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This is a difficult disease to work with, since we can't just "stop" eating. We've got to find the right foods, in the right amounts, to provide the nutrition that we need, and we have to do that without succumbing to those urges and desires to use food for something other than providing that nutritional value. Like you,…

For me, the last phrase resonates. "...give up pleasing people just to gain approval." At some level, I have always tried to please others. Because I was not able to see my own worth and value, I sought to get approval from those around me. The only way to get that approval was to perfect, as defined by everyone else…

Yay! You're doing great!

I really can't say it any better than GrokRockStar. Hey Brandy, as a fairly new person here myself, I still feel exactly what you are saying here. To realize that I wasn't alone in what I was doing and feeling was liberating in and of itself. To see that those that have come before me have found a way through to a more…

Isn't it amazing how attitude can really help to shape the outcome? This is awesome, thank you for sharing your successes!

I'm struggling with this a bit, too. I feel like I've been wasting time my whole life in getting to this point. Now that I'm here and have started working to figure out what caused my compulsive overeating, I want to have everything fall neatly into place in short order and wrapped in a pretty bow. Intellectually, it makes…

YAY! This is a spectacular feeling, isn't it? I thought I would have a hard time with this, but I'm finding that most days I don't have the urge to binge on my triggers either. I'm glad that I'm not the only one that can experience that, since it feels like such a fantastic shift in behavior. Congratulations on making it…

Learning to accept my shortcomings is going to be long process for me, and I think is central to my recovery. I have noticed, though, that my level of anger at the world in general has decreased since I found this program and started to allow myself to be "good enough", instead of needing to always be perfect. The other…

I struggled a bit with this one, in trying to relate to the message. Being fairly new to the program, I wondered what I have to offer another compulsive overeater. Then I remembered hearing in the meetings that there is value in hearing from both the "newcomers" and the "old-timers". Much like many other things right now,…

Welcome, Brandy, thanks for introducing yourself. Congratulation on a strong start, keep building on that start one day at a time, just as you said. I'll be sending a friend request your way.

I'd be open to joining a group like that.

This is one of the things that is exciting to me as I get further along in my journey. Right now, I don't have a lot of self-confidence, but I'm working to change that. As my self-confidence grows, I hope to be able to enjoy putting myself "out there" a bit more and try doing things that I know that I don't do well or have…

Wow. I was JUST telling someone that, for me, this process is one day at a time, and sometimes one decision at a time. I like the idea of being able to shape the future. In the past, I've reacted to what was happening to me as a way of living my life. The realization that I can instead act on my life, and live it the way…

Good question. Being that I'm new to the process, I'll be watching this thread and looking for tips and tricks that others use.

I used to weigh myself daily, and am finding it hard to cut back to only weighing monthly, which is my approach until I get closer to a maintenance weight. I'm a bit of a data junky, and I had been trying to supervise my weight based on that daily number. Good day...alright! Success! Let's celebrate, what's good to eat…

I am just now beginning to realize how much I was guilty of not recognizing when I caused others pain. As I mentioned elsewhere, I caused enough pain for my wife that she has now moved out. It has been hard for me in the past to own my behavior, to own my story. I recently realized that I didn't like the person that I had…

This is exactly where I am right now. It is no longer my primary goal to be skinny. Instead, my goal is to understand how and why I have been abusing food so that I can stop, and treat myself and those around me better in the process. If I'm successful with that, I expect the weight loss to come in time, but I'm no longer…

Welcome, Strong_Heart. As a newcomer myself, I will echo what GrokRockStar said: you can find support in this group. Stop in again when you need some, or have a little extra to give to someone else.

Welcome, Wanda..

Wow, this hits home for me. What a powerful statement.

Hi, and welcome! Here are a couple of suggestions that I have. These may work for you, or you may need to keep trying to find the way that is right for you. I'm fairly new to this group, but from what I've seen so far, there is a lot of support here if you want it. I'm also fairly new to recognizing my own food issues, so…

That is fantastic! You have just shown yourself that you CAN make it through a day. Take a moment to celebrate that success.

I think I know what you mean with this statement. I'm in the process of exploring for myself why I don't think I am deserving of good things, too.

GrokRockStar and I have been communicating a bit privately after my last post, and she asked me this morning how I feel today. I typed up a reply to her, but as I read through it, I thought it would be a good post for everyone to see here, in case it might help someone else quietly going through the same experience, or…

I also have identified a fear of success as one of my "things". I don't know what to do about it and I don't have any words of wisdom for you, other than to say that you are not alone.

Thanks for the link to the podcasts.

Well, if this is truly an addiction, I think I have just hit my low. My wife told me last night that she is moving out, and health issues related to overeating were a significant contributing factor. I looked at the "Is OA For You?" list. I was able to answer "no" to 8-12. I hope this plan is my path, because I am feeling…