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When you use a term that is intended to hurt, demean or dehumanize a whole group of people, it is directed at THE ENTIRE GROUP. For example, the reason "that's so gay" is considered offensive is because it makes "gay" a synonym for "stupid", and thus implies that everyone who is gay is stupid. That is offensive to a whole…

And what exactly is wrong with being female? Why is it so much better to be manly? This is exactly the kind of attitude that drove me away from doing anything associated with being female when I was younger; I didn't wear pink, play with dolls, like makeup, want to carry a purse, or wear a dress. If being a man is so much…

It would be outrageously offensive if people regularly said things like "I want some fried chicken - no nig." It uses a stereotype and a shortened version of a seriously offensive term. It is equally offensive when someone says "you're looking good - no homo." It's a derrogatory and completely unnecessary comment and…

Because COSMETIC surgery is optional, and being gay is not. Debate it all you want, but there's a huge difference between shelling out a boatload of money to buy a bigger bust, and knowing that you just don't feel the same way about the opposite sex as you do about the same.

Calling someone "bro" (even if they pronounce it wrong) is NOTHING LIKE using a derrogatory term.

I picked up on this, too...

Same here. I think it's worth talking to your hubby and figuring out why he feels this way; maybe, as another poster suggested, he's worried about your health as well as your comfort level and trying to find the mid-point between the 115 pounds that your doctor recommended and the 160 pounds where you feel comfortable. If…

Yes and no -- and here's why: According to the BMR calculator, I (a 22-year-old, 5'2" tall, sedentary female) would be able to maintain my current weight at 1647.75 calories/day. If I don't eat dessert or fast food, I can't eat that much in a day anyway, so eating around 1400-1500 calories isn't that depressing for me.…

On the community page, there's a search feature. Look for "1200, and why it won't work." When I started losing weight, I started at 1200 - but now I'm not losing any more, and I can't cut any calories or I'll be starving myself -- and I'm already hungry at 1200 calories. Read that post that I told you to search, and the…

I graduated high school in 2009, and the only people I see wearing PJ's out of the house are people in junior high/high school (under 20 for sure). That isn't to say that there's anything wrong with wearing PJ's out, just that I personally see it as something that kids do. As long as you're not guilty of "indecent…

Sadly, people do instruct their children to say such things, by setting the example that it's okay, or by laughing when their child does it to someone else. Since these people are so selfish, the only thing that affects them is when someone says it to their child. I'm sorry to anyone who has had to endure hurtful comments…

Yup! I haven't gotten any creepy/pervy messages here, but I second that. If there's a wife and kids in the picture - and I don't JUST mean the profile picture - don't waste my time. Besides, this is a fitness site, not a dating site; I didn't come here to be hit on.

[/quote] [/quote] The reality is, marriages fall apart for a number of reasons. Some people get divorced to get away from their controlling/abusive spouse, others to get away from a cheater, others still due to lack of communication...Brittany Spears got divorced after a drunk marriage...what *some* people really need is…

YES! THANK YOU!! This is the philosophy that I was raised with. It really is the best way, because everyone gets what they want as long as nobody is getting hurt (or forced, coerced, or oppressed). Unfortunately, so many people seem to have a hard time accepting other people and beliefs. I really appreciate what you said;…

And, on the opposite end of the spectrum, I've never cheated on anyone, would never cheat, and still think you should all mind your own business. I think it's sad when relationships collapse due to infidelity, and I also think it's wrong for people to do something that would hurt the person they're supposed to love -- but…

I couldn't have said it better. I would offer you some flowers... :flowerforyou: ...but people might think we're lesbians -- and we all know that relationships between two loving, consenting adults of the same sex is part of the reason that people have no values and marriages are failing. (That is the ONLY time I will ever…

Well, if you're asking OPINIONS, I'd rather be overweight than give up milk, cheese (and grilled cheese, pizza, etc.), and yogurt (which is very healthy and helps with digestion and stuff). For me, that means giving up dairy is not a sustainable weight loss method. Giving up bread wasn't [FOR ME], either; I don't know why…

Five pounds is 17,500 calories, so unless you are sleep-eating hamburgers, milkshakes and cheesecakes every night, chances are good that you did NOT actually gain this weight. Many times, weight just fluctuates. I'd say 1-3 pounds is average (I've read that a person will be three pounds heavier in the evening than he/she…

Congrats on your good fortune...although, based on your posts, I'd guess that you're the controlling/abusive partner. Your posts are completely insensitive, disrespectful, closed-minded, rude, and bossy. My parents both have friends of the opposite sex, and neither one has felt the need to try to CONTROL the other one by…

It's not the OP's fault that "alot of men are sneaky *kitten*"; y'all should learn some damn respect. You need to understand that, no matter how "sneaky" a man is, there are women who will say no out of love and respect for the man they're with. It is possible to talk to other men - even other men who are trying to get…

I agree. You shouldn't have to give up anyone or anything, especially things or people who were a part of your life before he was. In most cases, your friends will be your friends forever and through everything. This guy, sadly, might not; I'd hate to see you push away all of your friends to make him happy, and then have…

^That, right there. I'm a straight female and I have quite a few male friends and coworkers. I'm fooling around with NONE of them. NONE. They are all very lovely human beings with great senses of humor, a few of them are attractive, and several of them are married. I have a lot of respect for them though, and think of them…

You obviously care about this guy's feelings, and like him well enough to accept a proposal to spend the rest of your lives together; I know you don't want to break up, which is why you need to have a really deep and serious conversation before you set a wedding date about whether or not you can work around/through his…

Way to get in on the topic, buddy. If you have a problem with vegetarians/vegans, or people who don't like watching other living beings suffer, you're welcome to your opinion -- but the OP asked for opinions from vegans, not people who are anti-vegan. I wasn't vegan, but I was vegetarian and ended up using a lot of vegan…

Nice catch. :flowerforyou:

This looks cool, definitely interested...!

"Honey, I love you so much, that if your eyes ever fall on another man - even by accident - I'll have to kill you both." Jealousy is not love; it's a combination of a lack of trust, a lack of confidence (or a surplus of insecurity), and an excuse to play controlling games to mind-screw your girlfriends into submission and…

This is a social website where people (who usually don't even know each other) support one another on their efforts toward self improvement -- in other words, you do not have to justify, nor do you owe anyone an explanation, for COMPLIMENTING someone on their success. If "Random Person" is actually with the guy you…

I'm really digging Wyler's light drinks...they come in packets and you make it like Kool-Aid, minus the sugar, and it's only 5 calories per serving. So far I've only tried the pink lemonade, but I just bought regular lemonade and a red one (possibly cherry?) to try.

Home schooling is so different for everyone. I was home schooled for 3rd grade through 9th grade. It was the best seven years of my life. I had more than a handful of close friends, and a small group of extremely close friends. I have not made as many friends or bonds as strong in the seven years since. My parents, who…