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This is what I say: "You know, I think it's incredibly rude to offer unsolicited commentary on what other people are eating." Most people are so shocked by honesty that they just stop talking at that point.

Burgers are not BBQ. Hot dogs are not BBQ. Brisket. Sausage. Ribs. Pulled Pork. That's BBQ.

In all seriousness, you guys can't be that freaking clueless about how to talk to a woman. Be confident, be polite (truly, y'all have no idea how much you will stand out just by exhibiting proper manners), don't be a pervert (in your manner of speech or your demeanor), and don't be an *kitten* if she is not into you. Take…

Our company's official dress code actually does not list a single item of clothing that is considered acceptable or unacceptable. It basically says "Try not to be a moron, but if you are pretty clueless about what constitutes 'business casual,' see your supervisor."

Based on this thread and the one you posted yesterday, I can't figure out if you're a troll or just really lonely. For crying out loud, there are dudes all over this site. Pick some, message them, and see if anyone bites. Alternatively, you could take a slutty pic of yourself, make that your main profile pic, *kitten*…

Single and no kids, which helps a lot. I also just prioritize it over things like happy hour and television.

Without knowing how much you are eating and what kind of lifting program you're on, it's impossible to know whether or not you are actually adding any muscle at all. But I agree with the others that you are probably not anywhere close to the calorie surplus and lifting regimen required for a female to "bulk up."

Probably 3 to 3.5 hours of lifting, maybe an hour total of HIIT, 6 or 7 hours of walking/hiking, and about 3.5 hours of foam rolling/stretching/mobility work. So 13 to 14 hours a week spent on some form of training.

I believe appearance is a consequence of fitness. People who worry about coming "too fit" because of how it is going to make them look are really unattractive to me. Someone who doesn't want me to be as fit as I want to be because of how it will make me look is similarly unattractive to me.

Was I the only one who thought "implants?"

I don't feel sorry for the groom in these situations. He knows what he's getting into. People don't just turn into self-absorbed, narcissistic, sociopathic *kitten* overnight. If he marries her anyway, he deserves everything that comes his way, including losing half his stuff when she divorces him.

I went through this. Buying clothes that were too big, not wanting to wear certain things that revealed the changes in my body because my eyes had not really caught up with reality. It was almost like going through puberty again, in a way. I suddenly became very aware of (and very paranoid) when people were looking at me.…

I haven't read all 4 pages, so this point may have been made already, but some context regarding your goals is necessary when determining a nutritional strategy. I lift heavy weights, and I am not a person who is noticeably hungry (i.e. so hungry that that it's disruptive to whatever I'm trying to focus on) very often, so…

Yeah, just act like a 5-year-old. That fixes everything. He suspects you've lost interest in him and in your marriage, correct? You're not going dispel that notion if you throw a temper tantrum and refuse to even consider why he has such a problem with this. If you want to show him that you love him, that you care about…

I'm not against vegetables, in general. What I am against is people telling me "Do this. It's good for you." I'm not a child; I'm an individual with my own likes and dislikes. As long as I'm paying for my own food, I'll eat whatever the hell I want, and I'll not care what the sanctimonious masses have decided is good or…

I went grain-free for about a year. I was really, really annoying. I vote that you put your foot down.

You know what I think is childish? Whining about being unfriended by a random Internet person. Few things about this site annoy me as much as all the hand-wringing over being deleted from someone's friends list. Even posting the names of people who delete you so that the rest of your friends can tell you how much better…

The Outlaw Josey Wales and Gran Torino are my favorites.

Agree with all of this. I'm 5'0, as well. I know where you're coming from. When I first started lifting, I honestly thought I could just ask someone on the Internet how much weight I should be using, but I quickly learned that everyone starts at a different point. I agree with the recommendation to go easy on the weight…

I don't like the use of the words "disgusting" or "gross," but let's face it; there is no way to say you don't find those body types attractive without coming across as demeaning or critical or negative. And I realize these competitors are not driven by what other people find attractive, but that is the heart of this piece…

I agree with Jeff. You'll never stick with it if you're doing it for other people. It requires a tremendous amount of dedication and sacrifice, to say nothing of the actual work, and your motivation has to come from inside you. I've been where you are, wondering what it feels like to be "done." When I first started here, I…

Introverts tend to be more open with people they meet online than people they know in real life. That's definitely true for me, at least until very recently. There is a ton of stuff that people on here know about me that a lot of my IRL friends and family don't know. My family expects certain things. They expect me to be a…

I love food. I will not even try to act like people shouldn't see food as a source of pleasure. But here's the thing ... when you get more happiness from the food you eat than from the things you are able to do and the people you have in your life, you need to seriously re-evaluate what you have going on. It is possible to…

I last tested my back squat 1RM in December after a 12-week powerlifting program and got 237.5 lbs. I've been doing 5/3/1 since then. Hit 225.5 x 6 yesterday. I would estimate my 1RM to be in the neighborhood of 250. Tested my front squat a few weeks ago and got 200. It's my favorite barbell lift.

This is an interesting thread. Perhaps because I am female, I have a different take on it. Different men are attractive to me for different reasons. I don't really care about anyone's specific body fat percentage. A man's body is a signal to me about other things. Lean arms and legs, for example, send the same signal to me…

I've been obese. I'm not sure why I am supposed to feel any particular sympathy for obese people and the challenges they face. I don't understand why their struggle to lose weight is any more important or noteworthy than anyone else's. The fact that we're expected to treat them differently is part of the problem. I'm not…

If you're someone who truly busts your *kitten* to be as good as you can be at whatever it is you do, then I want to hear about it. I want to learn whatever I can from you. Doesn't really matter if I'm currently a stronger and/or more experienced lifter than you. If you're giving it your all, there is something I can learn…

You can always convince yourself that you're "tired." Unless you are severely sleep-deprived or sick, I can think of few activities that should exhaust you to the point of not being able to work out. Do your warm-up. If, at that point, you legitimately feel that you are too tired to do your workout with proper form, modify…

I will answer questions when asked and point people in the right direction if they are in need of resources, but I'm not the type to constantly be on someone's back about achieving their goals unless I can tell they are making an effort. I can remind you that you want it and why you want it, but I can't want it for you.

This. Having separate interests or wanting to be alone from time to time doesn't equate to keeping secrets from each other. I'm an introvert. Being alone with my thoughts keeps me from going BSC on people.