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I am a very picky eater, and it bothers me. In some ways it's textural -- I don't like raw vegetables, and cooked vegetables are iffy for me, and usually I only tend to like them when they're cooked with other things. I've never been a pile-of-veggies person, and I used beat myself up about it. Some of it is very tied to…

Hello this is a novel and I don't know if any of it is helpful, but the teal deer of it is that you're definitely not alone. <3 I have anxiety and ADHD, and one of the things I struggle with intensely is the fact that when untreated, my brain desperately seeks out that dopamine hit in the form of food (and spending money,…

You are more than your body and your weight --you are valuable regardless. I started losing weight at 300 pounds and 25 years old. Its daunting and overwhelming and the self-hate you internalize can be unbearable. For a start, definitely call a hotline or text the Crisis Text Line -- you need to deal with your mental…

I would reevaluate my intake, either in how many calories I've allotted myself or in what foods I'm eating -- and I'd probably opt to eat something if I'm having pangs. For me, there's a difference between psychological hunger (I'm bored, anxious, tired, or any of 600 hundred emotions that I tend to eat through) and…

Same on goal weight -- I'm a little under 5'2" and with my overall preferences and lifestyle, I don't think I'd maintain what's considered my "normal healthy" weight range -- somewhere between 105 - 135 pounds.

I was 290 and thought for certain that I could never run. While I never became "a runner," I did eventually get to a weight where running was comfortable and enjoyable for me. Unless there's a medical reason you can't do something, don't rule it out. You can do anything, and you should carry yourself with the awesomeness…

Yes. If you're already having your calories adjusted by a step counting app, then the walk you took was already factored into your calories for the day

I'm about 5'2", and started on the site in 2013 at 290. Got down to 190 for a hot minute a few years ago, and am back up to 250 after finishing school and having had a baby a few weeks ago. :)

Seconding all of the people who have said not to label your food as junk or bad. All food has its purpose. I would also add: don't jump in and change everything about your habits this go around. It sounds like you pushed really hard last time. Whatever habits you try to change, be they food, exercise, or both, make sure…

As other people have said: lift if you want. A lot of people enjoy it and get the results they want doing it.

This. I don't use the Fitbit to calculate my calories anymore*, but rather look at it for data regarding moving. I'm not fundamentally active, and having this small reminder to watch what I'm doing and keep going is really helpful. (* I trusted it for a year or so, and it seemed more or less accurate for my purposes -- but…

Stretch marks are just a part of the human body. Both my ex-husband and current husband have them on their backs from when they hit growth spurts in their teens (both being tall), and a lot of people get them as part of growing. It's better to work on not caring about them than it is to try to find solutions to get rid of…

I started at 300 pounds. It's a slow process, but you can do it. Just take it one step at a time, and make small changes. In my experience, trying to change everything about your eating and lifestyle habits is a recipe for burnout. But one thing at a time adds up faster than you think.

This. I'm just now, after several very "eat all the food" days, getting down to almost maintenance calories. And even that's been hard -- reminding myself that this isn't an overnight thing, and getting back to my normal slowly isn't ideal, but it's better than not having tried at all. For me, a lot of the issue is having…

It doesn't -- I wondered the same thing the first time I did it. Deleting recipes also doesn't remove them from your log. (I delete stuff out of my personalized recipes all the time to keep it tidy.) That said, I haven't checked that in a couple of years. It's possible that they've changed that function, but I can't…

This is what I do. Like, if I cooked chicken with butter and sauces and whatnot, I'll logged each thing separately (7g of butter, 160g of chicken breast, 1 tbsp lime juice, etc). I also leave standard recipes in the recipe builder -- like, I have a potato soup entry, because we make it frequently but it's not exactly the…

If it's something I know the calories are right (or close enough) on, then I just say, "Hey, I know what I ate, this log is accurate." It doesn't matter that the entry says cups, just that I know that I ate one serving of so many calories. If it's something I don't know the calories for, I search the USDA Nutritional…

I was down 50 pounds (from 290) before anyone who didn't know I was losing weight really noticed, and it wasn't until I was down to my current weight for about six months (around 198) before I really felt any different about my body. Like people have said, it just takes time to catch up mentally Also, keep in mind that…

This is all great advice.

So, I started losing weight when I was 290, also a writer who was working at home. I lost about 100 pounds, stopped for a while, and gained about 10 pounds back before deciding I'm not quite done yet. I would recommend starting small; pick out the first and easiest thing to change, and get good at that. I started by just…

They do. I started dating my current husband when I was 240, and I've been 200 for most of our time together (including when we got married). I was even heavier dating and married to my first husband. (We broke up for reasons unrelated to my (or his) weight.) I've also dated men on a wide spectrum of sizes. Size is an…

This is how I read the situation. It's not that the OP is having trouble resisting snacks and food when she's out, but rather than he's buying extra food unbidden and then pressuring her for not taking/eating them, leaving her feeling obligated. If I'm reading it wrong, then sure. I'd agree that perhaps it's could become a…

I'd agree with the people who say that you should try to plan around your dad, rather than trying to plan with him. He's 83 -- enjoy the time you have to go out with him, and let him enjoy feeling like he's treating you. Make the best choices you can without throwing the gift back in his face. Eat less of what you get,…

These are all very pertinent questions. I'd bet activity level is the culprit, if you're consistently under and you're using a scale and don't skip any item that you eat and drink. I had mine set too high for something like three months, and it was frustrating to see my weight stagnate while I felt like I was at the right…

If I may ask, did your doctor tell you that it would specifically cause weight gain? I had a similar question before I started the pill, and the consensus was that it doesn't cause weight gain in a vacuum -- but it does increase cravings and moodiness. I've been on birth control (granted a different style) for two years…

I hadn't read every post and didn't notice it was an old post -- I really need to check timestamps. Sorry about your divorce and the affair. Been there, done that. It sucks, but I'm sure you'll get through it wiser on the other end.

This. (Also, 46 is hardly "a little old lady." At 27, you're surely old enough to know better.) I am divorced, and not addressing my mental health issues was a factor in driving us apart. (Not as large a part as the fact that we were emotionally incompatible and have different life goals, but still. It was a huge factor.)…

This is what I want to know. I'm curious to see what your sources are for this information, and how they came to that information.

I agree with the posters that tell you to eat more if your diary is accurate. I'm the same height and a higher weight (5'2", 192ish) -- and even if I do nearly nothing all day, I can lose (albiet slowly) at 1200 calories per day. (I would go nuts, though, so I do moderate exercise five days a week so that I can eat between…

Yep. It also, 9 times out of 10, helps me keep my mental health more manageable. So, to eat more food and feel more mentally balanced. That's enough to make me like it. Like @yesimpson, I see it as a mutually beneficial arrangement rather than a punitive one. The net effect is the same, but the mental gymnastics are…