DetroitDarin Member

aww - Sugarface...so sweet :)

@Riffraft1960 - A year from now you'd be glad you started lessons today @saranne1015 - Yup! It's really fun; I'll learn that a bit, eventually :)

first step - decide being unhappy with yourself hurts WAY WORSE than abstaining from over-eating.

I'm talking about after the new relationship is settled. It's cemented. The spouse/so must always be "ahead" of the kids for the relationship to work. I'm not talking about neglecting the kids - but sticking up for my partner; in face of the kids. I'm talking about protecting and validating. I'm talking about Loving her…

You will be asked how you weigh your food/measure calories in and out? But...I have to ask...How much do you love yourself? What is our self-view? When you look in the mirror or pass a mirror what body do you see? Do you live like you will live after you've lost the 40lbs? Are you on a diet or have you changed life-view on…

Would be great to have folks wish others well and move on instead of proselytizing their faith. It's just fine for you to say "Great! Awesome! Best to you!" instead of preaching at her/him.

Think about throwing that scale away for another couple weeks, okay? I'm at 7.7lbs in two days over 3 weeks. But I know that's a lie because the next day I might have gained half-pound or whatever. One or two week weigh-ins should be good. Having said that, I am super happy for you. SIX POUNDS of fat - if sitting on a…

how about 'knock that sh}t off!' C'mon now. The pain of regret stings worse than the desire for food.

I was asked-out on a date. By a real girl. :)

Dance class 7 or maybe it's 8 last night. Most fun yet. While I was off on some east-coast-swing, the 2 step was super fun. Got some spins and turns down fairly good. Best part for me - knowing I will never have to be self-regulated to watching folks have fun like this. I'm not good yet, but to people my age who are scared…

People like to shame others. Fat folk like to body-shame skinny folk. Vice versa. Looks are vitally important. But so are a bunch of other things. Appearance is important hand-in-hand with Character because that's the reality of life. People want things that look, sound, and are fundamentally good. There's no shame in…

One year from now you will be happy you started today.

Yep, @Louise1491 - But people must want to view people a certain way. If we change our views we tend to risk having to (Gasp!) Change what we believe!! OH NOES!!!111! :-/

@ouryve - I know right? We blame society - but we ARE society. Can only change ourselves...when we want to. When we decide to.

Kaela - thank you for your story. Great work.

Go through the stages of grief. Don't hurry through it. Do not be ashamed nor in a rush to change whatever feeling you happen to be feeling and never apologize to anyone for being where you are in coping. Seek not for closure, but seek for opening - re-opening yourself and your heart to the goodness you find around you.…

If one partner allows it, it's not cheating. It's 'an arrangement' :) No victims - assuming the other person knows the whole story and can decide for his/herself. How have folks dealt with kids from a former and dating again? Generally the woman I'm in love with - not just dating, but once we become a couple - is the most…

aww PUPPIES :) WOOT Aoife and Meatball. Aoife is a Vizsla and Meatball is a beagle-pit mix...maybe some other stuff too.

dude - pick a day every week or every two weeks; say, 0700 every other thursday and weigh then. Call it ThursWeigh if that helps.

thanks - yes. both of those play into this is so much beyond what we do - it's about who we become. We become the person who finds being unhealthy actually more work; we find it unappealing. All that.

Last night on the bike at the gym, I noticed I'm getting a little muscle just to the outside of my knee. There's a slight crease from just beside my knee running diagonally up towards the center of my leg. Sorta turned me on, in a non-sexual way. If that makes sense

excellent. All the best to you!

Are you happy Burrito? I hope you are. Hope that's working out.

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^^ absolutely. :)

@KevinPsalm23v4 Can I share some stuff with you? The breaking point in my marriage was this: Father's day 2012 she said to me, as we were getting ready for a date night, "Darin - you know how you ask me why I never pounce you when you get home from work, and I don't initiate affection and that stuff? It'd because…

No. I am monoamourous. :( Am not involved. :-)

From what you wrote you absolutely share a self-centered view of love. This isnt about high-horses; if you read everyone would talk about the pain of all that - this is about ideals. Trying to punish my mate by insisting she listen-to and validate my hurt is only self-serving. And there's that magic word.. "Cheating". I…

that's a different topic; and I absolutely agree. :)

Cheek :)