malavika413 Member

Youth in the sense that life was fun till then. Now it's just sort of dragging on. Well, at least I don't have a mortgage to pay or kids to feed--yet.

My boyfriend doesn't make me dress or act a certain way. I simply dress conservatively and avoid acting flirtatious or sexy out of respect for him. It's just one way I show my love. I also feel wearing baggy clothes will distract any male attention I might get (not very much in the first place).

Never mind that comment, I was speaking out of exam stress. It's difficult being at a college where you're academically, emotionally, socially, and physically behind all your peers.

The point is, I'm really not all that young. I'm an adult and I already hate it. In 10 years I'm going to be even more jaded.

Am I the only one that hates this line? I already feel old and dried-up. My youth was ages 0-12, and I miss them dearly and enjoyed them at the time they occurred.

Thank you! Honestly, I was a bit worried at first when I heard I was the only Indian person BF had ever met, but he accepts me and my culture just fine! Now, if only I can accept his...he keeps trying to get me to try mashed potatoes and gravy, haha.

No one here wants to date an Indian girl. I have actually heard "You're cute, but I don't do darker girls" and "Don't your parents have a 45 year old lined up for you?" I think the second guy was joking, but it stings. If current relationship doesn't work out long-term, I'm moving somewhere with more diversity.

Same thing happens to women, too. I've had a few guy friends in the past that tell me I'm cute or pretty, but when it comes down to dating me I'm either too chubby or too ethnic for them. I'm just glad I've found the guy I want to marry, so I hopefully won't have to deal with that BS anymore.

Unfortunately I'm not what you'd call 'adorable'. I'm just sort of lumpy and awkward. Not exactly the partying type. I don't look good in party clothes, anyway.

Strong women can be feminine. I just equate my own femininity with not being able to lift heavy objects. I like the fact that I need help, so I decided strength training would detract from my personal femininity.

That seems a little judgmental. I happen to like needing help with lifting heavy objects. Granted, boyfriend thinks it's kind of silly, but I'm sure if I started lifting he'd feel slighted as a result.

Thanks for your advice! Now to get my boyfriend to tolerate lentils and beans, haha.

I've heard prices are much higher in Europe, though. I'm on a very limited budget and am wondering which options are cheapest and are most versatile.

To each her own, I suppose.

Congratulations on your very strong eight year old. I'm happy the way I am, thank you very much. I've learned to like being weak and feminine.

I'm sorry, but I call BS on that. I'm 19 and I can't carry 15kg, let alone 22. I refuse to believe an 8 year old girl can carry that much.

I'm open to any and all cuisines, so long as they are budgeted and don't involve red meat. I'm a very picky eater, so I'm reluctant to try the local food and I'm hoping cooking my own food will be a good alternative.

It's hard enough to find interested people, so I'm not going to add an age limit as well. Why would I deny anyone based on age, attractiveness, etc?

Hi! I asked a similar question a while ago, being a female college student with the same insecurity. I was told New Rules of Lifting for Women is very useful, and the ebook is free online. I eventually decided not to try lifting, but that was my decision. Good luck!

Me! I'm an avid knitter!

I don't have a scale at college, so I only can weigh myself when I go home (every 5-6 weeks). Ideally I'd weigh every week, but I don't have the money for a scale and my friends would probably assume I had an eating disorder if they saw me use it.

My roommate eats a big bag of Fritos every single day...and she's a size 0 Russian model. So not only is she gorgeous, she's skinny. It's a huge blow to the ol' self esteem, but I'm learning to deal with the fact that we have different caloric needs.

Full time student, and I don't exercise (but that's more out of personal preference than lack of time--though I am very busy). Good luck with your goals!

Man, sometimes I wish I could live in the 90s. I don't own heels or any skirt shorter than knee length. But if I showed up in a giant sweater and jeans, my friends would likely laugh. They all rock little sequined dresses and sky-high heels.

Probably my favorite response. Thank you! I think I am worrying too much. BF has already given me his blessing, and I am yearning to have some fun here at college. Here I am, done with homework, with absolutely nothing to do. It's so dull.

I'm just sort of afraid of missing out, I guess. I mean, I never played sports as a kid--I feel I missed out on that. I never learned to dance (which is really fun to me)--I missed out on that. I've missed the boat on so many things, I don't want to regret even more...

No, there are plenty of boys at the parties. They just have to be specifically invited by the hosts. I don't think or expect I'll be hit on, that would be very pompous of me.

I'm trying to get out more to the extent my comfort zone allows. Staying in every weekend doing homework and watching movies has gotten dull. BF prefers activities that he can do alone or with just me, he's not a fan of large groups. Which is perfectly fine--I don't want to drag him to a party.

I realize it sounds silly to some, but I agree with him and respect his choices.

Nope, he doesn't. He considers it infidelity. But I think that's besides the point.