AlexandraLynch

I want a custom corset, overbust, in burgundy silk with black Venice lace, and a skirt to match it. That's about an $800 dollar ensemble and something you don't get if your body is still changing. So it's a lovely goal to have met and stayed stable at a size. Plus I think my boyfriend might spontaneously combust to see me…

....is a poser. I do this stuff, and on the one hand it turns on people to this, which is fine, but then it shows them a highly distorted view of how the relationships work, and how to be safe within them. I top, and am into the edgier forms of sadism and control, so I'm not saying this from a bedroom slap-and-tickle…

I walk in my street clothes; jeans, tank top, bra and panties, and various shirts over that depending on season. That way I can hide the ankle braces under the hem of my jeans. I do yoga in my bra and panties and ankle braces at home.

In other words, they give you temporary IBS. And people wonder why there are foods I don't eat at all; nothing is worth that.

I am a 40F, and sympathize greatly. However, three kids past and 40 means they headed south a long time ago. I am resigned to good supportive bras for the rest of my life, and I am also hoping that I can get some weight loss in those too. I didn' t mind being a D cup, darn it!

Pan sear it and serve it with a curry sauce! I adore curry powder and plain yogurt as a sauce on bland things. Actually, that sounds pretty good for supper tonight. (grin)

The gift card idea is not a bad one. I've lived with an impulsive man for years, and we put his gas money on a gift card so that he couldn't spend it elsewhere (before he became too sick to work). What I find is hard is eating low carb when poor. It's far cheaper to eat higher carb things and use meat for seasoning. Adding…

Met husband through friends. Actually, my friend wanted her boyfriend's best friend to have a girlfriend so that he'd stop distracting her boyfriend with guy stuff. Our marriage lasted, theirs didn't. (laugh) 23 years yesterday. Met the boyfriend at a party. Turned around and there he was, and we realized we really really…

It sounds like this is your idea that you are implementing on the family, not their idea that you as a family are implementing. Now, that may be the way you do things, but sugar as an addictive substance shares this in common with others; you aren't going to get anyone to drop the addictive substance by force. I understand…

For my husband, who started his diet at 350 pounds: 1) His mother taught him food was love and reward. She cooked Old Southern; everything fried in tons of grease with meat flavoring all the vegetables. Good food for a man going down the mines, but not so good for someone inactive. AND then.... He played football and…

I also candy apples. You want a really good apple for this; I like Courtlands. Make a heavy syrup (1 cup sugar/1 cup water) and put cored eighths of apples into them. Peeling is not necessary. Cook over a very low fire, just to boiling, then put in the fridge and soak the apples in the syrup for two days, stirring…

Spin with a hand spindle. It uses a lot of arm muscles, and when you're done you have a strand of wool yarn you can ply with another and use to knit or crochet something. Plus it's very meditative and soothing.

Straw cups and Mio is my answer. Plus redo things so it's easiest to get water rather than something else. I have a 32 oz reuseable cup with a straw, and when I'm surfing or writing, I tend to drink vast quantities of something... better it be water than anything else. Fortunately our tap water is good, so I just drink…

I have a Green Man on my back as a full backpiece, and a white horse in a celtic knot on my right thigh. Mine show in a bathing suit, but not in a tank top and bermuda shorts, which is how I like it. I got them for spiritual reasons, and while I'll show them on occasion, I don't usually. I look very ordinary in my street…

Getting my corset tightened down. Having my feet played with. Gods bless neural crosswiring is alllllll I've got to say about that. NOT feeling bloated and sick after eating a meal; how was eating that much ever an enjoyable sensation?!

I don't have that problem, by and large; my husband has his bag of chips per week and I have mine, he has his sodas and I have mine, and since neither of us likes what the other eats, we have no problems.

You're right about cheating. That's why I have a weekly free day, not a cheat day. Many of these changes I intend to keep for the rest of my life, though I am being very careful now in order to keep a deficit.

soft nails, hair texture and breakage, and a huge difficulty initiating anything. I mean, even getting up out of my chair to go do the dishes or whatever. It's not that I don't have energy or I hurt too much, I just can't actually get up and go do.

I weigh weekly and measure biweekly, so for me rewards are just the satisfaction of knowing I'm this far down, etc. I will probably reward myself with a new off the rack corset when I can close my old one and rotate it smoothly on me, though that's not a numbers thing. The flexibility and the energy I get are for me daily…

There is no reason at all you can't have a small slice of cake IF you allow for it in your calorie planning over the course of the day, and you make it a small slice. Almost anything can be worked in in some form, and it makes living on the diet for several years (which I will have to do to lose the weight I carry) much…

As I can't do a lot of fruits (which makes me sad), a thing that has made the diet easier is that there are little 120 calories tubs of ice cream in multipacks. So as I am talking to my heartsister and watching TV in the evenings, I can have a little ice cream, and it feels slightly indulgent and has good resonances back…

I use my kindle for traveling and medical appointments. This way I always have something to read, and it's light enough to hold onehanded when I am hooked up to a machine for an hour. I'd long wanted a way to put my library in my purse, and here it is. Downside being that most of my books are still paper, but I am going to…

I do love a nice utilikilt, or a leather one. Friend of mine has a black leather kilt, and it is profoundly hot. I want my boyfriend to get one, but I'm going to have him lose weight first, so like my planned corset, the kilt comes after the weight loss.

Anything that breaks the rules he and I have agreed on is cheating. Of course, the rules we have agreed on let me have a boyfriend and him have all sorts of fun times at the swing club on the weekends. But we still have rules, and each of us would be quite upset if the other broke them. However, as we've been together…

I started out doing very tight portion control, and shrank my stomach. I know now I can't eat the quantities that a lot of people do without feeling very ill. (Do it once or twice, and you will NOT want to do it again.) That does rather solve the buffet issue. I find that the problem I have at other people's houses is more…

It helps to eat throughout the day. What I use is 300-500 calories per meal, and 100 calories for snacks. I eat breakfast at seven, snack around ten am, lunch around noon, snack again around three, supper around five, snack again around seven, and go to bed around midnight. This works well for me and lets me get used to a…

It's kind of a mixed bag. I can understand where someone who enjoys a moderately attractive lifestyle and has that with his wife for the first year or two of the marriage feels cheated when she stops doing the active things they enjoyed, puts on weight, isn't giving a damn about her appearance, and doesn't want to have sex…

A steak dinner out with my men, and a massage from my boyfriend. But not til we get paid, and boyfriend's work schedule is compliant. (sigh)

Slept surprisingly late (of course, had deep tissue massage yesterday) and have been doing laundry and wasting time online,lol. Probably a quiet afternoon of doing various small things round the house, then going with my husband to the club, meeting my boyfriend there, and having a very good kinky evening indeed. I know…

Good bras for the well endowed with a larger band size (I am a 40F) for exercise. Agree with zippered key pockets, phone pockets.