I'm not in maintenance, but I totally do that. To the point that it's a little absurd, and some of it is totally unnecessary. Like, I need to clean out my junk food stores to get rid of things we're never going to eat.