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Yep. It also, 9 times out of 10, helps me keep my mental health more manageable. So, to eat more food and feel more mentally balanced. That's enough to make me like it. Like @yesimpson, I see it as a mutually beneficial arrangement rather than a punitive one. The net effect is the same, but the mental gymnastics are…

This. Also, I've discovered that Diet A&W Cream Soda. My tastebuds are really accustomed to the flavor of sugar-free, but there's usually a flat* note to diet soda that I notice -- and I didn't detect that with the cream soda. (* In the flavor, I mean. Not the carbonation. Carbonation is the whole reason I drink diet soda,…

I don't think it's very common for people to think, "How rude of her, to have accidentally eaten late and not be hungry right now." Like, life happens. You could even just say, "I'm not very hungry," and put what's left of you meal in a to-go box. Even if you don't plan to eat it, it may allay people's concern about your…

Nothing is going to be 100% accurate. You can use a TDEE calculator to estimate your daily burn and cut from there. (I think people tend to like this one, but I'm not sure what's in vogue now.) You can use MFP for estimation, though a lot people who opt to do that will only eat back 50% to 75% of what MFP suggests. You can…

You can get them online cheaper, if you don't mind waiting. I got my first scale almost three years ago on eBay for $8, free shipping, and it's still holding up like a charm. (This exact scale, to be specific. I bought a second one last year in an attempt to upgrade, and regret it. The first one is still better.)

I love running into people with similar goals! :) So many people in this height range plan to get much lower (120 - 130), and I respect that choice -- I just can't relate at all. I could probably drop that far if I really pushed myself, but there would be no point when I know for a fact that I'd never be able to maintain…

I know someone who successfully lost weight while taking phentermine; I have no idea how much. It did not change that she struggles to maintain her weight without it, at least to the outside observer. I agree with @MissusMoon that it seems to be one tool in an arsenal, but as with all tools, it doesn't fix any underlying…

I plan to maintain at around 180* and I'm 5'2". I like my body now, and while I had set my new goal lower than that (165), I never intend to get to a point where I'm skinny/lean/fit/whatever the acceptable word is for "small." It's just not a priority for me. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ (* It was my first goal, and where the trend looks to…

I didn't lose weight until I had trackable, actionable data about my food in the form of MFP. While I'm also lazy deep in my heart, I used that fact about myself (that I will respond to data, generally positively) and applied it to exercise. So, I have the Fitbit and some spreadsheets I work with. I still don't like…

No, I'm sorry, you totally misunderstood me: I don't know where in my post you see a passive-aggressive display of victimhood -- and I actually don't give a *kitten* where you saw it, so please don't start to mansplain at me what I meant in what I wrote.

It's absolutely possible talk about systemtic disadvantages to the sexes (both of them even!) due to current patriarchal standards, without it being "whining," or us acting like a "dingbat" or a "child." But I suspect based on your post that you check out mentally pretty quickly when you hear the word "patriarchal." You…

Not to mention my favorite: Ada Lovelace, who wrote the first computer code and was able to compehend the development of the personal computer long before her time.

I am utterly uncertain how to read your post, lol. You're either using hyperbole to say that she freaked out, or joking. I'm, like, 98% sure you're joking, but this is the Internet and I just don't know. :D

This is what I do. Mine is peanut butter, almond milk, a little bit of brown sugar, chia seeds, and oatmeal. I usually eat it around 10am (read: right now, while reading) and I enjoy it.

Do you suppose that, if asked, he would say that she had "dominated" the conversation because she refused to be interrupted by him on several occasions?

Yes. Mansplaining comes along when men talk to their conversation partner as though that person can't possibly be as informed or interested in the topic as they are. They just don't know anything yet. You can inform someone without mansplaining, certainly. But mansplaining comes from a place of, "This person doesn't know…

That said, thanks for sharing your insight! This is super useful information, especially for people who need a primer in grocery shopping. (I could have used some in my twenties, for sure.) The only problem I have with this post -- and I don't know if this has been addressed in the pages herein -- is that $122 is a lot of…

There are a few people who find the constant internal pressure of hating themselves to be motivating -- but I've always wondered if those people are happy with their results, when they reach them. It seems like it would be a recipe for never being satisfied. There's always another reason not to love yourself, after all,…

That people with it will be warm come winter?

I plan our dinners for the week so that I know what protein to take out of the freezer, and to control our grocery spending throughout the week. It also helps me to come home and say, "Okay, we're having X," instead of coming home tired and having no idea what to cook for dinner. That said, I don't do advance prep. The…

Okay, two things: 1. It may shock the crowd to learn that though argumentative, I am a very optimistic and positive person. But I also have depression and anxiety. "a can-do attitude, have-it-all through some self discipline and willpower" is something mentally ill people hear a lot and it's supremely unhelpful. There's a…

To be clear: I said your post was about how you go out of your way to offend people, and you said I read it wrong. Except you literally just said you say it to offend them. Delibrately. That is exactly the point I was making. And these things still have nothing to do with whether a person shaves their pits/legs/etc or not.

Saying outloud that someone smells bad is, in fact, making a point of offending them. I've have maybe twice, in my entire life, smelled people who can be described as "smelling like trash" or "like they bathed in cat pee," and every time they were homeless. Either here in Kansas we breed people with better hygiene, or you…

Can I postpone the adulting, like, fifteen more minutes while I finish my coffee? :) Then I will adult the *kitten* out of my day-job here.

I 100% agree with you on the later -- being an adult sucks. I said as much in my own response; that it's less a mourning for me and more a nostalgia. But as an adult, I'm also allowed to express that this adulthood thing is *kitten* sometimes and I'm not happy about it. I'm willing to concede that my "special snowflake"…

Your initial post was about how you deliberately make a point of offending strangers in public. You are, in fact, an offensive person and I don't understand how you're shocked to learn that people are offended by how utterly out-of-touch and ridiculous your commentary is.

I may be misreading him then. So far he's outside said, "So, why worry and miss out and "mourn" the lack of a couple all out treat days a month? Where's the confidence in your self control?," has called the OP dramatic for their sense of loss -- all the while talking about how much he can eat and how satisfied he is while…

I'd agree with @AceofIvies that it's a wistful feeling -- and less about the food than it is about the not-caring. Not caring about things was great. I also liked in childhood where I didn't care about bills, about my future, or about things beyond my control. And for the most part, the binge foods I used to eat are things…