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I have done both. Quite frankly how it works out depends on both partners. If you work as a 'team' and work to both of your strengths (whatever that may be) then either will be wonderful. If you mean by 'doting' being loving, try to see to your partners needs and wants then I had no problem being the 'doting' wife. He had…

This is called team work and it is, in my opinion, a wonderful way to go about things and to make part of a happy marriage.

Hahahahahahaha.......wow......no.

I had the same problem. Every day walked in the back door directly into the kitchen and went right to the cupboard or fridge. I changed my routine and came in the front door and avoided the kitchen until time to make supper. I also would graze thru the supper making process so started putting gum in my mouth before I even…

So you aren't blind now. Does he still deserve more and more second chances? What about you? What do you deserve? I too have a hard time letting go of hurt feelings. It has caused me to eat to swollow and numb those emotions. Mostly because the hurting was still happening and ongoing daily. That has stopped now and I am…

So very true! You are lovely. Be kind to yourself. You are more then just what you weigh. True beauty is inside and when you find that in yourself it will shine on the outside. Take one day at a time. If you stumble then speak to yourself the way you would to someone else, to a friend....start over with the next meal, the…

Wonderful advise! Not much more I can add. You are worth so much more then the way they have treated you. As someone else stated here if someone was doing this to one of your friends, someone you cared about how would you react and what would you say to them and to the people mistreating them? You should defend yourself…

I disagree. At this point since several of her family members have been affected by the same conditions he has a right to be very concerned. This isn't about her losing some weight or being prettier. It's about her health and her life. OP I think you need to sit down and talk to her frankly. At this point she may need an…

Excellent advce. If you are cooking healthy meals (that include something she likes or will try) then only make the healthy meal. It will be for you and the children. If she would like something else then she can do that.

It is wonderful that you want to be supportive of her and try to help her in a kind and loving way. I think the first step is to maybe sit down with her and tell her what you have said here (even showing her this post), that you love her and you want her around for you and the kids for a long time. That you are scared for…

I agree with this. Otherwise you will be up and down the rest of your life. I've done the diet shakes and restrictive diets. When you reach your goal or just get so tired of doing it that you can't stand it anymore then you return to previous eating habits and weight gain. You have to change your eating habits and how you…

Does working in an ER and being trained as a mandatory reprter count? Trained to see abuse from children to the elderly. Key words and phrases raise red flags- 'actually tells me not to discuss our problems with other people and always name my best friend or mom in particular' is but one. Where ever she can find support is…

Well said get10fit2013.

I was exactly where you are for many, many years. I also was that strong person. Over time, bit by bit, it gets erroded. You don't even notice it at first until one day you wake up and wonder what happened to that woman I liked? Where did she go? Stop it now. Don't wait 20 years like I did. I have seen the comments here…

I am so sorry you are going through this. What you are discribing is controling, verbal abuse. He is not being 'helpful' in anyway. The fact that he is trying to isolate you by telling you that you should not confide in others, especially you best friend and your mother, is a big red flag! Prior to your surgery he was…