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See - right there is my problem. I don't want to make a quick decision that I later regret... but I also don't want to lead him on if my feelings don't end up changing. I DO plan on talking with him about it, and soon... just don't want to hurt him.

Thank you. I thought about it a lot... and really didn't feel that them meeting my "friend" would damage them no matter what happens later. This is the first guy I've dated since my divorce, so it's not a situation where I'm parading people in and out of their lives. I really do feel he's a good guy... I just don't know if…

I don't want him to give up his jobs... I just guess I don't see the point of working so much if you don't enjoy it, and don't seem to have specific goal in mind.

It is far less the actual number of hours that he works (I have kids, that keeps me plenty busy, too) than the fact that every time I talk to him he mentions how exhausted he is and how stressed work is making him. It's not one job with OT, it's several different jobs with varying demands... he is as busy as he wants to be.

bump... did anyone else initially have doubts, but ultimately were glad they gave it more time?

lol... you just described my ex.

lol... see, that's the thing - it's kind of in the middle... he's unlikely to be filthy rich, but he does well, which I know is a huge push for him to work as hard as he does. It's just that $$$ isn't everything, right?

I absolutely get what you are saying... I debated quite a bit about him meeting my kids, but they are older and knew I was talking to someone a lot - I know them and feel like they are big enough to handle whatever happens. And yes, I will fully admit to posting this topic specifically to get answers... I really am that…

^^ see, that's what I'm wondering... and why I'm so torn. I just don't want to regret my decision (either way) later... I think the thing that really bothers me is not that he works so much, but that he then constantly talks about it, and how stressed and tired he is? If you're that stressed and tired, how is it worth it?…