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That it's a transformation, a process, and it takes time. That overcoming the mental part is far more difficult than the physical mechanincs of weight loss. That there is no finish line, so whatever changes you make you have to be able to live with for life. That I really am doing the best I can, and I need to be able to…
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No one tells you that - As you lose weight, you'll also lose some friends... BUT you'll gain new ones! - Your EYES will look SO much bigger in photos! - Some friends and family, who don't see you often, will still think of you/remember you as the big one... so when they mistake the larger brunette for you in a Facebook…
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In hopes this helps you both, I will share that I went through a period where I felt like this. I actually saw a counselor about it, as my self-loathing was getting worse and worse even though I'd lost a lot of weight and kept it off. This turned up some very significant underlying issues, and I spent a year actively…
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Oh, and despite being 10 pounds over my "goal" weight, I really love how I look. It's not necessarily about the scale number... ;)
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^^^ THIS. At this point, you are at a healthy weight. If you are going for a more toned LOOK, I'd suggest focus on weight training - lift weights instead of cardio. That will change how your body looks. Most gyms offer a free session with a personal trainer, it is worth checking out. I am still 10 pounds from my goal for…
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Yep. His comments weren't nice, and it's unlikely that he really meant to hurt you, but they did. It will help you both in the future if you let him know that a particular comment made you feel badly.
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I'm also one of those types who thinks motivation is a second to DETERMINATION. Motivation is unnecessary for something you really want (or need). If you're really thirsty, it's not motivation that pushes you to the faucet to get a glass of water. You are DETERMINED to quench your thirst. Something that helps me focus and…
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Hi! The good news is, at your age, your metabolism is actually on your side. Losing weight in your twenties is much easier than in your 30s! You have gotten a lot of good advice. I will add that I am curious as to how are you figuring out the calories you burn on your walks? The best way to accurately measure your calorie…
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DH and I will do "happy hour" at our gym, either a weights workout or a spin class, and then go out to dinner afterward (I always make better choices at dinner if I workout before it!) Our gym offers childcare... Ballroom dance is a fun suggestion. We did that and loved it.
