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OP here ... I wanted to let things calm down before I posted final reply! :smile: I received more advice and insight here then I could've ever imagined and I appreciate it all ... even the sarcasm! :wink: When it comes down to my situation I decided to be intimate w/ a man that I wasn't committed to for two years, but I…

Thx! Is this unusual on this site ... LOL! I'm amazed definitely :)

I'm not saying that I hate him , he's the worst guy ever ... just wanted to make it clear to him it's NOT okay for him to treat me like he never knew me and disrespect me when out in public like that! I've always treated him w/ respect, been honest & upfront w/ him over the two years and just b/c we weren't in a committed…

I know I made my own choices w/ regard to the first day we met until last Friday ... no guarantees & no obligations from either side and I get that! All I know is that I needed him to know I knew he ignored me and it wasn't okay ... I have absolutely no intentions of contacting him anymore about ANYthing going fwd! For me…

Yes, I've had enough ... know I can't change him and me sending him that last text was not for that purpose! I guess something I had to do for myself ... regardless of any outcome. I AM DONE!!!! :smile: I am ready for the next chapter in my life ... chalking this up to a wonderful sexually gratifying experience and knowing…

Stalking him ... NO!!! We met at that bar, we met through my bro-n-law who bartends there and I haven't been in there in a while. We both knew eventually we would be there on the same night ... that was a given. I think if we made eye contact that night I would've smiled, but just seeing him walk right by me w/out a word…

Well ... yes :blushing: No, it was more of the emotional security I felt being w/ him. He made me feel very secure sexually, made me feel very sexy ... something I had no idea I was missing and needed as a woman ... :smile:

As I sat there watching him walk right by me ... I KNEW he saw me or else he would've taken another exit route and I would've never known. Nothing would've ever been said on my end ... :)

Thx! I know I deserve better ... I want better!

Hi y'all it's me ... the OP! I just want to thank those that took the time to reply w/ advice and/or insight into what I posted on here. I have read each & everyone and I never thought in a million years it would be 14 pages strong ... yikes! I am going to work hard each & everyday to learn from this experience that I put…

I AGREE!!! i have to respect that about him ... I was shocked and hurt and I have nobody to blame for that but me!

I guess I knew deep down that he did see me, chose not to acknowledge me and out of my own curiosity I had to see what he would say when I confronted him w/ that. Him calling me "sweetie" and apologizing kinda gave me the impression that he is trying to maintain that "glimmer of hope" ... I'm not his backup plan ANYMORE!!!

I can see him doing this too ... being very "Hi sorry to bother you, but just wanted to see how you've been?". I fell for it thinking he's being cordial cause he's my "friend", but really he's being sneaky trying to "scratch that itch" for sure. Now, I am on to this part of the "game" and I pray that I hold true to my new…

Glad to hear that you were able to move beyond your fwb situation and in a happy place in your life! This situation I am dealing w/ has def made me think why I chose to settle for 2years ... insecure, low self-esteem, unresolved emotions from a very brutal break-up from my child's father??? I was so angry and sad for so…

I think when I ended I was so emotional & didn't realize everything I was coming to terms w/ him. He heard me loud & clear though and I guess actually seeing it play out right in front of me ... Yes it all hit me! This forum has been so what I needed ... I'm moving in the right direction!

I guess that's what they meant by "crazy" on here ... Telling him good-bye & I'm ending all, but being butt hurt when he chose not to say hi to that someone who said bye! I guess I wouldn't have minded if he over road my decision ... At least in that moment!

Hmmm ... My bro-n-law could be holding back some info you are so right on! When he found out about him bringing a girl into his work he didn't tell my sis or me & that's cause I asked about him. I was like "why would you wouldn't you divulge this info to me immediately?" They said cause they know how much I care for him…

I like Steve Harvey, so it should be a great read ... Thx for suggestion! I have to accept that b/c if he truly did he would've done so much more to prove otherwise ... Simple actions! How exciting for you to be w/ a man that is excited to be w/ you, so opposite of what's happened right? I pray I get that soon ... I've…

I don't have absolute proof, but where him & his buddies sit, they see everyone coming through the bar. That area has perfect view of where we were sitting, but no not 100%! He had three options to walk out & he chose the one to walk 3feet in front of me ... He said he "honestly" didn't see me & apologized.

You are right ... I am hoping that a friendship is there, but it's not! I am making the choice to have him out of my life completely, will not respond to anything he sends ,,, as long as i still have these feelings for him. I need to heal & totally walking away is only way to do it now! My closure was seeing him literally…

I wasn't happy w/ our situation at all and instead of bringing it up one last time, I just went w/ the flow of him contacting me and going from there. I know I made it easy for him cause I didn't put any demands ... I'm not blaming him for this. I didn't want to have drama in that way, so maybe a part of me didn't want to…

Yes I do ... more then I ever imagined when I posted my situation to this site! In a positive way though ... it's all good! It was totally meant for me to deal w/ what I saw Friday, opened my eyes even more to what's right in front of me! I do need to heal myself, not punish myself for what I chose to allow, learn and grow…

I hope for not much longer ... :)

In the end, especially what happened Friday, I definitely see what I ultimately meant to him and I didn't want to believe it at all! Saying it out load hurts ... but I know moving on and not replying to any contact from him going fwd!!!

Okay people let me clarify something here ... I am NOT EASY!!! I'm not claiming to be a saint, but I just didn't meet him that first night, do him and just see each other once every three months for sex! We talked about each other's families, kids, work, we've met each others friends, went out for drinks. Sure, it wasn't…

I love it! I thought that about Jennifer Aniston myself, how can someone so pretty, rich, etc be cheated on and ultimately dumped ... WTH!!! She's human though and she might've had her "bad days" ... she just was able to vacay in Mexico LOL!!!

I have allowed his actions get the best of me cause I do pick & analyze why or why not and it's not getting me anywhere. I have to start thinking that maybe this is who he is, his character and no matter what i've said or done or not said or done, he would've shown the same kind of actions! Honestly, your are so right ...…