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Not as many with decent plus-size selections around me, but it's been awhile since I've looked. Always worth another go! I'm currently going through my closet to donate the stuff that isn't going to fit again anyway, so I'll be making a trip!

I 'gained' 6 lbs. following a two restaurant meals (meals which were pre-planned to fit within my calorie goals for the day, I might add). I typically 'gain' 5 lbs. in the four days before my period. I can easily fluctuate 2-4 lbs depending on when I weigh myself, how recently I've eaten/had something to drink, what I'm…

Oh, and for the record, both my husband and I now work out at night after she's in bed. Our schedules simply don't allow us to do it at any other time, unless we were to get up at 4:00 am, and neither of us are willing or able to make that work. I'm generally running at 10:00 pm, but that is when it works.

I'll be very honest - the newborn phase is hell and survival should be your primary goal right now. I expect you have a fair amount of interrupted sleep and that will greatly contribute to your tired feeling, even if you are still getting a cumulative equivalent amount. My husband was a wreck because he can do ok on only 5…

If you want to use TDEE-20%, then yes, you need to change it from sedentary to whatever option most closely resembles your workouts. Otherwise, just use the MFP method, which records your exercise and gives you an additional calories allotment based on your recorded activity for the day. The benefit to TDEE is that you…

For the OP - there are so many types of birth control out there! I can't speak personally to hormonally based BC, because I've never been allowed to take it (concerns with some family history and effectiveness at my weight, and now I know I have MTHFR and don't care for increased risk of clots). But going off hormonally…

Vasectomy reversal is usually much easier than a tubal ligation reversal. Tubal ligations are generally much more invasive and difficult to reverse and require IVF if reversal fails (though I suppose IVF with TSEE is required if a vasectomy reversal fails). While that's not my path, I feel for you. It's tough to be…

My fitbit factors daily expenditure and I've found that it's been right on par with the online calculators, without BF%, fwiw. I think you've gotten some good advice - see how this works out for a few weeks. GL.

I have a desk job too, but when calculating TDEE, I set it to moderately active because I (usually) walk ~7,000 steps a day and work out 3-5 hours a week. What calculator are you using? TDEE accounts for ALL exertion above BMR, and there should be some option that fits your lifestyle.

Quick answer - one can be obsessive over anything, particularly if one has an obsessive personality. What you describe, to me, falls more in the hyper-awareness category than the obsessive category, but only you or a professional psychologist could accurately answer whether or not it is genuinely obsessive. If it feels…

I'll use some round number as an example. Let's say your BMR is 1300, and your TDEE for a lightly active lifestyle is 2000. You want to eat at TDEE-20% to lose fat, right? That works out to 1600 calories. If you were not using TDEE, then you would eat 1300 calories every day + whatever exercise calories you earn through…

Your TDEE should be taking your current lifestyle into account, so you do NOT eat back exercise calories. Your exercise is already factored in - which is why it's higher than your BMR.

" However, if you love someone, shouldn't you try to do the best you can for them?" Define best for them. There's the problem. My mother tried to talk to me about being healthier and losing weight - and all it did was strain our relationship. Her concerns were grounded in health and science and love and care. But it didn't…

Treadmill, elliptical. I started Couch to 5K once, but life interfered. Right now, I do a few things - Wii Fit for awhile nearly everyday (but I had to lose about 30 lbs before I wasn't too big for it), jogging/walking intervals, and high intensity circuit training with body weight in lieu of weight training (google 7…

Yep. My TDEE on low activity days is still ~2400, which is right in line with the average from online calculators. If I hit my steps goal for the day, that'll easily get me to ~2800-3000 per day, and so on. I love it because it's a lot more accurate for me and I adjust my calories accordingly.

Without reading any responses - yes, of course I've felt that way. I started at 350 (possibly more) lbs. Talk about a depressingly long journey. When I started, I started with a Whole30 challenge - not to lose weight, though I hoped I would - but mostly as a challenge. It's pretty straightforward mind over matter stuff.…

I move around the same amount, regardless of if I've eaten or not. My lifestyle as it currently exists doesn't allow for me to eat dinner before 7:00. I frequently eat something after I work out (around 10:30) if I'm too far below calories. I'm still losing efficiently, and I don't feel guilty for eating late. Eating a…

Carry on as normal. If you feel ok eating a bit less, that's fine - calories can fluctuate on a day to day basis. If you worked out a little longer, that's ok. Just don't be punitive to yourself, because that's a terrible mindset to engage in (and reminiscent of binging/fasting cycles which just aren't healthy for you…

At this point, I would refuse to engage on it. You are a grown women, presumably, so I would just take the approach of ignore or repeat responses. "You are starving yourself!" "No, I'm eating plenty of calories comprised of healthy and nutritious foods." "You can't be eating enough." "I'm not discussing this with you,…

I have a lot of feelings about this. It's very hard, when you have something in your life that you believe is enhancing your life and it is not embraced by someone you care about. But while health is very important, in my mind, when it feels sticky, I insert another situation and see how I would go about it - like…

You are losing fat. The scale just isn't reflecting it yet, which can be due to plenty of things - normal daily fluctuations, a bit of water retention, slight higher sodium intake, hormonal shifts, need to evacuate your bowels. . . You have measurable progress, literally. That is all you need worry about.

"Actually really thinking about going to the doc. If I have a problem like dehydration it needs to be address. I will probably go if the weight doesn't come off in the next week or so. Was reading only that much water retention is a sign of a heart problem. " ^ That, plus your statements about weighing in before and after…

The problem might be that you are taking in more than 1490 - are you measuring foods or just relying on packages and guesses? It can be shocking how off some packages and measuring cups/spoons are in regards to actual caloric intake (to the tune of hundreds of calories per day, depending on what you are eating).

When I was in the grips of Binge Eating Disorder, I had no control over myself. I would feel sick, and not even really want another candy bar, even as I was opening it and putting it in my mouth. It was directly tied to emotion for me, not to anything physical. A lot of things in my life were out of control and eating was…

Generally, I'd say yes, you are too low. I have personally found that I lose weight most steadily when I eat to Fitbit based TDEE - 1000 calories (but I'm also over 300 lbs and can safely lose 2 lbs per week). I guess my question to you is - how are you feeling eating about 1500 calories per day? What are your goals for…

The other thing for me, and this is so effing cliched at this point - is that weight loss is a lifestyle change. I no longer diet or do anything I can't do long-term. So I eat sweets and treats and fast foods. I have cut back significantly to what I used to eat, I do very frequently opt for fresh, whole foods, I have…

My serious answer to your question is that it's hard because you aren't ready yet. Your mind says you are ready, but emotionally you aren't. Which, you know, is ok. It took me YEARS to get to a place where I was ready, and there wasn't a big triggering event. There were several times I *felt* like I *should* be ready, but…

Something that works for you may not work for me because of your own unique history with foods, emotions, and weight loss, and because of my own unique history with foods, emotions and weight loss. Or, to simplify - YMMV. I don't use the cheat terminology for the reasons already stated - I'm not cheating. I'm not doing…

Everyone has already given great advice, but I will only say one thing - lower fat milk may not actually be helpful. I know opinions are split on this and reducing unnecessary calories makes sense, but the fat present helps absorb the vitamins milk provides. It's actually more beneficial to eat/drink full fat dairy, imo,…

I don't think I've ever been asked that in real life (online, yes - which sounds more skeevy than intended). I have been asked how much weight I've lost, because at 40 lbs, it's definitely noticeable and it's no secret I"ve been trying to lose weight. I'm at the point where it's just a number, so I don't mind sharing,…