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I can relate to this having lost 85 lbs... and debating to lose 15 more. For me, I know with 100% certainty I look a lot better, but sometimes I still see fat Kim when I look in the mirror and become critical of parts of me that still need some work. IE why do I have to have inner thigh flab, my arms have some flab, god I…

I'm a little saddened... I read 'I love cake' and was all disappointed when it was in fact coke! lol!

I'm off until the 22nd in about 30 mins... I am off to Mexico on Sunday, yay!! Gotta get me a pedi here, and my son is getting his cast off. Tomorrow I have a birthday party, then I will be soaking up some sun!

Asking the 3 questions had nothing to do with finding out if he likes you... it was more based on asking the hard questions like 'why did you and your wife divorce?' becuase everyone is going to paint the story a lot nicer than it really was... ie my ex told me him and his wife grew apart and she left him. Come to find…

I agree with this Anna... with other areas in my life I am the same.. I have something building up inside and just want to let it out!! And I do, whether it be family, friends, work related, etc. I guess I just learned for me that with my ex's, sometimes it just better left alone :)

Anna, for some it's a 'power' balance... If you are both quiet, then noone has power... the minute someone texts the other one they have given up their emotional power and are left wondering/waiting if that person will respond. Almost torturing themselves if you will. For me it's easier to just not do it, and keep my…

Nolachick - I don't have the book in my possession, so I can't quote it for you... (sorry) Basically the first time you ask a question - ie why did you breakup? the person will paint themselves as the victim. Then you can word that answer into another question a little deeper, and they generally will tell you what you want…

We all go thru this!! My assumption is you are probably remembering the good times and have fond memories. If you feel inclined to text him, and know you shouldn't/don't want too... I would remind yourself of why you broke up...why texting him won't do anything for you (he is dating, do you really want him back?), etc.…

I don't think age matters (or sex really for that matter). I don't quite understand it before you meet, if you are actually serious about meeting, because you don't even know the person...you may not like them, be attracted, etc. I think some innuendos are fine after and you have established some interest, but I think…

I think it depends how long you have dated... if you have dated 6 months then get to know eachother and see what happens! if you have dated 2-3 years and wanted an imminent proposal, then you have to reavaluate where you stand in the relationship, what you want, how fast you want it, etc. and be prepared to walk.

Sounds very genuine, but you have known him a lot longer... for people who have read Steve's books he is suggesting you find this stuff out in the first 90 days... he has a lot of 90 day 'rules'

I have read both of Steve Harvey's books, and I agree with both of the other responses. I can't deny he has some key points on how to set boundaries, etc. some of this 'theories' are not for me. In 'Straight Talk, No Chaser' (I think this is the name) he does say how to ask the same question 3 different ways to get the…

I agree! I also agree about the context - if it's some guy at the bar I may take it with a grain of salt, but I think I am far from nasty so I own it!

I'd miss Calgary if I lived in SK too hahahahah jk!!! I actually love Calgary.. never leaving!

Calgary, AB!!!

Oops! well, I work in healthcare so I guess in some regards I got lucky too. This year we got like over double last year becuase they warned us we might not see one next year.

Assuming it's because all our fiscal year ends were March 31st!

I am going for a tummy tuck consult in June. I had twins in 2005, not only were they over 14lbs, they did a number on my body....including seperating my ab muscles. My fear is that once this is corrected I will become more judgemental of everything... so I figured I would ask him to quote getting a boob reduction/lift too…

nothing wrong with naughty ;) That's what you SP tell me anyways! lol!

Congrats! I got mine yesterday and I almost fell off my chair, I better live up to it too ;)

I had a fantastic day! - Yesterday I got a nice raise at work! - I am meeting a new MFP friend for lunch tomorrow - I am going to a birthday party on Saturday - Going to Mexico on Sunday Such a great week :) Hope everyone else has a great week too!

I agree Anna... In 2011 my first online dating boyfriend (lol) dumped me via text, I was horrified and somewhat naive that people actually did this! When I met my kid's dad we didn't even have text!!! So going forward from that situation I said I would do my best not to touch on such a thing in text, and I made sure to…

I also love Anna's outlook, the knight on the white horse made me LOL!!!

Maybe I shouldn't say cool/chill, maybe I shoudl say I was too accomadating...

haha this was the old Kim... I've been trying to change all this ;) I learned in my last relationship that sitting back and trying to play it cool (cool in my terms, not in others) just caused alot more resentment and nothing had changed. I was still upset with the lack of my needs being met, and he just got all he wanted.…

That's what I did when the guy said I was f*ackable, he was back pedalling and FAST!!!! he probably fell off his bike and got ran over by a car.

Interesting... There is a true story out of my town that a man met a women at a restaurant here where they had met online. After (or before?) he got into her car, and there was a man in the backseat that shot him to mug him. oops! that's probably a deal breaker! scary!

The last comment would rub me the wrong way, but that is just me. Firstly he has never met you, and even seen if he was attracted in person so how can he say that? That's a deal breaker for me. Once I was texting with a guy, and I noticed he was actually active on my profile as we talked, jokingly I said 'how do I look?'…

I agree, I am not offended to be asked out in text.... atleast they asked you out! As a single parent I get the time constraints.. I don't mind texting either, but I think I am realizing that texting has caused some misinterpretations that could have otherwise been avoided, if we just took the time to talk on the phone....…

You are 100% right. I don't doubt your comments for a moment. I spent most of today analyzing how me, myself, and I felt, and I realized a lot. I've never been in this type situation before, I have never moved forward from my past, still highly affected by something. I don't think I even realized how much I was affected by…