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Although, I have to say I'm uncomfortable with the concept of "goal weight" because it implies before and after components to this journey. I know for me that the only before and after is BEFORE: not eating well and not exercising, and AFTER: from the time I started eating well and exercising until I can't do either…

Two things: buy a tuxedo and go on the Grand Canyon mule ride.

Absolutely not selfish. Many of us who struggle with weight have focused for so long on taking care of others that we don't have a clue how to take care of ourselves. By taking better care of ourselves we can take better care of others--simply feeling positive about ourselves is one way of taking care of others. Studies…

Completely normal! Some folks recommend weighing yourself only once a week. I am unable to do this, but it happens quite often that I don't lose weight for three or four days. The cartoon posted here is absolutely on point.

Dieting definitely affects my breakthroughs. I'm having to be careful about losing weight s.l.o.w.l.y. My seizures are partial complex with occasional generalization. I used to eat to manage nausea, but nausea meds that I have now have been a godsend in that area. At 50 years of seizures (my eegs show nonstop spikes in…

You inspire me! The stuff about "dieting" helped me understand why I hate it when people ask me about my diet! It makes so much sense after reading what you wrote. I knew after one week that this was going to be the way I lived now and that it wasn't about dieting. I know that one can eat really well and do fine without…

My grandmother spent a great deal of time teaching me to be what she called, with her Richmond, Virginia upbringing, "A gentleman." I remember her telling me rather pointedly once, "One never remarks under any circumstances on a person's weight." Weight, she explained, is a personal matter. To tell someone they've lost or…

You are my hero! Thank you, sister, for living your authentic self. Just know there are thousands and thousands of us out here rooting for you and believing in you! Sometimes we don't know how lucky we are.

As a community, we do suffer more from depression and anxiety, higher suicide rates, and lower self-esteem. That's been researched and documented as one poster here has pointed out. In *addition* to all that, we have the normal psychological problems that the human race is subject to, and non-cis, non-hetero people, et…

Labels like gay, straight, bi, trans, genderqueer are tools that help us, sometimes, discover and describe who we are. The important thing behind what they do is the need we all have to live our own truth. You do not have to be queer, trans, genderqueer, or anything at all until and if such a designation helps you live…

As the French say, Bingo!

I think any real Christian who reads all of the Bible will find him or herself sickened by the parts that endorse genocide, when God commands armies to kill all the men, women, children, and animals and then punishes them for not doing so. The use of these texts for many of us is to understand in a horrifying and deep way…

Thanks for these wonderful responses! I am a researcher. When I was in college and began my running, I started by walking slowly 1/20th of a mile. Every day I added another 1/20th until I was walking a mile. Then I started slowly running 1/20th of a mile and walking the rest, and every day added another 1/20th. I increased…

Thank you so much! It's really wonderful to wait for a response and then get one days later. I will definitely look at these. Best wishes.

You are going to look so fabulous! Better prepare!

Sometimes analysis is best. Sometimes just telling our stories is best. I'm an older gay man without much more to think about in terms of my sexuality than what Proust calls "My me." But I'm thrilled that young people, in particular, are recreating the landscape and showing me through a political, social, cultural…

I have a couple of thoughts that may be helpful but understand they may not be at all. First of all, I think this is not only about size but also about a culture where women are devalued. As we move at a glacier's pace toward equality, some men use any excuse they can to perpetuate a threatened culture of hating women. In…

Thank you, Carson. It is the only thing that makes sense.

Thank you! Made my day.

A cheat day would do me in. Just because I'm wired that way, not because there's a way to do it right and a way to cheat.

Thank you for the inspiration! I feel encouraged!

I absolutely agree. I love junk food. When I eat it I love it more. Pretty soon I'm stuffed and still hungry. So now I eat a lot of whole grains and beans and a ton of vegetables. If I feel like going out, I go to Subway and get one of their 6" low-fat sandwiches. They're really quite good. I'm not eating dairy for now.…

You got this.

Chast is the best. Except maybe for Alison Bechtel...

When are you planning on running your marathon? It's been years -- like 36 -- since I did long-distance running. I'm sure the "science" has changed a lot. I would agree with a previous poster that pacing is hugely important. Slow and steady wins the race, as the old saying goes. At least with respect to the first half of…

My husband is 6'3" and looks like a scarecrow--well, a really handsome scarecrow. He eats anything he wants, huge amounts, and never gains weight. The trick is, though, that he never eats anything he doesn't want--I think. It's a mystery to me. The only problem is that he has continuously made fattening food for me and…

I am a gay Christian. What does that mean? It means I have a religious, ritualistic (rites and worship), and spiritual (prayer and devotions and meditation) practice. What is the value of such practice? Only this: does my Christian practice help me to treat others as I would have them treat me and not to treat others as I…