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Lol! It's not, it's true :) Sure, it can get to be mundane after a while, or at least integrated enough into a routine that it ceases to be special and exciting. (Though I've got a perpetual case of that f-around-itis problem where you redesign your program a million times, and each time is game-changing, lol.) I just feel…

Hunh! I'd heard just the phrase but never bothered to read about it. As far as the wikipedia article goes anyway, it actually sounds pretty decent! For some reason I always figured it might have something to do with like an ab machine, or meal replacement shakes or something like that.

This is the get-stuff-done answer, and I kind of agree, no reason he has to know what you're doing anywhere. However, that means you're going to have to hide your logs in your locker, & read & watch instructional vids when he's not around. That kind of hiding would not be something I could live with, in any case, but…

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Ugh, yeah you got the right advice (& yeah it's normal). Love dogs, but don't miss owning one.

Yeah stay out of it if you want to keep them. as friends, let a counsellor handle that. Usually when people cheat it's cause stuff wasn't great before.

it'd just be a sneaky way to help ppl think about wth they're doing w each other/get them off the hook/distribute guilt/responsibility for breaking up when things are awful as they SO OFTEN ARE. could be a form to fill out & stick in a drawer. but YEAH i love government (for social democracies), I am pro having…

Cons, general: BORING, people didn't live past 40 until really recently, sticking with the same person for a super long time is hard bc we always want novelty. ^ risk of staying when no one's happy because of sunk costs Pros, general: having someone there who knew you when, a witness to your life over time; sharing…

Ha, I love unlikely human names for animals, cracks me up. If I had a dog, I'd call it Larry, whatever its anatomy. Trevor is a great name for a JRT.

Yes, people can/have twisted the theory of evolution as they have every other construct or theory, and yes every system of thought will serve power, but some ideas in science (earth = round[ish] ) are probably more right than others (earth = flat). Hate is an inescapable part of the deal, there will always be differences…

It's reminiscent of that nasty PUA or whatever stuff that was controversial a while ago. (btw I would be very surprised if any of that has worked often enough to justify its apparently large audience of 'nice guys'. The guys who are good at that kind of thing are natural, spontaneous predators.)

This is so good to hear! Gut logic is bang on. ALWAYS listen :) (Wish I'd learned that earlier, myself.)

Wait, is this from some kind of actual playbook?

I think he's probably into you, but, still a deuce bag (have a strike, being careful). Because he's been acting completely without regard for anyone else's boundaries. Plus some of his lines are super cheesy. Maybe you've had a bad relationship, I understand feeling cagey. But I think here you showed a healthy respect for…

I'd say you dodged a bullet :)

No, there are hot guys everywhere, forget it. The only conditions under which this would be acceptably safe for you, imo, would have involved you being, probably, slightly shadier than you are. Like, if, it happened to be objectively true that his relationship with his ex was already long-dead and they both knew it & were…

Turned down a party to study, but really, I'm procrastinating. Should have just gone to the party.

quiet, but fast

This is the best list so far. Every one would be fun to yell. Faves: Otto, Fritz, Ludwig, Garth.

I didn't know that, about alfredo sauce being american, will try the original version sometime soon. My regular, I guess, american alfredo is just a little knob of butter, & a bit of greek yogurt (warmed by tossing into cooked pasta over heat, not boiling it or anything), salt, fresh pepper - no parm. Generally if I want…

Well, that's one way to go I guess. But you're pretty much guaranteed to keep feeling the way you do now: always annoyed, deprived, or eating over your goal. Hard to stay motivated like that, no? For me, regularly not making my goals makes me take them less seriously, too. (I'm playing with my settings a bit too, as my…

1450 might not be right for your activity level; look at your TDEE again. Shoot for 100 cals more for a week, maybe?

This makes up for the half of MFP I ignore and shames the rest with its gloriousness. :flowerforyou:

Absolutely right. Anything that doesn't just feel like a general, symmetrical challenge-related strain should be listened to. Even if it's tiny, like a little twinge. Take the time to figure out what it is before pushing through.

:) I kind of want to hear the chemistry joke...

I know you got food, that's great! Just guessing you're probably not going to hang out with them in the living room, and thinking a movie might be more entertaining than listening to them and fuming. Although, it's not like there's a lack of entertainment right here, that's true.

This thread is 3 train wrecks... OP: since you're not leaving the room tonight, I guess, try to distract yourself from their bull and your stress about it, and relax. Put some headphones on if you have any and watch a movie or some standup online. I hope you figure things out. If work's not happening in this town, & you…

He is inappropriately applying standards that make sense for experienced adults to little kids, and is unable to see their responses, to empathize with them, because he feels he's 'correct' in principle. This is evidence of a rigid, idealistic thinking style, often associated with perfectionism and a pessimistic,…

So far, it's been true that most people regain weight lost. There are lots of very discouraging stats on this. I think the idea in the quote above is, 'it's impossible to lose weight long-term, why bother, overweight people have to live with themselves somehow'. BUT, those stats mostly refer to 'diets', and people going…