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Exactly. I have refused drinks if I wasn't interested in the person who sent them over. Because women who accept drinks from men with no intentions of even talking to them are wrong, too.

So the time I got scared because a guy said, "Come here, b*tch, I'm going to make you suck my c*ck" and I got scared, I was just being a petty feminist? I'll remember that the next time someone says something obscene and threatening to me. Thank you for the lesson! It was so valuable! But, please, share your wisdom -- what…

First of all, no, it's not against the law, so I can't tell you not to do it. I can tell you, though, that if you want women to not be intimidated by you, it's probably best not to do that. And how is that off-topic? This whole thread started with catcalling!

"I really like that dress you're wearing today" is polite, unless you say it while licking your lips or doing something else disgusting.

You really don't get it, do you? You can look at women. You can smile at them. That's fine. Don't look at them lasciviously, don't holler at them from across the street (unless you know them), don't say something obscene to them, and if you're going to approach a woman with the intent of flirting or asking her out, do it…

Because she is not walking down the street so that you can look at her. When it's part of culture that it's okay to do that, it sends the message to both men and women that women are here primarily for men's pleasure. And that contributes to rape culture.

Seriously? Hitting on someone is walking up to them at a bar and asking if you can buy them a drink, or something similarly non-threatening. Catcalling is yelling something at a woman and being threatening.

Catcalling is not the same thing as hitting on someone.

Not a teacher any more. Whoha seems to think street harassment is funny, which I comprehended when I read all the "lol"s he was typing. If a woman consents to sex and then later accuses a man of rape, that's a terrible thing to do. And I have no idea what you mean when you say you doubt I have this problem. I've never…

Exactly. Don't have sex with someone who wouldn't consent to sleeping with you while s/he was sober. ETA: There have been lots of advice to women in this thread about how to not get harassed. Here's some advice for men who don't want someone to falsely accuse them of rape: Don't have sex with people you don't trust, and…

Are you typing those "lol"s reflexively? Or do you really think this topic is funny?

I think one reason why the guys aren't getting it is because a lot of women have had an experience where a guy yelled at them, they ignored it, and it escalated. Even if a guy yells something as benign as "Hey, sexy" at you, when you know that if you ignore it they might start calling you worse names and get up in your…

It probably depends on the catcalling. "Hey, sexy!" is not nearly as threatening as "Come over here, b*tch, I'm gonna make you suck my c*ck." Both of which have been yelled at me, by the way. The first was uncomfortable but not so scary, the second one made me legitimately afraid.

Men do this to women because they feel that women owe them time and attention simply because they're women. Respectfully approaching a woman and flirting with her is not sexist. Hollering at her on the street is. How many men get harassed on a street, even in a non-sexual way?

She got catcalled and harassed because she was a woman. Chances are those guys wouldn't have done it to a man. That makes it sexism. Check out the Twitter account @EverydaySexism for more examples. It's horrifying and disturbing, but it's important that everyone realizes that this still goes on, and it happens no matter…

Do you really think they'd do that when it meant a loss of advertising dollars?

Free speech does not mean free of consequences. Again, "Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the government for a redress of…

First of all, A&E probably would lose considerable advertiser dollars if they left the show on the air, because companies wouldn't want to be associated with those opinions. Second, it was not a First Amendment violation, because A&E is not the government. I'm just going to keep posting this until people actually read it.…

Source?

And you are well within your rights to organize a boycott of the channels you don't agree with. Or, better yet, organize a boycott of companies who advertise on shows/channels you find offensive. Because that's what really makes these kind of programming decisions; advertising dollars.

Without fear of backlash FROM THE GOVERNMENT. Last time I checked, A&E was not the government.

Which of his rights have been violated?

"Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the government for a redress of grievances." *sigh* Maybe read the First Amendment before you…

Just throwing the First Amendment up here for a little bit of edification. "Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the government for…

He has the First Amendment rights to say it. But freedom of speech only protects you from government intervention. It doesn't mean you can say whatever you want and have no consequences. A&E isn't part of the government, so they are not infringing on his First Amendment rights by deciding to stop producing his show. Just…

I'm running my first 5K that morning. No idea what I'll be doing that night. Probably nothing.

I think they must be hiding.

Maybe I should have asked, where are the men in my city?

Clarissa Explains it All

I'm not a genius, but I consider myself fairly intelligent, and I only seem to attract guys who are barely literate. Where are all the smart men who like smart women?!